My Thread: An Exodus from Hell

Hey there guy. Welcome to the community. I feel your pain man. I have been fighting this battle for the better part of 20 years now. Slowly but surely I am getting there. I'm starting to enjoy the small victories and life in general seems more enjoyable.

Don't give up. Keep coming back to the site. Post whenever you can. It really does help.

Stay strong, and good luck.

 

Stay strong my friend, you are very young as a senior and will learn a lot over the years. there is plenty of time to stumble, but never time to waste...

no time for hatred either, our clock is always ticking, at least make it count for something right?

 

Loneliness can be a suffocating emotion if you let it fester in your thoughts.

Take it from me, a guy who feels lonely almost every hour of every day. I work a night shift in which I'm isolated from my co-workers for about 7 of the 8 hours that I'm there every day. Then I get home and my two roomates are either gone working, or sleeping. If I'm lucky, I might see a few friends when I'm off on Saturday nights, but that only lasts for a couple of hours because their body clocks are normal, and they go to bed earlier in the night. Add in the fact that all the girls in my life are pretty much taken and/or unavailable, and the hours I work make it almost impossible to go out and meet new people.

This is a very long and selfish way to tell you that, well, I know the feeling all too well. I struggle with it at times, some days are much worse than others. But, using loneliness as an excuse to PMO cannot be an option anymore. We must both find some kind of contentment in our isolation.

Stay optimistic Harold!

 

"However, they couldn't find a single male that did not watch porn in college to use as a control group."

If I remember correctly they couldn't find a single college male who had never seen porn. Meaning they had all seen it at one time or another. It did not mean that all the males were regular porn users. They needed the control group to be people who had never seen porn. There are many studies that came out in the 80's with control groups like this.

I just don't want the myth that "all guys watch porn" to be perpetuated because it can reinforce people's ideas that there is no reason to quit....or that all guys do it so it's fine.

Anyway just wanted to clarify that small point

 

So, I am not a church going religious person. But it seems like religion is playing a large part in your story so, I found this thread about Catholic/Orthodox thread and brought it here with a link...

http://nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/catholic-orthodox-fapstronauts.35224/

just something interesting I thought to share, I do this stuff when I am bored and need to distract myself...

 

Stay Strong Harold Grey. You can do it. It is tough but you are tougher. We are all going through this together. Stay Stong.

 

Stay strong friend! I love the church more than anything in my life, but it doesn't do a good job of letting people understand the reality of addiction to pornography. I promise you almost every male at BYUi struggles with pornography. You are not alone in your battle. Just don't let that justify you into giving up.

Learn to measure success differently! You made it three days, then relapsed. Focus on the victory of those three days, then start a new victory. It's a terrible cycle to focus all your energy on the few minutes that make up your failure in this battle. You are spending 99% of your time winning, and probably much less than 1% viewing P or M'ing. Measure the days you can make without P, and start to increase them. If you make it 4 days before the next relapse, you've just increased the time you resisted by 33%. That's huge.

Keep close to your Bishop, he is there for you. Sounds like a good guy, follow his advice and encouragement.

 

I'll also echo everyones elses words man: Stay Strong! You can defeat this.

In the early stages it's really hard to get it under control and by it I mean everthing. The PMO, the low moods, the interactions with girls.
It's hard to believe now but all of this, will get easier and better over time. It will, if you stick at it. Look up the tools, do your research, put measures into place and do the work. And you'll make it through man.

 

I see the danger in "normalizing" but I would have to challenge the idea that there is a college population that doesn't view P on some regular basis. The professors running the experiment would have known that basically everyone has seen P at least once in their lives, whether on purpose or accident. You'd be hard pressed to find more than a handful making it a month at a time without P. If they exist then they are likely fighting the war hard because they've been trapped before, or simply have a very low sex drive. I've got great friends that have no interest in dating or sex. They're the few I know that have no issues with P.

 

You can't look at past failures, you have to look at the future and look at the beginning of every day as yours. This fight that you are fighting is the good fight. It is long depressing and hard. I have no real progress to show from my fight, but never give up hope.

Please keep posting, it really does help and gives strength. We are all in this together side by side in the trenches. This is a fight that we can win this is a fight we must win. And in this fight there are setbacks after setbacks I speak from experience and sense I made my pledge to fight PMO I have only found the fight to be harder but right now I know I can do it and the power the people on here give me allows me to take down anything in my life.

Stay with us, the fight is long and hard but we can do it.

Never give up, and I won't either

 

I'll second this. Try to treat every day like a new day. Forget how many days you've gone or how many are ahead. Just fight the battle a day at a time. You aren't alone, don't give up!

 

stay storng