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I have a new social anxiety and now my life is drastically imploding

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Deleted Account, Aug 28, 2019.

  1. Advice will be loved and appreciated.

    For about a year now I have adopted a new type of social anxiety that is killing me from the inside. Almost as if my guilts, bad habits and everything else bad about me have planned a coup to overthrow my personality with a deadly form of anxiety! Lately being part of NoFap has been fantastic and has gone very well for me which I am very appreciative for those who have responded to my threads. It has really helped.

    But, through the times of my journey to this magnificent and newly founded self-confidence, I have also created a new sense of worry that approached me randomly. A sense of creepiness whenever I walk through my area, I make it bigger than it seems but none the less it is following me wherever I go. I either look around the room or see someone I am attracted to, and in my mind I instantly think ‘am I being creepy?’, then I begin to wonder if I am looking as if I am creepy and etcetera... this escalates to me then seeing someone I may like, and trying to build up the courage to speak to them but end up waiting around until I think a ‘right time’ is soon.

    And today made things worse. While walking through a drug store I saw a woman. My eyes had to double check if she truly existed, she was so beautiful, so I turned around and thought I might go upstairs to which she actually walked in front of me. When I was going to the vitamins section she was far away so I was in my zone checking which one to get and I chose one, she came over to the line and I went over there too-after a couple minutes. While I was trying to build up the courage to speak to her I was turning red, and hot, I was stunned by her until I noticed that she was I think getting nervous. Anyway getting to it, when I was going to talk to her she hurried over to the till and I simply looked her direction and she was so so nervous... then poooff!! She’s gone as if she were being chased. I felt so creepy, I didn’t know if it was me or what but that ruined me, and I am now here explaining this to all of you seeking for help and guidance in what I can do to stop this anxiety trip.

    I notice her from before when I used to go to the nearby gym, and funny enough I remember seeing her at the post office one day early this year. She was staring at me for a long while-being next to me, and when I looked she glimpsed away, when I moved she stared again and glimpsed away again. I do remember her from that day which was a while ago, but still, why do I feel like a creep even though I am not. What is wrong with me?
     
  2. This is also why we watch porn: we can ejaculate without the risk of being rejected!
    Dude, I think most men have been there. Very few women do the first step and they don't have to because confident men will speak to them first.
    An advice: the more you hesitate, the more you walk around and stare, the more you look like a pervert. Fear causes hesitation and hesitation will make your fear come true. Don't wait, you have nothing to loose. The more often you see her without doing anything, the less likely your chances are.

    It's OK to be nervous, if you are nervous. Only practice will make it better. You might spoil it, but you will get some experience and be a better man. Either way, you win. Try your best. Your very best.
    Good luck.
     
  3. Breach

    Breach Fapstronaut

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    It sounds like a confidence issue to me. You seem to not see yourself as "worthy" of these beautiful women. Don't think like this. Don't put them on a pedestal, but when you look, don't feel ashamed either. Remember that this is all natural. People look at eachother, weather its due to attraction or curiousity. And we all tend to look away when we get eye contact with random strangers. You have to work on your self esteem/self image/self confidence my friend. We are all equally worth on this earth.
     
  4. Get behind me Satan

    Get behind me Satan Fapstronaut

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    Just have patience my friend, sounds like time will heal you.
     

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