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I have an addiction of escort services(prostitution).

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by a_man, Sep 7, 2019.

  1. a_man

    a_man Fapstronaut

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    Hi to everybody.
    Many years I use escort services because I never had a girlfriend and I dont want to masturbate but I realized that my addiction of escort getting harder year after year.Because I spend all of my money just for f..ing.
    I noticed that I am sexual addict and dont kwo what to do.
    I decided not to use an escort anymore but when I have money...omg..is here anyone else who has the same addiction?
     
  2. Here mate!

    I have spent a fair amount of money for prostitutes as well.

    That is the reason why I started NoFap. To cure my sex addiction.

    Has it worked so far? Well, I am horny everyday and I came to terms with myself that I just have a really high sex drive. But instead using this sex drive for prostitutes, I just try to have sex with many different women, which is working out better the longer I do NoFap.

    I still think about going to prostitutes as well, but I know I feel so much better when I don't visit them.
     
  3. a_man

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    Thanks for answer.
    I'd like to have a sex with girlfriend but I think that I am too lazy to build relationship with woman.yes it looks fubby but its not funny.I am not complicated guy but I dont have a patience and I want sex right now thats why I prefer escort instead of normal relationships.is it normal?I think that no.I sit at home and I dont have friends.
     
  4. Paul69

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    No, that is not normal, and not healthy. And I know because I have been there and although I have not been to prostitutes for as long as I have been on Nofap (it really helps), the lure is still there. I hope that by abstaining long enough the longing will go away, but it has not yet happened. What has happened is that it has become less "normal" for me; natural inhibitions are coming back again. Also by avoiding porn the tempatation is reduced.

    I also noticed another thing in your post "... I dont have friends". Maybe this is something you could work on first; get some friends, people you can hang out with, talk to. Start socialising, get hobbies, it fills your time, it is good for you and you may learn something from your friends. Girl friends can be second step.
     
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  5. a_man

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    I have hobbies)I like read books,scientific articles,learn english(little bit),watch movies and youtube videos(but not about enterteinment)and also I do programming)I inspired by Iron Man from Marvel and want to become web developer)))but..friends...yeah thats a problem.I have very difficult character.
     
  6. Ghost79

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    Your addiction from escorts will cure once you get a STD! And some STD's can even contaminate you with or without a condom.
     
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  7. Where are you from mate? :)

    I stopped thinking negatively about prostitutes. I am thankful for the experience of going to prostitutes. Not many guys know the feeling of visiting a prostitute. To be honest: Having sex with prostitutes was one of the most erotic experiences of my life. I loved the thrill of it. And the simplicity of not having to talk and just getting exactly what I want. I just realized that that is not what I want for the rest of my life. I felt a lot of shame. But now I am just thankful for it, thankful for the prostitutes which let me have sex with them. Also, I know that I probably helped many of them with the money I gave them for having sex with me - they are most definitely NOT being a prostitute for fun but because they simply just need the money.

    I don't know, I think I just came to terms with it.
     
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  8. Ghost79

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    You are really dissalusional thinking you helped the prostitutes! The money you gave them went mostly to there pimps! And you have been another drop in the killing of there souls!
     
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  9. Yes, you are right. But why not think about the positive aspects? If one does not think about the positive aspects, one automatically thinks negatively. And thinking negatively sucks balls.
     
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  10. Ghost79

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    I absolutely disagree but to each his own.
     
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  11. a_man

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    Guys I reached my pick of degradation.
    I spent all of money that parents give me every month and I spent all money for september at the start of a month.I mean I spent them on escort.and now I try to live having about 10 dollars on my cart.No I work I worked after graduation of institute since 2014 but currently now I dont work and I am ass..le.Its true.Dont live life like I do.

    "Where are you from mate? :)"
    I am from Armenia.
     
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  12. STDs do not cure wanting escorts.

    It’s a fallacy.

    I know it sounds good but honestly any fear strategy has a limited fuel range. It will work for a while but won’t be long lasting.

    In the end it’s better to love yourself. Learn to accept yourself.
    Listen to your thoughts and journal.

