180 days of success and cured PIED

Deleted Account · Aug 9, 2019

Bonhart said: ↑

By the way, I hope your hand cheats on you, if you catch my drift
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That's a good one! Kudos Bro

Asgardian36 · Aug 12, 2019

Bonhart said: ↑

It's alright, buddy, I don't care anymore. By the way, I hope your hand cheats on you, if you catch my drift
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lmfao!!! that was a classic burn!!!

joey0411 · Aug 18, 2019

Hey Mike,

great to hear that life-story from you.

I'm in a very similar situation:
I am also a heavy porn user for 20+ years.
I started nofap after I had sex with my former fuckbuddy and realised, that I could only get hard from porn but not from her, although she was really hot.
So now I am on Day 140 Hard mode.
Most of the bad effects of PM dissapeared like brain fog, social anxiety and other stuff.
But I still get morning wood very rarely and only like 70%, just like my normal erections. Hornyness is close to zero. At least I don't have any sexual pictures in my head.
To check if it's really still a porn induced problem I got myself to a 100% erection today with the help of some sexual images in my head. (No orgasm obviously. I dont consider that as a relapse.
So It's obviously not a physical problem. It's still porn induced!

I really hope I will get back to normal soon.
Do you think that the sex has helped you recovering?

09 MJACC · Aug 18, 2019

Mike Bonanno said: ↑

Hello and thanks for stopping by.
Here's my success story of how I got to day 180.
(Protip: If you want to skip my rambling, there's my action point list in the end)

The beginning:
I started NoFap because of my porn addiction and sever PIED. I won't go to details here, but lets say my path was a classic story of escalation from normal vanilla porn to femdom and sissification porn, which has caused me inability to get an erection or any satisfaction from normal sex with another person.

I started my NoFap journey an the end of 2017, did one almost 90 day streak, relapsed for a couple of months and started this current streak mid April 2018.

So how I got here:
And why I was unable to get here before?
For me the main reason for constant relapses was my mindset and my approach to my relationships and women in general. But we get there later.
My first decision was to gamifying my NoFap journey. I realized that to me an idea of doing 90 days straight up was way too ambitious and overwhelming. I decided to join this 7-day challenge and once I completed that, I moved to 14-, 21-, and 30-day challenges. This way I got little victories every now and then and most importantly, I got support and motivation from other fellow Fapstronauts in the same challenges.

During this time I realized that my approach towards relationships and women was completely fucked up. I saw women only the ways of getting sex and to be frankly, only as a hole to fuck. But as I read lots of posts in the Woman-Only section, I suddenly started to see them as a person, with flaws and same sort of struggle I was having, and that sympathy towards them opened my eyes. I started to connect with women in a whole new level. I started to treat them as a person instead of just another-kind-of-sex-toy. I know, this might sound crude, but that was my perception at that time.
And this was the real beginning of my success story.

When I realized how warped my thoughts about what sex or realtionship is supposed to be, doing NoFap started to make more sense to me. I wasn't anymore doing this just for me, but also for my future. I knew I had to grow as a human being if I ever wanted to really get cured. And I did. With a help of this forum I was starting to see sex-relationship related things straight for the first time in my life. I was no longer seeing women inferior beings that was something out of my reach and which I was only allowed to drool in screen. I was seeing women just as a same kind of person as I was. Flawed, insecure persons who was seeking same kind of acceptance and love than I was. I almost cry now when I write this down. I really see women in a way I haven't been able to see them never before.

To me the greatest victory is that I've been able to pin point my true enemy in life. To me doing NoFap became very easy as I realized that my problem was my endless search of that easiest possible dopamine high. My search for this easiest possible dopamine high was the cause for my porn addiction. Once I found my real enemy, I started to change in a ways I could never have imagine.

