The Search for Sex

its because the average age of a new member is around 17 years. Most are male.

 

The older guys worrying about sex are nerds for lack of a better word. I agree with you. It would have best if people like me hadn't grown up with sex on the brain, but that was me. Now that I am married. I regret my past.

 

There’s nothing inherently wrong with sex. It’s a normal desire. Just like there’s nothing wrong with food. But become compulsive with either and it’s a problem. Healthy sex is normal.

 

What a naive poster. LOLOLOL If you haven't noticed, humans are just horny little beasties and your opinions are pathetic. Age, race, gender, location, wealth or poverty are irrelevant about sex. Humans do it because they like it, and THAT IS ALL. You think to much.

 

Because sex is everything in this society.
A man who is not having casual sex may as well be a leper. The longer a man goes a virgin past 18, the less likely he'll succeed at anything that requires social interaction.

Imagine if Donald Trump came out as a virgin (and that his kids were not actually his or whatever). Even among his most ardent supporters, he would go from hero to laughing stock with one simple word.

Imagine if a "Chad" like Tom Brady or Lebron James came out and said they didn't have sex on a regular basis. Imagine the jokes that Stephen Colbert would tell.

Even among the religious, a man who is not having constant sex is met with pity. Among the non-religious, his life could very well be in danger if it comes out that he's not having sex.

 

You haven't been reading the material on Nofap or you would understand the significance of the relationship between P and M&O. You would understand the severe side effects of using P and the effect is has on brain function. Google the relationship between dopamine and mental illness too.

 

Sex is defined as a biological need...to continue our species and to maintain intimacy in our relationships. Saying sex is not similar to food is a fallacy. Sex is not just penetration and done. Sex is the entire intimate act. While we can Survive on only one type of food (fruit) we thrive on a variety. Same for sex...while people survive with basic friendly intimacy we thrive on an entire intimate relationship.

So yes if you consider sex just penetration and done it isn’t a need. If you consider it the entire range of intimacy then it is a biological need according to science. People that abstain survive on other intimate relationships (love)...

 

While you might be technically correct that sex is not “necessary” in order to survive there are many things that people do that they can survive without. Having sex, for the overwhelming majority of people, is a quality of life issue. People with good sex lives are usually happier than people with bad/non-existent sex lives. It’s like with money. You do not need to have a lot of money simply to survive but being well-off financially makes your life significantly easier and more comfortable.

 

Haha I agree 100%!

We are just basic animals closely related to the Bonobos, who do it 24/7 no matter the age or gender or status haha

 

No, I don't have a problem with P itself.

You are right, I only have a problem with what P does to my brain. Just like I am concerned with what alcohol, cocain, heroin etc. would do to my brain.

Why would it not be fine to have sex "no matter the age or gender or status"? As long as it is legal, where's the problem? The conclusions are definitely disturbing, but as we have been visiting pornsites frequently in the past, we know exactly what disturbing actions humans are capable of.

 

Hi,

I have not read every single answer people have come up with here. But will just put my opinion on to it.

Well, some periode during the Nofap journy people will get a bit more horny. When not PMOing, they don't get the "release" which make them stop thinking about it for a little while.

An other thing to mention is that we are humans. Humans does simply crave sex. It is because we want to reproduce. Thats just how we are. But at the same time, the reasoning and the idea about sex have changed a lot. Now many people have the idea that they need to lose their virginity before "X" age, or they will feel left out. I don't really know why people think that not being a virgin will change the world, but I guess it is because it is "cool" to have had sex. Specially at younger age. I felt the need to lose my virginity too before, but I waited until I found a girl I loved. And I am so happy that I did. (And I am not religios or anything - but to me it feels wrong).

Also social media and other medias are full of sexual ideas and pictures which makes people think a lot about it. Social media often makes people want to "play on being sexy". Just look at instagram, a lot of people feel the "need" to be sexy on many of their pictures.

I personally don't want to have sex with a person that I do not love. But yeah, I have felt urges towards a other women that I did not love, but I would never sleep with her. It have happend to me before, that a women wanted sex with me, but I did not want to - because I did not love her. It felt totally wrong for me.

 

Please see my post addressing this
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/why-does-everyone-have-premarital-sex.249628/

It’s funny because tom brady and lebron probably don’t have much sex, and have it much less than avg joe.

That’s one of the reasons why they are so great. They know about sex transmutation and how it affects you and aren’t just having sex all the time.

i’m saying that they CAN get sex whenever they want with whoever they want, BUT they choose not to. And that’s why they are great

 

I'm glad there are still guys out there seeking to get laid rather than stay home and play video games or watch porn.