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Why a woman approached me for the first time in my life.

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by iaj, Jan 2, 2019.

  1. kingbob3

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    Day 21.

    “Gratitude Erases Negativity.” - Steve Harvey
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    Cheers! Its an achievement. 3weeks of meeting my goals. Today I want to be grateful to this NF forum.
    I was not at all expecting that I will make this far this particular time, I knew someday I would. I have been following NoFap for more than 2years and yet the most successful streak of mine is 65days, and lot of sporadic streaks of 20+, 15+ and even 30+ etc. But since last few months I was stuck in this perpetual loop, after every 3days I did a relapse. I think my wiener also got thin all the energy depleted and I was frustrated, just because of failures I met few months back, I was feeling down and dejected when I started drowning in this filth.
    I was fed up with this loop cuz deep down I knew more I did a relapse more my self esteem and self confidence would go down, I was ashamed of the category of porn which I watched, I could not pursue my goals and I was feeling worthless. The only thing good I was doing is working out and eating healthy.
    So my mind was like, this can happen to someone who knows everything, who is eating healthy, hitting the gym. The answer is Yes, we all are humans, we all are vulnerable at times and simply having the knowledge is not enough you have to apply it too. It was a bad phase. Its gone now, whats the proof its the number next to the day counter. So I would like to thank this NF forum cuz I knew about journaling helps but I never did it. If you go through my journal initial posts you will get an idea that journaling was not my plan when I started my journey, but it helped me a lot and I have a hunch that this time I am stronger in my journey than all the previous ones.
    Let me explain how journaling works, every morning I spend few minutes typing, which gives me a feeling that through out the day I need to stay clean so that the next day I can write more. It gives me a feeling that I might be improving someone's else life, maybe someone is struggling though the day with all these urges and that guy reads my posts gains motivation and fight the urges, this gives me a sense of responsibility. I might be creating an audience who read my posts on a daily basis. Now this accountability really works, in a deep root level which gives me courage and strength to fight my own battles. Thats the reason why my posts length got increased exponentially. I know my morning is my day, the quality of my morning will decide the quality of my day, and my day is my life, and thats the motivation I want to improve my life. I want to be level 10best in every area of my life.
    Now, after 21days I am strengthened to fight my forthcoming urges and flat lines, so technically I am used to with this amazing habit of celibacy and not consuming any filth in any way. That does not mean that I become lax, and start consuming stuff slowly, NO. I need to be more disciplined to stay on track and release my surplus energy in a progressive way. I need to be aware of what I want from this REBOOT process. I want to -
    1. completely transform my thinking process.
    2. increase my self esteem by doing things which I am supposed to do and avoiding things which are downgraded and have been depleting my self esteem through the years.
    3. increase my self confidence so that I become adept in whatsoever my intentions are and become a warrior to overcome my battles.
    4. increase my self worth by becoming legendary best in my skills which earn me bread.
    5. completely remove any type of sexism and objectification of women. Through my self confidence I will be able to have healthy conversation with women without any filth in my mind, they are humans only.
    6. achieve whatever I decide to achieve.
    7. increase my overall vibes so that I allure other people and socialize with them in a healthy way.
    8. increase my physical strength, so that I can develop abs and good physique.
    9. increase my mind sharpness, so that I can learn skills make money and multiply it.
    10. increase overall quality of my life, so that I am aware of every breath I take, I want to live in the moment and enjoy it to the fullest.
    Now what I desire, I can totally achieve them. After my successful mental reboot, all the memories will be erased of all the content which I have consumed over the years on day 66, and on the day 90 I will be developing the maturity that even by chance if I get to consume an explicit content by chance I will refuse to consume it, cuz brain will always want dopamine, I will give it to the brain but from entirely different source. I choose to do whats right as opposed to whats easy.
    Again Motivation without action is frustrating. Today is just 21st day, next target will be day30th, then day50th then day66th and then finally day90th. Patience, Perseverance, and Persistence are the key. Zero tolerance towards any explicit content. Still I would ask people those have achieved a fully mental reboot kindly help me and elevate me to your level.
     