My actions so far:
So what I did when urges or Flatline panic hit me?
This sounds almost stupid but to me the answer was physical exercise and diet. I started to change my diet, lose weight and exercise 6 days of the week. I set my goal to
a) lose weight and become more attractive in my own eyes
b) start running (I've always wanted to be a runner), and
c) schedule half an hour daily for meditation.

Diet was simple thing as there's almost infinite amount of information about different diets in interweb. I started 16/8 fasting and changed my diet to clean non-processed food (raw vegetables, fruits, berries, nuts, chicken and fish). And as I started to lose weight my confidence started to rise through the roof like a space rocket.

Exercise was a harder challenge. I've been a couch potato my whole life, and exercise was something I really hated. But I got to it anyway. I started to go for a walk six times a week and every time I felt urges rising. When ever I felt urges coming, I go for a walk. Even in the middle of the night if necessary. I was willing to be tired on the next day in work if it meant that I was able to avoid relapse. After few months of walking I started to run as my fitness level was rising.

But meditation was the hardest part. I tried traditional meditation but it wasn't working for me. Maybe I was doing it wrong (and I probably was) but I decided to change it to writing. I started to ask "How are you doing? from myself and wrote down what ever was going through my mind at that particular moment. This soul searching gave me more answers from myself than any psychologist or counselor has ever given me. I started to find my weaknesses which in turn was causing my low self-esteem, and for the first time in my life I was able to help myself to get healed. It was an exhilarating feeling and I was getting so motivated that I felt like I was alive first time in my life.

So where I am now:
Today my porn addiction is almost non-existent and I no longer have an PIED. I managed to get my first orgasm with my girlfriend somewhere around day 100 (via handjob) and finally got an orgasm from PIV sex couple of weeks ago. I still have difficulties to reach orgasm and to be honest, I still don't necessarily get one every time we have sex, but this problem will get better and this is the reason I will continue doing NoFap in the future. I don't want to fall in that porn trap again.

I've got rid off porn addiction and cured my PIED. So all in all...
I see this as a great success and victory.

My action point list:
To sum up some things that has helped me to get here:
- Find the cause of your addiction and your reason to get that dopamine high. It may be self-esteem issues, loneliness or even depression, but whatever it is, you gotta find it.
- Start new hobbies that distracts you from abstaining porn. If you only sit in your house and concentrate only on abstaining from porn, you most likely relapse sooner or later. Concentrate on something else. Go outside. Go for a walk. Go read a book on a coffee shop. Don't stay in your house. Physical exercise will get you outside and drains your excessive energy.
- Minimize your screen time. Every minute watching screen is a potentially triggering event.
- Minimize your time on social media. This does two things: First you'll see lot less triggering images (bikini-beach-vacation-type-things) and second you'll stop comparing yourself to others. It'll make huge difference.
- Read posts from this Forum. Take tips from others. Take what you can and do what ever you have to.
- Help other fellow Fapstronauts in this Forum. The more you help, the more you get in return. Motivating someone else gives you motivation to continue your own journey.

Here's my story. I hope my story inspires and give hope to someone.

- Mike Bonanno
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Pretty inspiring post, thanks bro.

Deleted Account · Aug 19, 2019

joey0411 said: ↑

I really hope I will get back to normal soon.
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Thanks Bro. I hope you will too

joey0411 said: ↑

Do you think that the sex has helped you recovering?
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In my case I think best help was the support from my girlfriend. To me that was most important thing to help me to change my whole view on sex and relationships. She got me to realize that women are just people too, with their flaws, which helped me to lower them from the pedestal I've had put them.

Horacio Oliveira · Aug 19, 2019

Gracias Mike tu ejemplo!!! Saber que hay personas que lograron abstenerse y limpiarse me dan fuerzas para seguir intentando y lograr construir una historia de éxito!

bikinhappy · Aug 19, 2019

thank you for sharing brother, you're inspiring!

ragnar123 · Nov 6, 2019

Thanks man and well done

Deforio11 · Nov 6, 2019

Mike Bonanno said: ↑

Hello and thanks for stopping by.
Here's my success story of how I got to day 180.
(Protip: If you want to skip my rambling, there's my action point list in the end)

The beginning:
I started NoFap because of my porn addiction and sever PIED. I won't go to details here, but lets say my path was a classic story of escalation from normal vanilla porn to femdom and sissification porn, which has caused me inability to get an erection or any satisfaction from normal sex with another person.

