I watched porn for a couple of hours with my wife. Did i relapse?

It's not black and white. There's not enough information about you, your recovery, your wife, and your relationship to say. I would consider both of those very bad things in my situation but I don't know yours so I can't tell you my situation is right for you.

-Quinn

 

If, you have to watch out of a lot of things.
Do you know any swingers? Do you know people in open relationships? Talk first with at least 5 couples, how it works and what could be the problems. You can be surprised on how many ways can it go wrong.
Secondly, bond with your wife has to be strong. Can you keep focus on her when you see other naked woman? It is really important.
Can you throw out the over couple from your life without any consequence for your life if it goes wrong?
We've had two threesomes, once with a woman and once with a man. It was before his reboot but I don't feel it is the same as pmo cause first, I was included and welcome invited, secondly it was something I also wanted to try and my needs were not forgotten.

What I recommend, if! Not often and not with the same people. At most once a year. Don't tell other people, cause than people start to treat you as meat for sex and try to seduce her or you on every occasion. And most important, can you difference between sex with and without love without any consequence? I think most can't. I know I can, we've met as one night stand and I know I didn't expect anything from him afterwards, but it happened. Most people and especially most women feel bad after ons. Does she know it what is the impact on her?
There are many more questions you should ask yourself regardless of pmo. It's great danger in itself. I personally know a lot of open relationships and 80-90% fell apart after max. 3 years.
If you have kids and didn't try it before, than definitely no. Cause than there is danger you mess up more than each other lives.

 

And thread question... I think it's difference and we've tried it too but didn't work for us. I saw that it takes way too much attention from me as I could manage, it wasn't the case in threesome at all. I would count it as relapse but let your wife decide how it felt for her. Was she really ok, or she misses you so much and proper sex with you that she agrees to sex that she can't get your whole attention, just to get some? It could be the same case with sex with others.
For me the only acceptable p during sex was when we watched film parody were the sex scenes are present but too short to get you off, it's more like to make you horny and than afterwards have sex alone. Now I have enough of the subject and how I suffered from it and don't want to do such a thing and I would be concerned how would it affect him.
I don't have those issues with threesome. In fact he said he didn't pmo for a month or so afterwards. I'm not sure, but I felt we were quite close in that time. Wasn't the case for p together.

 

But I really don't encourage that, I've seen a lot that ended catastrophic when one puts priority on advancure. Make sure, she doesn't.

 

One TV show and you're ready to try it? You both are missing something. This is a big decision and it goes way deeper than that. The TV show may have provided an opening that one of you was waiting for but that can't possibly be the impetus. Think it through very carefully. This is not the same thing as taking a cooking class together or couples hang-gliding lessons.

Peace,
-Quinn

 

this is really horrible, you ruin your purity, why would you have sex with other couples. She is your wife. And don’t watch P with your wife either

 

Well, it's your life, so you can do what you both want to. But facts are facts, and such couples don't stay happy for long. So, there's that. I bet you already know the consequences, so no use harping on them. Just remember that what you do cannot be undone. And there's always a price to be paid in this swinger-business.