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    Most motivating and inspirational story after my small streak. I want to achieve the same aura and energy which will flow from me and attract people towards me.
     
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  3. iaj

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    You’ve got many goals but I’m glad you ended your post with the 3 P’s. Patience, perseverance and persistence will help. But equally prioritise your goals in order. Start small then aim big. And start developing healthy and achievable morning and evening routines. This will help you with your discipline.
     
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    This is an amazing success story truly an eye opening experience of how self discipline goes a long way and motivation to love and take care of yourself
     
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    You have to be more careful with things like this and understand everything happens for a reason pay attention to everything you can especially when it comes to dealing with people and you’ll always know when the energy is right or your companions compliment you
     
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    Thanks for the reply it really means a lot.
    I really want to do this and someday can come up to your level. If you can revert with your morning and retiring the day regime in the wee days of your journey it would be of great help.
     
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    Day 22.

    After getting acquainted and in a habit of not consuming any filth, consuming self harming substances in short meeting my goals, yesterday I finally started making some progress of the task which I actually want to do but was procrastinating since very long. I felt the energy and enthusiasm while pursuing my hunch, the inner call which was saying to me that I must be doing this, since very long. Today is day 2, of my other habit which I want to develop, which demands a lot of my focus, long hours of focus and perseverance.
    Well, from my nofap journey I have learned this that focus is a skill and this can be learned and accordingly be used to one's pleasure. Especially when you are young. Just like I keep distance from the potential triggers which can eventually end me up with a relapse, I need to be disciplined enough to be focused and do what I am supposed to do as opposed to what is easy. So its a skill, I have ample store of energy especially sexual energy, I just need to channelize this energy to make a new habit and slowly steadily with time my this new habit will start providing me dopamine, and thats the ambition I want to create my own habit which gives me dopamine rather than regular filthy habits in which maximum of the crowd is struggling.
    Dopamine is extremely important harmone for existence of humans, it gives us a sense of purpose for living and since our forefathers have been practicing reproduction, naturally we will get dopamine if we reproduce, thats the sole reason behind our natural inclination towards our opposite gender, their body parts and exploration fantasies and with the advent of the technology that pristine human connection get swapped to the pixels, which is self harming. So we are born with this instinct. Its a basic instinct of a human being. But we can control these instincts and achieve what so ever we desire, just through discipline.

    “Discipline weighs ounces and regret weighs tons.” - Jim Rohn
     
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    This is the best post I have came across yet very inspiring
     
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  9. If something like this happened to me, I'd find it highly suspicious.
    Sadly, I wouldn't contact this woman because I suspected something bad.
    :-(
     
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  10. iaj

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    Too good to be true? Even I thought- what if she’s a hustler trying to scam me or something. But you’ve got to seize an opportunity and then let your instincts do the rest. Not fapping and abusing your senses senseless, will help you get better at listening to your gut.
     
  11. iaj

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    I’ve somewhat lost my routine and discipline, but for a long time I’ve tried digital detoxes. Try and spend less time on tech products online as possible- especially for the first hour of the morning and last hour before the bed. That alone will do wonders because you get better quality of sleep and wake up more peacefully. Increase your reading time (either a book or kindle as there’s no blue light emitting) and also exercise or be physically active daily.
     
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    Okay thanks.
    I have been practicing all the ways you suggested for some days now, I think I have made it a lifestyle(Since I have been trying nofap for more than 2years now). But still I want to be prepared for any trying times if it comes in the way because when you abstain for so long on some days by chance if you consume anything explicit and it gets over your head, now you are all filthy & the urges are there for very long, so badly to fap. How to remind yourself why you started this journey, those are very vulnerable moments. If you fail and have a relapse, then you get stuck in the perpetual loop, binging to porn getting depleted then starting again all over from the scratch and failing again, like this loop becomes a lifestyle. How to completely escape this orbit and free yourself from the shackles of porn.
     