I started my NoFap journey an the end of 2017, did one almost 90 day streak, relapsed for a couple of months and started this current streak mid April 2018.

So how I got here:
And why I was unable to get here before?
For me the main reason for constant relapses was my mindset and my approach to my relationships and women in general. But we get there later.
My first decision was to gamifying my NoFap journey. I realized that to me an idea of doing 90 days straight up was way too ambitious and overwhelming. I decided to join this 7-day challenge and once I completed that, I moved to 14-, 21-, and 30-day challenges. This way I got little victories every now and then and most importantly, I got support and motivation from other fellow Fapstronauts in the same challenges.

During this time I realized that my approach towards relationships and women was completely fucked up. I saw women only the ways of getting sex and to be frankly, only as a hole to fuck. But as I read lots of posts in the Woman-Only section, I suddenly started to see them as a person, with flaws and same sort of struggle I was having, and that sympathy towards them opened my eyes. I started to connect with women in a whole new level. I started to treat them as a person instead of just another-kind-of-sex-toy. I know, this might sound crude, but that was my perception at that time.
And this was the real beginning of my success story.

When I realized how warped my thoughts about what sex or realtionship is supposed to be, doing NoFap started to make more sense to me. I wasn't anymore doing this just for me, but also for my future. I knew I had to grow as a human being if I ever wanted to really get cured. And I did. With a help of this forum I was starting to see sex-relationship related things straight for the first time in my life. I was no longer seeing women inferior beings that was something out of my reach and which I was only allowed to drool in screen. I was seeing women just as a same kind of person as I was. Flawed, insecure persons who was seeking same kind of acceptance and love than I was. I almost cry now when I write this down. I really see women in a way I haven't been able to see them never before.

To me the greatest victory is that I've been able to pin point my true enemy in life. To me doing NoFap became very easy as I realized that my problem was my endless search of that easiest possible dopamine high. My search for this easiest possible dopamine high was the cause for my porn addiction. Once I found my real enemy, I started to change in a ways I could never have imagine.

My actions so far:
So what I did when urges or Flatline panic hit me?
This sounds almost stupid but to me the answer was physical exercise and diet. I started to change my diet, lose weight and exercise 6 days of the week. I set my goal to
a) lose weight and become more attractive in my own eyes
b) start running (I've always wanted to be a runner), and
c) schedule half an hour daily for meditation.

Diet was simple thing as there's almost infinite amount of information about different diets in interweb. I started 16/8 fasting and changed my diet to clean non-processed food (raw vegetables, fruits, berries, nuts, chicken and fish). And as I started to lose weight my confidence started to rise through the roof like a space rocket.

Exercise was a harder challenge. I've been a couch potato my whole life, and exercise was something I really hated. But I got to it anyway. I started to go for a walk six times a week and every time I felt urges rising. When ever I felt urges coming, I go for a walk. Even in the middle of the night if necessary. I was willing to be tired on the next day in work if it meant that I was able to avoid relapse. After few months of walking I started to run as my fitness level was rising.

But meditation was the hardest part. I tried traditional meditation but it wasn't working for me. Maybe I was doing it wrong (and I probably was) but I decided to change it to writing. I started to ask "How are you doing? from myself and wrote down what ever was going through my mind at that particular moment. This soul searching gave me more answers from myself than any psychologist or counselor has ever given me. I started to find my weaknesses which in turn was causing my low self-esteem, and for the first time in my life I was able to help myself to get healed. It was an exhilarating feeling and I was getting so motivated that I felt like I was alive first time in my life.

