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Help? 16 years old

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Ajay17, Apr 3, 2015.

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  1. Apr 9, 2015 #21
    blazor28

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    see i would like to tell u that set goals for yourself which are possible.accomplish those however small they may be this will give you willpower go for NoFap for 5 days or 6 or so on this will constantly weaken the lust and yes meditate too.Also be true to yourself yes as you study for school do make a target go to ur class topper ask him what he does and start planning to beat him .Do not do these once in a blue moon do these together ,continously and with full faithand dilligence.God shall definately help you.
     
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  2. Apr 10, 2015 #22
    Ajay17

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    I haven't been on forum for a while. I got depressed and I did it again. I read an article @Nath1234 recommended and after I finished reading that article, I tell myself I have to fix my life before I fix masturbation. I guess I'm shortly manipulating myself into saying that it will take time and I don't have to worry too much about it. I'm really trying to get into meditation classes in my local area but parents hands are full, I'll figure it out I'm just lost at the moment.:(
     
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  3. Apr 10, 2015 #23
    endofolding

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    If there is somebody who tries to get rid of it and succeeds first time, at young age -- this is as good as a fairytale. Try to be one day without it and do it every second day. If you could do that, that would be huge progress. You already had huge progress by being without it for many days! It will take time, but if you think that you don't have to worry about it, then that is not right because then there is no chance at all to get rid of it.
    When I was fighting it, and felt the irresistible urge, I reminded myself: what happens if I will do it? I will feel good, but my past experience also told me that I will feel bad later, so why do it then? The question "Did I really had to do it?", even when there were weeks between, was quite bad to ask from myself. Even then, sometimes it worked, sometimes not, but... if nothing else, it was like training, however slow it was. If I hadn't done that and some other things, I probably wouldn't be in that (happier than ever) situation today.
    So don't worry that you got depressed and did it, stand up and start again!
     
    endofolding, Apr 10, 2015
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  4. Apr 19, 2015 #24
    Ajay17

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    Thanks guys, I'm just trying my best, my Personal record is just 3 days so far, been clean for today.
     
    Ajay17, Apr 19, 2015
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  5. Apr 19, 2015 #25
    IGY

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    Ajay17:- I would encourage you to click on a counter and follow the prompts to set your own. That way, you can see your progress in a tangible way, which is really encouraging. You can also set a modest goal. For example, you could set your goal at two days. You know you can achieve that. When you do, change the goal number to four days. Imagine how you will feel to see your counter showing four clean days! You could then change the goal number to seven days. How good would that feel to know that you had your best ever streak - one week! It is true that later on in your journey a counter becomes less important. But in the early stages it is invaluable. Why not try it?
     
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  6. Apr 19, 2015 #26
    CountryDude

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    You are lucky you realize so young.
     
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  7. Apr 20, 2015 #27
    Ajay17

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    @IGY thank you for recommending me a tracker. I do have an app on my phone so I can keep track of my PMO. Although I do find a tracker not as important because you have the option to reset it at any given moment. That's just my observation of a tracker. I measure my progress not by focusing on a tracker but on focusing on overall life / goals / dreams. Naturally, I want masturbation to go away. I just have to keep myself busy and I don't have to worry so much. "I still keep track, but I'm more focused on keeping track of how many times I've gone to the gym this weekend."
     
    Ajay17, Apr 20, 2015
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  8. Apr 22, 2015 #28
    endofolding

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  9. May 9, 2015 #29
    Sacanas

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    Stay strong. We're all here with the same goal
     
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  10. Jul 3, 2015 #30
    Ajay17

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    I haven't been on here for a long time, because I've been trying so hard to fill in my life with stuff to keep me busy and not focused on masturbating and porn. Again, i have failed to do just that. I keep going weeks without masturbation and porn and than i get sucked right back into the shame, guilt, and depression. While i was gone i read a self help book which I didn't really study but it helpd me go about a month or 3 weeks without porn and masturbation. The only reason I'm here is because i feel as if i hit rock bottom, in other words i fucked up. I feel depressed, guilty, and ashamed to be me every single day. I masturbated earlier and I just started crying and punching myself like usual. I take this seriously and I just don't know what to do. I've tried to be productive but I've been down lately, all the hobbies and stuff Im usually interested in kind of faded away because I'm just so depressed all the time. I can't seem to do anything but be sad, reading books and educating myself about self improvement stopped too. Please if someone could give me advice. It's gotta stop! All my negative thoughts, my behavior, my acting out. I hate myself! How can I love myself again when I just constantly tell myself over and over again in tears ill get better but in the end I always fuck up. I rather die than be this way.
     
    Ajay17, Jul 3, 2015
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  11. Jul 3, 2015 #31
    RyanRVA

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    At 16 years old I had no idea that porn was harmful. I bet a lot of guys wish they could go back in time and tell their 16 year old selves to stop PMO. Good job breaking out of the cage! I think you will make it. I'm 32 and I'm just now realizing the true power of my sexuality. If you do succeed you will have an amazing advantage because most guys your age PMO daily I bet.
     
    RyanRVA, Jul 3, 2015
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  12. Jul 6, 2015 #32
    powerd992

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    Yeah, I can relate to your story, I was 16 when I was introduced to porn and started then...
    The advice I can give you is to stop judging yourself so harshly for masturbating (and that's an advice I want to give to everyone), you're at an age when it is almost the most often practiced activity. ;)

    Also, if you believe in God try asking His guidance daily as soon as you wake up, express Gratitude for what you have right now (you're not dying in the street I suppose?) and what happened in the past that's still tormenting you. All these experiences you see now as "cruel" or "bad" can become lessons and make you grow.

    Have Faith in God and, especially if you are atheist, have Faith in yourself! Always, also after ejaculating.
    You can do it!

    God Bless
     
    powerd992, Jul 6, 2015
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