Moments of Low Esteem are my trigger

day 0 for me, and so your update helps me to restart

 

Welcome! Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I can truly relate, low self-esteem is a huge trigger for me to! At moments when I feel like a pice of... thats when I am most likely to fap. Good to know there are more people that struggles with this!

 

No matter where you are or what you do, you have to stay positive. And coming here to vent your frustration is a start. I too suffer from low esteem. It always leads to bad decisions. For me, I'm trying to focus more on being aware of myself, what I'm doing, how I'm feeling, what I'm thinking. It's hard to focus on good when you see bad. But everything can have a good side, we just have to dig to see it sometimes. Keep it up though, and come back each time you feel an urge. Keep a journal or text, and write out what you feel. It's easier to understand if you see it in writing. And we all have the same desires and urges and want to quit. So where else could you springboard better from than here.

 

I also suffered from low self-esteem all of my life pretty much – coming from an abusive family that never appreciated me or my siblings; even we were always never good enough no matter what. But in the end I simply learned to ignore my emotional shortcomings, because anybody who capitalises on your weakness is a loser and deserves a dragon punch

I also find that when I am loading (saving) money I am respected by others, and my (lack of) self-confidence then, I realise, is a self-imposed psychological redundancy.

I should add: Finding yourself an occupying hobby or embracing a new faith system can go a long way in boosting your self-worth and confidence. I attend multiple religious services (temples, Churches, mosques, mantras, etc) in order to keep myself under control, busy and socially active. My problem with PMO was so severe that nobody ever bothered me (or made a big deal) about my lack of adherence to one faith – I find even fanatics suffer pretty severely from porn addiction. If you are into sports, you could variate your activities between different kinds of sports (such as running, swimming, tennis, etc). Do whatever helps you stay outdoors and away from the computer as much as possible.

 

It's possible my friend. I'm going through a probable divorce. So far I've made it 25 days of no POM. I started 1 week before the wife moved out, and haven't since then. I have some of the same triggers, how I deal with them? I just tell myself no, it's not happening. Do it for yourself, and no one else. Think about the low self esteem you will have right after doing it. That low is sometimes worse than what brought you to do it in the first place.

Keep coming here there. Get an accountability partner, if you don't have one. That is a vital piece. To be serious, have someone help you keep track, and make sure you are as well. I have used mine and they have used me through tough patches. It's also good to help others, builds quality relationships. But just keep strong and we are all here to help when needed.

 

Low self esteem was the main reason for me as well for relapsing. I suddenly felt misplaced, alone, pathetic and with nowhere to go and thought to myself that one fap will do me no harm. It actually did the opposite. I felt even worse after a few seconds of ejaculation. Don't beat yourself down and take it slowly. Seeing results will slowly make you give up for good and this addiction requires patience. A lot of it. Keep going on strong, mate!