So where I am now:
Today my porn addiction is almost non-existent and I no longer have an PIED. I managed to get my first orgasm with my girlfriend somewhere around day 100 (via handjob) and finally got an orgasm from PIV sex couple of weeks ago. I still have difficulties to reach orgasm and to be honest, I still don't necessarily get one every time we have sex, but this problem will get better and this is the reason I will continue doing NoFap in the future. I don't want to fall in that porn trap again.

I've got rid off porn addiction and cured my PIED. So all in all...
I see this as a great success and victory.

My action point list:
To sum up some things that has helped me to get here:
- Find the cause of your addiction and your reason to get that dopamine high. It may be self-esteem issues, loneliness or even depression, but whatever it is, you gotta find it.
- Start new hobbies that distracts you from abstaining porn. If you only sit in your house and concentrate only on abstaining from porn, you most likely relapse sooner or later. Concentrate on something else. Go outside. Go for a walk. Go read a book on a coffee shop. Don't stay in your house. Physical exercise will get you outside and drains your excessive energy.
- Minimize your screen time. Every minute watching screen is a potentially triggering event.
- Minimize your time on social media. This does two things: First you'll see lot less triggering images (bikini-beach-vacation-type-things) and second you'll stop comparing yourself to others. It'll make huge difference.
- Read posts from this Forum. Take tips from others. Take what you can and do what ever you have to.
- Help other fellow Fapstronauts in this Forum. The more you help, the more you get in return. Motivating someone else gives you motivation to continue your own journey.

Here's my story. I hope my story inspires and give hope to someone.

- Mike Bonanno
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Congratulations, you deserve applause for your dedication and determination, and you can be sure that your story was very motivational and inspiring to me

ironmaing · Nov 7, 2019

joey0411 said: ↑

Hey Mike,

great to hear that life-story from you.

I'm in a very similar situation:
I am also a heavy porn user for 20+ years.
I started nofap after I had sex with my former fuckbuddy and realised, that I could only get hard from porn but not from her, although she was really hot.
So now I am on Day 140 Hard mode.
Most of the bad effects of PM dissapeared like brain fog, social anxiety and other stuff.
But I still get morning wood very rarely and only like 70%, just like my normal erections. Hornyness is close to zero. At least I don't have any sexual pictures in my head.
To check if it's really still a porn induced problem I got myself to a 100% erection today with the help of some sexual images in my head. (No orgasm obviously. I dont consider that as a relapse.
So It's obviously not a physical problem. It's still porn induced!

I really hope I will get back to normal soon.
Do you think that the sex has helped you recovering?
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After almost 90 days hard mode. I decided to rewire with girls. The first few dates penis was showing signs of life but not proper boner. Then out of no where, I started getting boners at 100% (with help of ED pills, that had never worked before). Was so happy. Problem was that I had sex with O every night. By the end of the week, I could still get a boner but at 70%. I realized that I overindulged. Now I’m trying to have sex once a week and no O. It’s been 2.5 weeks since I last O and feel good. Tonight I’m meeting one of my F-buddies and will try sex without ED pills....I’ve been using ED pills since age of 20. If I can have sex without them, I will have made a huge step into overcoming my PIED

Homelander · Nov 7, 2019

ironmaing said: ↑

After almost 90 days hard mode. I decided to rewire with girls. The first few dates penis was showing signs of life but not proper boner. Then out of no where, I started getting boners at 100% (with help of ED pills, that had never worked before). Was so happy. Problem was that I had sex with O every night. By the end of the week, I could still get a boner but at 70%. I realized that I overindulged. Now I’m trying to have sex once a week and no O. It’s been 2.5 weeks since I last O and feel good. Tonight I’m meeting one of my F-buddies and will try sex without ED pills....I’ve been using ED pills since age of 20. If I can have sex without them, I will have made a huge step into overcoming my PIED
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I also have PIED and have a history of ED pills.
One of my relationships failed because of those pills since I was hiding my usage from my girlfriend and it put a a lot of stress on sex
this also took a toll on the enjoyment of it.
With my wife my PIED went dormant, but I have a bad marriage without much sex and years ago I relapsed again into heavy porn usage and binging,
which fired up my PIED again. Now I'm 5 months clean of porn, but I'm struggling with masturbation.
But I'm determined now to also stop edging, because last night I discovered my PIED is still far from cured.

