after one year still where I started

You need to change your lifestyle man. That really is the key to it all.

 

Very true. Its all about change.

If we don't change, then nothing changes.

 

Stop putting yourself down! You are trying which counts for a lot. Take a shower and put on fresh clothes. Also change your bed clothes.
Then take a pen and paper and write down your thoughts. Don't worry about grammar. Write down what you believe to be the best version of yourself. Which is porn free of course.
Then sit in silence for an hour. Set an alarm accordingly. Try to focus on what you have written if your mind wanders gently bring it back. This should help.
You are not alone and you can overcome your addiction. Keeping going and take care.

 

I will never stop saying this. Will power is great, but no one can babysit you.
Get yourself to a good psychologist or therapist. One that understands addictions.
Talk. Face to face.
It's never just about the PMO. You need to get to the root of a variety of issues.
Kick this addiction in the ass. Tell it to die.
There is no reason why a bright guy like you cannot have a meeting this very week to talk about your issues.
Do not waste another moment. PMO is a fucking life sentence. Get rid of it starting today.

 

If your life depended on it could you quit PMO?

You are in the game of life brother. You only get one shot at living. One shot to be the best version of yourself. The truth is we don’t know what the long term effects of excessive PMO are yet. But do you want to find out what those are at age 70? Do you want to waste your life a way never knowing what your full potential looked like?

But I get it. Nofap isn’t for everyone. We have to have balance in this world of people who fail and don’t get up and people who fail and do get back up again and fight to get what they want. It’s not mopping around on this forum looking for sympathy. I don’t have any sympathy for you. I don’t care if you fail. I know I’m going to be fine.

If you are serious about quiting PMO it all boils down to working out, eating right, sleeping right, and taking cold showers. That’s how you get better. Patience during the flatline and then willpower to fight the urges.

And this whole thing about not being comfortable with your masculinity and living in NYC? Come on man. That’s the porn talking. You don’t need to remove the internet from your house to quit. Just quit.

You can do really hard things. Quit making excuses.

 

Agreed. And I think being tougher on the younger guys is a necessary thing. No one would have believed, let alone understood a porn or PMO addiction when I was 18. I would have been laughed out of my doctor's office.
I never woke up about it until this year. After a lifetime of deception, poor marital relations, poor confidence, and uncountable hours (it must add up to years) of jerking off.
I wouldn't wish this problem on anyone. So, you guys, especially under 25, get your lives together. You will live a life of shame, regret, and missed opportunities if you do not.

 

I worry so much for what porn has done to the world brother. It’s the secret drug that has destroyed way to many men. I believe it’s the root to a lot of the mental health problems going on in western civilization.

I pray for all of us, that we heal and this drug is wiped off the earth once and for all. I pray for you brother, that your pain and regret has passed.

 

Thank you. It is day by day but I feel that I have finally reached a new plateau in recovery. I get angry at myself if I feel the urge to search for triggering images or masturbate. No more laying down and whimpering.