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    Thanks. I am glad it helped you. I wish you luck, to prosper in your journey.
     
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    Perhaps there's no cure as I think it’ll always be dormant. No matter how much progress I make, I don't feel like it's irreversible as I still battle with urges. So it’ll just require constant management.
     
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    Day 24.

    Today I feel a little thrilled, even a female face in the newspaper makes feel vulnerable. Thats how dopamine plays with your brain, after 24days all dopamine deprived, my brain is trying to get the hit from even just looking at woman's face, tomorrow worst may come, just a female's voice might trigger the filth in me.
    I gotta stay strong and do what I am supposed to do as opposed to whats easy. Its my responsibility to get what I deserve and not get content from what I get. I am a warrior. I expect that after a successful reboot I wont be a sexist and wont get uncomfortable talking to anyone of whatever gender the person might be. I gotta constantly remind me of the reason why I started this journey and what I will achieve after completion of the journey. My mind will trick me to fall in this small alluring filth which will distract me from my goal, and once I am distracted falling seems good and you will be stuck forever. So take a deep breath and remember the day0 when you took a decision to begin this journey. You are all in, winning is the only option.

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    Day 25.

    Narrow Escape, a very thin line saved me this time.
    Immediately after writing my journal yesterday, I was put in a very uncomfortable situation, like nerve racking situation for me. Anyhow I managed to sail through the situation after that I opened my laptop and came up with these filthy magazines pdf in my downloads, which obviously I would have downloaded before my journey. Not filthy exactly but content which had potential to trigger filth, penthouse and one playboy. Now remember I just conquered a nerve racking situation, I was comfortable at that moment so my brain was already releasing some feel good harmones. So I made a decision to have a quick look before deleting the magazines. Bad decision. I opened up the document playboy didn't had any nudity but still scantily clothed women can trigger filth in your brain when you are abstaining from any kind of media for 3weeks+, it gave me a boner and obviously more feel good harmones. I deleted the playboy after having a very quick look, like less than a minute. Then I opened the penthouse. Extreme filth overtook my conscience. I was trying to have a quick look but my brain was having a treat to watch explicit eye candies. It was not porn but yes nude, erotic poses. So I started enjoying the nudity and boom then came one of my fantasies, girl on girl, explicit photoshoot. I went week on knees just in split seconds. Imagine just few minutes back I was on strict regime talking so highly of nofap(read my last post, this incident I am describing happened after half an hour or so after posting it) but here I am kinda dry humping my shorts, even I touched my self a little. I deleted the files immediately, took my phone went to the washroom, was about to watch porn but what came to the rescue my traps. There was no google chrome, no incognito window, and laptop I had already shut down.(I have mozilla firefox which has this amazing feature to block any image on screen in normal and incognito mode both). I checked my shorts I thought with all this filth and dry humping some body fluids would have been out but no, its all in the brain. Libido got increased, it was all dry.
    I dropped the idea and did whim hoff breathing immediately keeping my head in front of my air conditioner, felt good and finally after some time I was back in my normal self. A very thin line saved me. I vividly remember that when I made a decision to finally quit and fap to porn the following line came in my head "no problem, I am a human lets start tomorrow again from day0 on the forum". Brain really likes to control you. All the abstinence, sacrifices, hard work of following the regime, all the desire to succeed in life, all the ambitions gone in vain in just split seconds, thats how bad porn affects a human brain. After hours when the urges finally faded, I was proud that yes I refused to give up. The more precise detail I describe here, more proud I become of my this small achievement, I won a battle. This is how winners win. Small battles like these with yourself will win you the war of life.
    Now there are some things to learn here from the incident.
    1. When you are in a very uncomfortable situation, like a genuine nerve racking one. Remember something like this may come as an after math of that situation.
    This happened with me last time also, I was on a successful 65days streak, I went through a nerve racking situation like a social embarrassment types, I smoked and then finally fapped to porn for months. So don't let any situation break you, you are always stronger than you think.
    2. Its not a good idea to test the waters. You have a goal, strictly follow it. If your focus is on the goal you wont be distracted by the obstacles in the way.
    3. Meditation is a must, on a daily basis. Its the only thing which will reinforce the faith in you to overcome filth. Remember negativity is too strong to win, it has to be overcome by making positivity more lucrative and alluring.
    4. Water. I made a mistake of not drinking water when I was struggling. Water will subside the urges and removing the filth.
    5. Oxygen. My new add on as a deterrent, I can flex my muscle. Try whim hoff breathing technique. It really is something.
    6. Desire. I really want to upgrade my level. Its too easy to be ordinary.

