Can't stop the urge to watch random girl pictures online.

Hi it's great you come here to talk about it.
Why and when do you want to view these pics?
Can you go outside instead?
Stay strong we do this together

 

So what are you going to do.
U think the addicted doesn't know that the best way to ger it's dope is to stay in the room.
At this time can you imagine a amphitheatre where the addicted and the rational mind speak together'. What would they say to each other? . You will see that the addicted does not bother of consequences.
When you have an urge. Working is not possible. I need to make something that will change my mindset' cold showers sport hobby....
What is your first priority?

All Together we can do this

 

You may need to remove yourself from Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc. for a little while until you can get those urges more under control. Treat them just like porn. I have had these similar types of issues before. I would first block those people but then I'm obviously smart enough to unblock them, so then I just had to take myself completely off of there. As many others have said on here, we need to be into real women in person and not pixels on a screen.

As far as giving in during stressful times, I have gone through the same experiences. Keeping busy and just getting off of the computer or phone and doing something has really helped me. Even if it is just doing some kind of chore, taking a walk, reading, etc. Recognize your stressors and try to prepare to handle them before they happen. Just remember you can break yourself of this habit. You do have the will power deep down.

 

My steps that would apply to yourself are
1. Journal every day.
2.nofap a post or reply
3.read ten pages of a self help book a day
And I am in a relationship
4.Intimacy games/board games/taking.

My journal has a lot of bits including questions and answers with my “Addict.”

Affirmations with Eckhart Tolle.

 

Great but what did you take up in place?
Freedom from P. Is not about not doing things' it's about doing the things that matter .more

Stay strong we do this together

 

I know this too. Basically you allow yourself to look at nice pictures of girls (not nude) because it's not porn. Don't. To me it always ended up with PMO. If the problem is : you find attractive picture on facebook and then you relapse, then you need to stay away from facebook and to be busy (as the others suggested). If the problem is : "I'm not looking at porn, it's okay to look at beautiful girls.", then... yes it's okay to look at beautiful girl but,

1) You must not objectize them. There is a difference between looking in the eyes a beautiful woman in the street and look at pictures on the web.
2) You are still recovering which means you are weak. So be careful not to replace porn by some kind of "soft porn" like the pictures you look at !

Your mind sets some traps for you. You have to be very careful. The simple fact that you think about posting this on this forum is a proof that you know it can be harmful. Don't look at random girls and try not to think about it. I know this is hard. It's hard for me too

 

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I’ve found humans to be the weakest creature. This was a difficult concept for me to understand. I am a hypocrite myself, but watching movies let me see Arnold’s character get shot at least once per movie to only become stronger. In real life it only takes one to end a life. Arnold Schwarzenegger in reality also could not keep his own marriage going because it takes a little more then discipline to focus on your partner/spouse. It took me to understand how weak I am to realize how good I could really handle it. My partner just spoke to me about a YouTube video that I had loved. She pointed out this small scene in which “playfully” this brother “rapes” his sisters boyfriend to make sure he was “good” enough for her. It comes from the school of Troma. When I tore down the scene into it’s single parts I realized that I was actually breaking my sobriety. Sure they kept they clothes on, sure it was a fake joke, but it was a bad rape joke. I don’t think there is a good rape joke. This was a weakness I did not see. What I felt was a funny artistic movie is not good for me.

 

Exactly. I happened 2 or 3 times to me. So its definitely not a good idea. It is kind of relapsing but one step at a time. Eventually it is a full relapse (reset) so not good.

What do you call "mental fog" ?