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Silly excuses and apologizing when socializing after relapsing earlier on the day???

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Unjustfailure, Aug 21, 2019.

  1. Aug 21, 2019 #1
    Unjustfailure

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    Many times if i relapse earlier on the day and later I have to socialize somehow either it's on a date, meeting, job or anything that has to do with some kind of social interaction I tend to either apologize or trying to excuse myself and usually leave the area in order to get myself together... And not worsen the situation with my lack of clarity as this happened before in the form of a zombified- sleepy but silly and way too talkative creature when I just want to recover but I have to "run" along life itself.

    I'm sure other nofappers have a similar experience/behavior here so I kindly request your perspective - experience (???????) on the matter because that's a pattern that I keep seeing as a side effect of relapsing.

    Ps. Don't just tell me to stop fapping.
    I'm already in the process of doing exactly that.

    Thank you
     
    Unjustfailure, Aug 21, 2019
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  2. Aug 21, 2019 #2
    primaljade

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    Not sure I understand. What do you mean 'get yourself together'? If you have social anxiety, you'll need to address the root causes beyond just not-fapping.
     
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  3. Aug 21, 2019 #3
    Unjustfailure

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    Not sure how to explain it...
    It's combined with a feeling of not being able to think clearly to the point of not bring able to maintain conversation to an optimal it constructive level.
    I don't pay attention to things.
    I'm not sure if it's a nutritional issue but it's something that I clearly notice as a change to myself.
    My head feels heavy, lose interest in most things and stay "hibernate while awake"vtrying cope with the rythms of life.
    I also have a tendency pee quite often but that's normal I guess.
     
    Unjustfailure, Aug 21, 2019
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  4. Aug 21, 2019 #4
    Ogikubo

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    I am just going to hazard a guess and say while it may not be the norm, it isn't exactly abnormal either. Does that make sense? We all have different mental and physical reactions to various social situations.
    Does this happen in a home (like, at a house party)? A bar or a pub? Where? Do you know these people well, or are they just, well, acquaintances? Did you eat enough before? Get enough sleep? You get the idea.
    I'd suggest you just write down all the factors you can think of that go into you feeling that way and look for the most common ones. They may be contributing to your feeling. I relapsed a few months ago - I was really down on myself for a couple of days. I think socializing, whether on dates or large parties, even a day or two after a relapse can be a difficult situation to go through. I am confident you can deal with this. I hope this helps.
     
    Ogikubo, Aug 21, 2019
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