    With all these tools I believe anyone can do almost anything which one desires and deserve.

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    Day 26.

    A very happy Sunday to ya.
    My gym remains closed in evenings of the Sunday, so I did my morning cardio. All pumped up. All energetic. All enthusiastic. Will not write much, cuz I feel a little tired. But hell yeah I am going strong with my techniques and in my journey. Got a very interesting article on this nofap forum, check it out. Thats what I wish for. Years of staying clean.

    “Shoot for the moon, even if you miss. Yow will land among the stars.” ― Norman Vincent Peale


    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/6-years-clean-rebooting-as-the-best-remedy.135983/
     
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    Day 27.

    You are all unbelievably cool, some of you do not understand how crazy the thing they are doing. We are breaking the laws of nature. We can control our Instinct of reproduction. We are less than 1% of the world's population. Do not stop. "You're breathtaking".

    Thats what I read on reddit as soon as I opened my mac. Its really cool and motivating. But I think I am on a flatline again.
    Yesterday again filth got in my head and guess what without watching anything which could trigger an urge. My memories triggered my filth, more I recalled more dopamine I got. Well every one would have experienced some intimate moments with their opposite gender, so I think my dopamine deprived brain was triggering my urge by recalling my those memories, and that too by making them so vivid, to minuscule details. Thankfully it did not made my urges so potent, that I would be regretting my actions. But it made me mull upon my decision of this journey. I became skeptical whether I would be healed or not. Or I will fall into the trap again and at some point maybe on day 36th or 68th or 89th I will give up and then binge again to porn.

    Thats how harmones play with your brain. It makes you weak, so that you become vulnerable and you give up. I have made a regime, I am following it with dedication, discipline and a strong desire to make it to the other side. I will meet with these kind of depressed times when my brain will want a dopamine hit, I will confront some uncomfortable, embarrassing and failure moments which will make me more vulnerable for a dopamine hit, in those moments I need to stay strong and remember why I started this whole journey.
    DESIRE.
    THE STARTING POINT OF ALL ACHIEVEMENT IS DESIRE. KEEP THIS CONSTANTLY IN MIND.

    Weak desires bring weak results, just as a small amount of fire makes a small amount of heat. If you find yourself lacking in persistence, this weakness may be remedied by building a stronger fire under your desires.
    The above quotes were from this amazing book "Think and grow rich" by Napolean Hill which I recommend every one to read it at least three times. Why three times? Because then only the golden concepts of the book(in general, which everyone think they already know) will go deep in your subconscious mind and then you will start applying those concepts to elevate yourself.

    Today I would like to motivate myself and recall the day 0 of my journal so that the memory of my goal becomes more vivid and I stay on my path, also more fire is generated under my desires(goal), so that I become more strong with my decision to achieve my recovery and become a better human being in this overall journey of nofap.
    I would like to thank all the people those who care to even read my posts, cuz you are helping me by helping yourself.
     
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    Day 28.

