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Still not ready for a relationship

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Fractured Mindset, Aug 27, 2019.

  1. Almost seven months no porn, 102 days no masturbation, increased energy, new apartment, workplace and college with no new relationship opportunities- I think I need to vent my reasons why I'm not ready for a girlfriend.

    I still have some distance to travel with my reboot, and still having some reset issues.
    not mature or responsible enough for a relationship.
    my standards and expectations are too high.
    I want my relationship to happen quickly instead of developing over time.
    Very self centered and unemotional.
    time/ homework conflicts.

    (I'll add more when I think of them)
     
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    The more self-centered you are, the more your deficiencies will matter to you as a reason to not be in a relationship.

    Even as a negative quality, you are focused on yourself. Shift out of that.

    There are women out there who won't mind these things as much as you do, and if anything, will want to help you through them.
     
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  3. I realize I can be too hard on myself and that others see things in me I don't.
    I think another thing for me is the fear of the unknown, and the fear of making some poor choice in my pursuit.
     
  4. If you don't want to do a thing you will never be ready and sometimes even if you want to you won't feel ready. So stop missing out your chances in life. ;)
     
  5. Also... don't know where/ when the next opportunity will be.
     
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  6. Open your eyes ;) I bet you will see them when you open them
     
  7. I just found my list I made earlier this year, probably right before my rejection. (note I don't feel the same way about all of these)


    Why I am not ready for a relationship

    · Not mature or responsible enough

    · Too many problems as it is

    · I don’t have the time.

    · It actually isn’t going to help me

    · I don’t know what I want

    · I don’t trust my own judgment

    · My standards are too high

    · Overly particular about what I want (in contrast to me not knowing what I want)

    · Too many unknowns about my own behavior

    · I don’t trust people

    · I cannot handle a break up

    · I’m not a good person

    · impulsive

    · I can’t take care of myself

    · False expectations

    · I have no idea what I’m doing
     
  8. probably.
     

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