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I want a woman

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Darren hutto, Aug 10, 2019.

  1. Darren hutto

    Darren hutto Fapstronaut

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    I really don’t like my addiction to lesbians because I really want a girlfriend and maybe one day a wife but porn has isolated me from ever having that and it’s bad not good it’s like I crave porn and it’s always there and that’s another reason I tired to porn because of my desires to be with someone but in the end is just porn and it’s been like these for years and I’m 29 now and the cycle never stops I’ve tried many times to stop watching and masterbate but the pressure and urges are so strong I try to resist it but it still wins even multiple times I was like I’m never watching porn again but that don’t work and willpower don’t work either
     
  2. WHAT WE RESIST PERSISTS
    I'm almost 29 myself. I have been on NoFAP for about 5 years now, on and off on and off, over and over again. Resisting, fighting, denying binging- leading back to porn.
    Sexual energy must be transformed, not repressed or denied or fought against. You have to replace habits you have that are destructive with new habits that are constructive. That is the only way especially if you are like me and have been looking at porn since you were a child.
    Think about it, think of how deeply rooted these neural pathways are embedded into our brains. We're talking decades of reinforcement! Anyone who is at this level and thinks they can use willpower alone is fooling themselves!
    Retract-replace-recreate. -say it with me.
    Retract from porn use. no excuses. no looking, no substitutes.
    Replace the habit with another creative positive outlet
    Recreate yourself and your relationship to sexual expression.

    With this change in lifestyle all that energy and thought power that was previously going to porn will be available to you now to start connecting with women in the real world.
     
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  3. Darren hutto

    Darren hutto Fapstronaut

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    YeH man when I go without porn I have high anxiety and depression
     
  4. Darren hutto

    Darren hutto Fapstronaut

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    And I work all the time
     
  5. MuzzyTheArab

    MuzzyTheArab Fapstronaut

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    Any single females at work?
     
  6. Porn is your drug to mask your anxiety and depression, without it you have to face your emotions raw and you are no longer running from them.
    Likewise the more you use porn the more it makes you dependent on it to be your medicine.
    So i guess you have to make a choice, be comfortable and hopelessly addicted, giving your sexual energy to porn.
    Or face your shit, feel the pain, work through your issues and create new habits that serve you instead of enslave you.
    Only you get to make that choice.
     
  7. Darren hutto

    Darren hutto Fapstronaut

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    I’ve tried many times to break my addiction but my mental problems and pain get in the way
     
  8. The truth is, one must love themselves, before they can love someone else. Relationships are complicated, that's a simple way of putting it. But true love holds empathy and a mutual, beautiful and fantastic time. Of course there is downs as well. I have never been engaged in one, but I imagine that to be the truth to it all, and much more. And I have found that porn, is no where near reality, it is disgraceful. But you are living and you can change your life. Have integrity and believe in yourself, as everyone here does. We are a community and we want what is best for all of us. And lastly, realize that love, is very spontaneous.
     
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  9. ClickClickBoom

    ClickClickBoom Fapstronaut

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    In the end of the day all we truly want is to be loved and desired by someone else but circumstances keep getting in our way, always remember that those who endure will achieve and no matter what life throws at us we must keep pursuing what we desire.
    There are 7.5b people in this world, we are not alone, what we seek will present itself when the time is right
     
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