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ABSOLUTELY no joy of life [Trying to change]

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Deleted Account, Aug 15, 2019.

  1. Hello everyone,

    Hope you all are doing well. I'm posting here because I want to introduce myself and keep a track of my NoFap journey. This forum was known to me quite a while and I read interesting articles here and there. Some of them are really breathtaking.

    I stopped to masturbate on the 12th of August, to find joy and happiness in my life again.


    About Me
    I'm from Austria, became 24 years old on the 6th of August. I'm running my own company but suffering from depression, so it's impossible for me to reach my goals at this state and having absolutely no joy of life.

    The first time
    I remember the first time I masturbated accidently, being 11 years old. My brother got a Wrestling DVD from his friend, which I really enjoyed at this time.

    One day I was home alone watching it. There was this Playboy match between Torrie Wilson and Sable (gosh they were hot). While I was watching it, I felt something strange feeling between my legs, so I checked it with my hands. At first I thought I pissed myself because it was wet down there, but the liquid was thick and somehow sticky. After some research on the web, I knew what was happening.

    From this point on, I started to masturbate regularly.


    Why am I doing this?
    The last couple of months were horrible for me. I masturbated on average twice a day, sometimes up to four times a day. This probably seems like an addiction, but personally I don't have the feeling to be addicted to masturbation and I'm certainly not addicted to porn (I jerk off solely on thoughts aswell).
    Why? Because when I'm feeling good, for example out on a holiday for 2 weeks, I don't masturbate at all. I don't even think about it.

    The bad side
    The reason why I masturbate is because I'm either depressed or utterly bored. It's basically my only source of happiness during the day, at least I'm so f****d up, that I think like this.

    I wake up in the morning, and I'm already tired of the day. Even little things are exhausting for me. When a friend or family member asks me to go out, I'm so tired that I want to stay infront of my PC, even though I think about going out, traveling the world and so on when I'm alone.

    I already tried several things to overcome my depression, like having a structured day, morning routines, going to the gym etc., but nothing worked out long term. I'm doing it for like two weeks, then I suddenly stop because I'm sick of it. So I thought this is a deeper issue and want to try out NoFap.


    My expectations
    I have to say I expect much from this journey, not sure if this is a good idea. I need to change my way of living completely, so it's possible for me to reach the goals I have. Here's a list I want to change for the greater good.
    • Get out of bed in the morning the moment I wake up
    • Socializing more with friends and family
    • Having a structured day with routines
    • Going to the gym and eat healthy
    • Don't give up on things after two weeks
    • Feeling to have a purpose in life

    Your thoughts
    I would like to know if there's someone who has similar problems as me and how you achieved your situation. Let me know your thoughts :)
     
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  2. Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

    Getting Started Guide | How to Use the NoFap Forums | Panic Button | Day Counter | Rebooting Resources | Forum Rules | Glossary

    If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

    You can also take part in one of the many challenges available. It can be a tremendous help. Challenges

    Also, there are groups you can also join if you wish to do so. You can browse through them here. Groups

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
     
  3. hitnmis

    hitnmis Fapstronaut

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    Welcome @ShigZal
    This too is my problem every time I relapse.
     
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  4. Yeah. Guess we have to find something, we can do instead. Like an additional hobby.
     
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  5. Heyyy welcome to the NoFap forum : ) It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!

    Here is just some advice:

    First and foremost please take a look at each section in the forum, there might be something(s) you may find of big help to you. Feel free to post there :+)

    Then secondly I just strongly advise you to be active on your profile(as there quite a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then make daily status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement. They've also got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see. People will find your profile and give you encouragement/support.

    People (are beginning to) love communicating in the profile section..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive talk. It would be great to have you join in and support others in the threads, profiles, and journal, we could always use your help and in return you shall receive some as well!

    Thirdly, You should also highly consider creating a public journal and write about your days in more depth for us members to follow along your journey and offer support to you by way of posting in your journal.

    Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!
     
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