Beat your age

Next goal: Another 90 days in order to hit 180.
I do not like counting days, to be honest. They go slow because my mindset gets lazy and falls back into old habits. I am being realistic, not getting down on myself. Personally, this is such a long stretch of not masturbating and avoiding porn that I cannot believe it. TBH I thought today was the 90th day - it's tomorrow. But I think my mix up is also related to being a bit lazier these days. Not good! Anyway, thanks guys, and together we can all be better. No one does this alone!

 

As an update, anyone can tell by my counter that I've had to reset. Not fun. I was lazy. No one pushed me. I did it myself. Reboot, restart, rethink. Never quit.

 

You beast! Keep up the fantastic work!!

 

Holy shit, I'm back! Beat my age again!
I had hit 93 days or so, then blew it. I was weak. I fucked around with my recovery.
Opening up to my psychologist was the most important and helpful thing for me. I know my willpower by itself is too weak. She made me look at that son of a bitch in my mind as a little, conniving, narcissistic creep that was always wanting me to fap or PMO. Now, I get angry whenever I have the urge to PMO or even masturbate. I imagine the urge in my mind is coming from some sicko who wants me to do it for his pleasure. And to control me. I tell him/it to fuck off. Really. Sometimes, when I feel these urges, I say, "Fuck you, porn!" I might say it a lot and get a bit worked up, but it's the healthiest outlet for this I ever had. I do not like getting angry, but this works, for me. It may not work for you, but you might try it and see how it goes. I know I am not cured. I may not ever be. But I feel stronger and more in control than ever. I feel better about my future.
Do something good and encourage one of your brothers on nofap today. Cheers.

 

I understand that it can be tougher for guys who grew up with the internet. Either way, it's a struggle and I am glad I finally realized how badly it had messed with my life. No more.

 

From what I have read about the experiences of others, I would say close or nearly the same. By benefits, I mean those strong feelings of focus, determination, and motivation that occur soon after you swear off PMO. However, like the initial rush people feel when they fall in love, these feelings are unrealistic and cannot be sustained.
Getting a good therapist or psychologist who has a strong background in assisting people with addictions is a must, otherwise people will go from one extreme ("I can do anything!") to the other ("I relapsed. Why can't I do this?"), and that's a very difficult pattern to escape. Determination and will power are essential, but without a good therapist, I firmly believe that one can never escape the power of a PMO addiction. Wouldn't matter if you were 22 or 62.

 

Man, I hope to feel those benefits. I am doing good and feeling positive in spite of the daily temptations. I am aiming for your level!

 

That's great to hear, man. You go for it. Never quit. Never give up. Every day, no matter how much of a struggle, is a great day when you do not use porn.