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Day 84 - Premature Ejaculation is frustrating my girlfriend

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by 12yearWanker, Aug 13, 2019.

  1. 12yearWanker

    12yearWanker Fapstronaut

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    Finally, I got the girl. I mean the freakin love of my life. For 3 years I watched her date someone else. Now she's dating me. I'm on day 84 of nofap. I've been working out for the past 1 month almost everyday before I shower.
    Two nights ago, we had sex for the first time. It was horrible.
    I ejaculated so fast. She didn't reach orgasm. Her ex used to last long and he never used condoms. My problem is that if I don't use a condom my PE will happen So much faster than it happens. I'm easily aroused, she can just touch my hand and I get an erection. It's really bad. Just a thought of anything sexy when I'm with her can make me hard. I need help. She's really frustrated that I'm always telling her to slow down during sex. I don't wanna lose her because I can't keep myself from cuming too early.
    PS: Before I started nofap, round two of sex used to last at least 10 minutes. But now we had two rounds and i didn't even last for 2minutes combined. Please help
     
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  2. Give it some time. At 84 days of not masturbating, you are going to be very sensitive down there and it's going to be quick. This will calm down as you get used to having sex again.
     
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  3. Maybe explain to her that you are doing nofap and your reasons why, if she is understanding shes a keeper, if not, then shes probably not the one.
     
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  4. alexg1709

    alexg1709 Fapstronaut

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    I am doing no PM but also got a girlfriend and have to keep her happy

    I am using the blue pills and desentising condoms and creams.

    With the blue pill your round one will still not be any longer but at least you will make it up in round two three and four.

    It's difficult to explain this to a girlfriend I am also trying to keep O and sex at minimum.

    Try doing some keggel excercises too. Focus on her pleasure her in other ways as well.

    It's gonna be a hard journey but it's doable.

    Good luck bro!
     
  5. george53

    george53 Fapstronaut

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    I completly agree with what has already been said !

    My girlfriend knows that I'm doing NoFap so when we have sex for the first time in a few days she is used to me coming fast and doesn't get frustrated as 30 minutes later I'm ready to have a real intercourse :)
     
  6. 12yearWanker

    12yearWanker Fapstronaut

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    I'm confused .
    idk what my problem is.
    this morning my girlfriend gave me a hand job. at first I was scared I was going to cum So fast, but it never happened. I tried cumming. It failed. I could see she was tired. Even added more lube on my penis. I really had to force myself to come.
    idk if my problem is PE or DE.
     
  7. phwrancesco

    phwrancesco Fapstronaut

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    Do long foreplay before having actual sex.
     
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  8. Ges852

    Ges852 Fapstronaut

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    I find a handjob or even. Bj I can last a lot longer than when piv. I do not know if it is because of years of pmo but as soon as I enter I feel like a chemical reaction occurs in my brain that fires a mesage to my penis to O. I am hoping no pm will help this but it is too early for me to say but i ave always sufferred from this and i have always done pmo, so i am hoping they are linked.
    If i am relaxed and totaly connected to her emotionally in the moment, i do not think of my problem and i can last a lot longer. When I was in my 20s I could do a round two or three, but these days there is only a round one. Foreplay is a good way to go. But I have even O just by going down on her with no stimulation at all to my penis. So that also doesn't solve the issue all of the time. Kegal exercises can defiantly help in my opinion. Good luck with it. Maybe you feel to anxious because you like her so much that you don't want to ruin it, it can become a viscous circle.
     
  9. Well, this is why YBOP suggests porn addicts and people with PIED to completely give up sexual stimulation for some period of time, so you can fully recover. Otherwise you and your partner will get frustrated.

    My suggestion is to talk to your girlfriend, elaborating her the situation you're currently in and that you're making a progress. Talk to her, im sure you can find the compromise. If she accepts it, congratz first test has passed in your relationship she's a potential keeper, if she does not ? Well, perhaps you'd be well off without her, she doesn't want to face the first most important obstacle in your relationship, move on.
     
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