    "You Give is What You Get."-Les Brown


    Going extremely strong with my dedication, discipline and desire to go on the other side and become a responsible human being. Its like a dream coming true. Its like a feeling when you wake and you thought you missed your school bus, ohh snap you are 26year old graduate. Life is beautiful indeed and its looking beautiful as a result of my 3D's stated above, else I would be looking at filth every where by now. Now I am excited every morning to pass my day more efficiently unlike before. In next two days a major target number will be achieved which will boost my confidence through the roof and after that I have decided to add on some major exercises in my regime which will help channelize my excess sexual energy, else there will be always a chance to fall back into the filth.
    Yesterday night two times I saw some explicit content in my dream. But since I have not been watching any thing explicit the connection which my brain has with the filth is starting to loose, so even after having a boner and sleeping on my tummy I controlled my dreams and did not achieve any mental or real orgasm, no fluid excretion happened neither in my dream or in real. It was like I was saying to the maidens in my dream "sorry ladies I am on nofap". Indeed a good sign. I have realized that once you start your journey you have the option in your brain to have the filthy thoughts(&enjoy) or say no(Iam not supposed to be thinking like that), if you control those thoughts you can win over and control your subjective mind, thats what I did.
    Now, two days after today after I would have achieved 30successful days of nofap, I know that I can control my subjective mind, albeit I will be in need to utilize the accumulated excess sexual energy, else this energy might become a potential threat to a relapse. I need to be prepared. I have few plans in mind. Physical and mental activities I am already doing, I need to add on few more things.
    I read about Sex Transmutations in this amazing book "Think and Grow Rich" by Napolean Hill. I don't know much about it, but I will figure something out and will add it here if something concrete comes out. Till then I want to reach a bigger audience and revert to their kind replies on my posts, so that I can help them in their journey. This is the root which every one should draw their motivation from. Thats how human race has flourished and will continue to flourish and prosper in the future. More people I am accountable to more 3D's(Desire, Discipline and Dedication) of mine will be bolstered and will help me to stay on my path to reach on my higher self. Thats what is the quote of the day.

    Read my other posts in my journal and find out my ups downs in the journey, you will learn a lot. Also comment on it if you like, it would be a boost in my confidence, to fight and finally achieve my goal.
    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...y-streak-join-me-and-elevate-yourself.240120/
     
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    Day 29.

    I feel a little weak on knees today.
    You are what you say and definitely what you write. Yesterday I wrote the following quote.

    So today I had morning wood and again some beautiful maiden was with me in my dream and she was making love to me in the best of her capacity. Now I came into my senses and I wanted to wake up, but I didn't. I believe she was very good with her head. In short filth came over me and it was all over my brain, releasing dopamine when I was not in my senses. I did not achieve an orgasm. But I am meticulously revisiting my dream because I let filth win over me and I said to myself "enjoy" instead of waking up. Of course I woke up horny. This was a mistake, my mistake. I accept it, and I learn from it. Albeit, I boasted yesterday that I can control my subjective mind.

    A lot of reinforcement needs to be done, to make a strong foundation so it doesn't shake with minor quakes of filth. Then only I will become filth free. There is no shortcut to success, every day counts and everyday brings my other self closer to me. I want to remember my purpose again today that why I am on this journey.
    I need to travel to the other side. So that I become completely filth free, pristine headed. I must draw motivation from my purpose. I need to keep all my focus on the goal and not in the journey.

    I felt elated answering few questions by fellow fapstraunauts. This feeling shouldered me with more responsibility to hang in my journey with more dedication, discipline and desire to succeed, because my actions are accountable to my audience, so I need to make a good role model out of my behaviour. I request all those who are struggling with their journey to seek out help in the universe, universe will respond and help you elevate your level, cuz starting point of any achievement is desire. Stronger the desire stronger the chances to win.


    Read my other posts in my journal and find out ups downs I encountered in my small journey, you will learn a lot. Also comment on it if you like, it would be a boost in my confidence, to fight and finally achieve my goal.
    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...y-streak-join-me-and-elevate-yourself.240120/
     

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