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May as well do an intro. I am 33 and was married for 4 years (together for 11). I have a fairly bad porn addiction and pmo problem. It has gotten to the point of ruining every relationship and flings I have had since my divorce.
I became not sexually attracted to my ex-wife before our marriage and often had to fantasize about other women or move to kinky sex 3 ways ext. in order to O. It got to the point where I only orgasmed off of masterbation usually she would assist orally but not full on bj.

I started masterbating at 12 and got to the point where I have never gone more than like 3 days with out and often do it every day, some times up to 4 times a day on boring weekends. The longest I have ever gone without pmo was 21 days when i was 19 then again for 2 weeks 5 years ago after recovering from a vasectomy.

It has gotten to the point of it ruining every relationship I have had over the last couple of years. A few of the girls have been extremely beautiful but I go soft after like 5 min of piv sex, sometimes if i concentrate hard I can stay hard and even orgasm but I'm thinking about porn or some kind of fantasy and not enjoying the beautiful woman I am with.

I just started "dating" a new woman who is stunning and after a somewhat romantic/fun weekend get away I was unable to orgasm wail piv sex. After dropping her off at her house I went home and pmo no problem at all.

I realize I have a problem and do not want to be like this any more I want to reboot and learn to enjoy the women I am with.

 

Thank you I have only had mild urges to pmo. When I go to bed and wake up.