I was wondering if you came across tips to better overcome it.
Some say 20min daily meditation together with lots of cardio helps.

Deleted Account · Nov 7, 2019

Homelander said: ↑

I also have PIED and have a history of ED pills.
One of my relationships failed because of those pills since I was hiding my usage from my girlfriend and it put a a lot of stress on sex
this also took a toll on the enjoyment of it.
With my wife my PIED went dormant, but I have a bad marriage without much sex and years ago a relapsed again into heavy porn usage
which fired up my PIED again. Now I'm 5 months clean of porn, but I'm struggling with masturbation.
But I'm determined now to also stop edging, because last night I discovered my PIED is still far from cured.

I was wondering if you came across tips to better overcome it.
Some say 20min daily meditation together with lots of cardio helps.
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I've noticed that I have to be constantly aware of my addiction and remind myself every single time I start even thinking about porn or masturbation. To me porn and masturbation is no longer an option. I've noticed that if I watch even google picture search images, I tend to start fantasize and it instantly effects my boners and ability to climax with my woman, and not in the good way.
To me this is just a matter of choice: What do I want? Do I want to masturbate or do I want to have normal healthy sex life? When I figure that out and make up my mind, it's only matter of not doing things that doesn't help me to get what I want.
I've learned that when you have clear goal in your mind, you fight towards it and let nothing to distract from your goal.

(Disclaimer: These are just my opinions which are based on my own experience. I'm not a doctor so take everything I say with a grain of salt.)

ironmaing · Nov 7, 2019

Sorry to hear your PIED is still there. It’s horrible, but I’m convinced that nofap works as I feel better than I have felt in as long as I can remember.

Personally, I’ve been hiding my ED pills in all my relationships. My ex-gf I’m trying to get back together with found them and was disappointed. She says that I don’t need them. Maybe she’s right. I’ll try it out tonight.

Regarding ways to overcome it, I’d say:
- See P for what it really is. It’s a poison and the root of so many of your emotional problems. It’s artificial and not worth it at all.
- See O and everything related to it for what it really it. It is meant for reproduction and should be exclusively with a woman not your hand. All the artificial shit like PM is destructive because its not natural.
- I avoid touching my penis. Only women are allowed to. Obviously touch it to clean it and pee, but thats it!
- Find new hobbies. When you nofap, you suddenly have a huge gap in your day. Boredom is temptation to relapse. So gym, paint, socialize, focus on career, take care of wife, etc.
- Use the opportunity that you’re changing to improve your life. Stop all other shit in your life: alcohol, drugs, smoking, caffeine, junk food, etc.
- Learn how to improve yourself: how to dress, how to treat women better, how to be smarter and more successful, etc.
- Meditation is great. I do a lot during yoga, painting and sports, which I absolutely love.
- Have a balanced diet. Watch what you eat. Research what provides acceptable dopamine stimulation.

At the end of the day, your dopamine receptors are fried due to so much stimulation. They deserve a break, live a more moderate life to get better. I always think of our ancestors and how they lived (before the times of artificial shit), as they didn’t have any problems.

I would suggest complete abstinence from PMO for a period of at least 30 days. After which, you should check your progress and see if you feel good enough to rewire with your wife. It’s important to have open communication with your wife and tell her everything. You were addicted, you’re sorry, it caused some damage due to overstimulation, your love for her is motivating you to get better and that you need her support to make this happen.

