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Day 90

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by safa61947, Aug 24, 2019.

  1. safa61947

    safa61947 Fapstronaut

    What's up m'boys? Today I created this thread because exactly 90 days before I was relapsing and wondering "why can't I commit to quit if this is really what I want?"

    This is my 2nd streak of more than 90 days, my first ended at day 95 after I got depressed because a rejection.

    A few days ago I asked a girl out and was rejected. I knew I would be tempted to relapse and I would be sad the following days, but I knuckled it, and got my so dreamed streak again.

    Yeah, I'm on the 90+ days club boys, I'm so proud. But I didn't make this post only to brag, no.

    You don't see me much here nowadays because I found it to be re-stimulative to be thinking about porn and not watching porn all the time. It's good at the start, but then you must find your balance.

    I tried calling for help at the moment of an urge, but I'm usually alone, and you can't rely on someone else to hold your urge. You're in control.

    NoFap pushed me to ask girls out. Specially when I'm at the end of my streaks. I get so horny, and my mind keep devising ways to get out of this bleak loneliness.

    Now, I want to share a little hope with you guys: I thought of quitting -- many do! I congratulate every one of you, specially if you have less than 10 days on your wing right now. What made the difference for me was this: NEVER GIVE UP.

    I would relapse, I would have cum in my pants, and even between relapses, I would come back to nofap.com or Reddit to read. Yeah, I know it's not a good sight to imagine, but I was that kind of guy.

    I didn't work out. I tried for a while then I quit it. But I did reshape my tastes. I devised a plan to when I have an urge: I play chess. Having to concentrate on a match kills any boner, but you might find another activity that does the same effect to you, such as push ups, or pull ups, whatever.

    I was the guy who would fap to clothed girls. I would fap viciously to anything. But I'm a new person. Just today I talked to my sister, she's been contacting me more now, girls overall like my presence and like to talk, and I was amazed with the things I said to her, how I am some sort of guidance to people around me. Heck, I even feel like giving some advice to some of my brothers in nofap.com!

    I know you don't want to know details of my specific case, so here's the summary of what I think is most important:

    1. Don't quit. Don't quit. Even if you relapse everyday. Pay attention to why you relapsed, where you were, whom you talked to. You don't even need to control yourself. Pay attention how you feel before and after a fap session.

    2. Whoever got a streak such as mine knows this. You guys maybe can imagine how hard it is to reach 90 days, but you will never know until you have done it. 90 DAYS WILL NOT FALL IN YOUR LAP. You must want it. There were times, even now, when I thought that not even my job was as important as keeping my streak. Just a little incident to exemplify: I bought a new shoes from a clothes store today, and they handed me a paper with lingerie ads. They do it to every customer. I was bothered by it even before she put it in my bag. I threw it out immediately, in front of the clerk, I didn't even think of it. I didn't want by any means have to throw that thing away alone at home, so I did it right there. Lesson: you must want. No one ever reached 90 days by chance, just getting busy with something, although getting busy helps a lot.

    3. Aim a little higher. I was the guy who thought NoFap was impossible before I tried. My goal right now is 120 days. I thought it was impossible, at least for me, to reach 90 days. Then, when I reached 90+ days in 2018, I thought I would go back to my old habits -- I did, and I thought I would never go through such hell again. And here I am telling you guys my story and reaching 90+ days for a second time! Why?

    I missed the person I was while in NoFap. I had a wet dream just a few days ago. You guys probably know that after nocturnal emissions there is some small chance of a chaser. I had tough moments. I watched movies to pass time and sometimes you can't predict a sex or nudity scene while watching an interesting movie. But even with that. I missed myself. I missed the way I talked. I missed looking myself in the mirror and telling "you're the guy".

    You're the guys too. You can do it. You have no idea how bad my case was. I used to tell a lie to myself that I didn't watched porn, because most of my porn was Japanese drawings. Which is a lie. Whatever genre, or even if you're addicted to social media, this changes you. Porn has a negative impact. Some guys advocate masturbation alone is healthy, well, good luck convincing me that beating your junk alone then wiping it with a tissue is healthy for your mind.

    You throw your seed away, your life force. If your seed is worth nothing, your subconscious will think you are of a similar value. I've been studying a lot, and I know much better than drooling over Instagram girls (check my reboot log), or being a beta male behind a screen on the internet.

    I own my fucking life.

    The other day I was sick and I looked myself in the mirror and I said to myself: "you got this, you'll heal fast". And I had a very speedy recovery, although I had to go see the doctor and get myself a diagnosis (nothing related to NoFap).

    By the way... even though I don't use my sword I feel it big and I know it's working well. I don't need to test it.

    Now, make up your mind, brave soldier.

    And thank you NoFap and Reboot Nation, Gabe Deem, Noah B. Church, Mark Queppet, Gabriel Bocanegra, Alexander and all the other NoFap gurus and fapstronauts out there. We got this!

    EDIT: Typos
     
    Last edited: Aug 24, 2019
  2. safa61947

    safa61947 Fapstronaut

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  3. ButlerAlma

    ButlerAlma Fapstronaut

    Congratulations to you man, no PMO gives the best consequences to a real good life. I love to read sucess stories because they give me power to continue in my journey. And your Journey also dont finish here, I believe in you for 120 days in NoFap.Have a Good day!
     
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  4. Wow very inspiring! Keep it up!!
     
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  5. 09 MJACC

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    Keep it up bro, and as you said, NEVER GIVE UP, you got this, you'll get the 120 days and more. Best of luck.
     
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    good job Man! it's good to share succesfull experiences
     
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    Bro! I love this post! One of the best success stories in recent times. I wish there was a space where I can store this post and review it.

    I love your journey, man! The way you pulled yourself out of the rejection when it happened recently, what you think of semen retention! Its awesome
     
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  10. safa61947

    safa61947 Fapstronaut

    Not very proud of it, I relapsed last weekend. Trying to figure out what went wrong.

    Thanks for the encouragement. Not giving up.
     
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