Good luck and keep me updated!!

Homelander · Nov 7, 2019

Mike Bonanno said: ↑

I've noticed that I have to be constantly aware of my addiction and remind myself every single time I start even thinking about porn or masturbation. To me porn and masturbation is no longer an option. I've noticed that if I watch even google picture search images, I tend to start fantasize and it instantly effects my boners and ability to climax with my woman, and not in the good way.
To me this is just a matter of choice: What do I want? Do I want to masturbate or do I want to have normal healthy sex life? When I figure that out and make up my mind, it's only matter of not doing things that doesn't help me to get what I want.
I've learned that when you have clear goal in your mind, you fight towards it and let nothing to distract from your goal.

(Disclaimer: These are just my opinions which are based on my own experience. I'm not a doctor so take everything I say with a grain of salt.)
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Thank you so much for openly sharing your very private story and reaching out to others to help!

It was suprisingly easy for me to stop watching porn videos, but I was fooling myself by edging. 4 times a week I would masturbate with sex scenes in my mind.
This method got me nowhere, but I only realized this after reading many nofap threads. Just till a few days ago I was still masturbating(no ejac) whilst doing phone sex with my tinder date. Although it felt great, its bad for my PIED and therefore this will also have to stop.

I am woke and now know what sacrifices I have to make to have love again. No-pmo is never a goal, but just a lifestyle methode to achieve bigger life goals.

ironmaing · Nov 7, 2019

Exactly! Nofap is a lifestyle not a short term fix.

Tinder phone sex...never heard that one before. I’ve slept with many Tinder dates. It’s important not to overindulge It s basically like P all over again. I slept with a different girl every night for a week and PIED came back. I managed to get to 70% firmness but no more. This lasted 2 weeks of repeatedly trying. After a week of abstinence, my firmness improved. Not sure how long it’ll take me to heal fully, but I’m determined to try.

Getting a boner takes less time the less you indulge. Still have anxiety though as my boners are unreliable. Hopefully that’ll change soon with not indulging

Deleted Account · Nov 7, 2019

Homelander said: ↑

Thank you so much for openly sharing your very private story and reaching out to others to help!
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No problem Bro. One of most satisfying thing in life is help others and we're all here to help each other out.

Homelander said: ↑

I am woke and now know what sacrifices I have to make to have love again. No-pmo is never a goal, but just a lifestyle methode to achieve bigger life goals.
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I did No-PMO for a while and concentrated to becoming better and more attractive man (losing weight, getting my shit together, etc.) and decided that only way I want to climax is with a real life sex partner. I moved to No-PM mode when I started dating and found my current Lady, and been sticking to it since.

Deleted Account · Nov 7, 2019

ironmaing said: ↑

Exactly! Nofap is a lifestyle not a short term fix.
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Amen to that Brother! This is the truth.

ironmaing · Nov 7, 2019

Mike Bonanno said: ↑

Amen to that Brother! This is the truth.
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Inspiring Mike. I see you’ve been a member of nofap for 2 years. Are you still struggling with PMO in any case way? Or would you say you’re fully healed?

Deleted Account · Nov 7, 2019

ironmaing said: ↑

Inspiring Mike. I see you’ve been a member of nofap for 2 years. Are you still struggling with PMO in any case way? Or would you say you’re fully healed?
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Well... I'm only human after all and I get urges just like every one else
My weapon of choice battling with this addiction is solid decision to abstain from porn or masturbation because I know how harmful it can be (and it scares me). I've been on that road once and I don't want to end up there ever again. As long as I keep in mind that I'm an addict and I shouldn't expose myself to porn, I'm good. But the second I forget it, I start doing harm to myself and in worst case destroy my wonderful relationship. I love my life as it is with my spouse and I don't like to jeopardize it, and keeping this in mind keeps me on a right path.
I've regain control from my urges and they don't control me anymore, so yeah... I think I'm fully healed, thanks for asking

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