    Real connection is better than penis exercise. But you won’t know until your try it.

    I like blue balls advice only because it’s more accepting of the person than repressing.

    I have the same addiction and I have found that doing it in pieces helps.

    Now I have been without an escort for 40 days and I still hate resisting.

    If It weren’t for my pride and accountability here in nofap I would go and get 2 or 3.
    I hate that I haven’t given in. I hate that I didn’t find a prostitute and just enjoy myself.

    I am making good choices and still hating it.

    They say at some point you will like it or be proud of this. I haven’t found that to be true(yet).

    I had awesome, balls deep, mind blowing sex with my girlfriend last week plus an ex girl and a girl I met at the club. But no escorts.
     
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  13. 12&6

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    I think that this thread is very interesting. I have experienced what I've come to realize is both ,that which the site and thread address and would like to comment on this.
    What may be another's fantasy(plenty of women and certain acts,plenty of porn) might be another's pain(fighting urges every day). I have never had a problem in life getting a girlfriend or having sex. Growing up around women I could relate with them much easier at times than most men. I was never boastful and always respectful. I still am. However I will say porn and disposable sex had an affect on me. My sex life amazed even me. I not only performed like a machine but enjoyed it. I've been with many some notable and while I still see it in my mind and enjoy it I would much rather a one partner who understands and loves.

    I had plenty of manly friends but my(our) generation is a generation of broken homes and fatherless men who need direction still at older ages. Our media only serve to perpetuate the negative and stereotypes so we are surrounded by negatives all day and whats worst is some must wade through this for a living while fighting back against it that they don't know is attacking them. No fathers and the affects of misinformation and negativity has played out on my generation and social media (the new vehicle) is delivering it from day one.This programs your brain to a perceived "reality" or "norm". Changes any definition for you very subtle. As you grow you experience life through its lens not your own. Apply this to today in age. At a time in my life there's not much sexually that I had not done with women and I loved every minute of it( all sex positive ) and in the past I had the ability to travel at a moments notice as well. Women were all over and I truly did have friends with benefits everywhere. Whenever I was in town all systems were a go. Things were disposable mainly because of my work and no emotions were hurt. I got paid well and lived on a moments notice and as a younger man with money- sometimes women aren't far behind and down for fun whatever /wherever it takes you, her....or her friends. My work took me to sea with a lot of uncertainty of return. No I wasn't in the Navy or on a rig but a Mariner. A helmsman. The reason I say this is because the time I spent "away" from society taught me a vast proportion of things. At sea I did not have communication(my level at least) nor did we have internet, nor did we have any forms of communication.The only one would be a pen and paper. The officers(three at most) did have communique but on a ship of twenty at most you get the point. Despite modern terms most are still this way. It did me good. I worked,lived,learned all day ,every day. It brought about a HUGE sense of community and camaraderie along with a profound respect for the harshness of nature and how life casts no judgment,just gives you challenges. Your fears were attacked together and life was real and blunt but respectful. I trained for four months- and my longest time at sea was six months only porting two times for three working hours each. I say all of this as I myself try to muster up that strength again to grab the helm and challenge myself to a round of this challenge here. No PMO- just no O. A rewiring of sorts for undisclosed amount of time. That distance and time with out any form of human interaction showed me a literal physical yearning for a woman's touch and love. It was almost physically unbearable because it became a mental long game.That mixed with loss is like no other. Yet it changed my mind to what was important....It was a weight I wore every day. All sailor cliches aside you see why historically they get the rap for drinking and f*cking when in port. I return to my skills that helped me then and tip my cap to you all here because PMO is bad,yet coupled with S.A./high drive. It can be a mean beast and one that will leave you alone mostly in the end. In the end nothing compares to the love of a good woman. Just find her brothers- and keep her. That's your compass rose. I have a high drive yes but at some point you realize its not just that. Your hooked on the O they give you(and in my case I was hooked on giving that to them,seeing a reaction even) and the rush of them...... get hooked one girl only. Even better if she can keep up- just without the PMO. It'll cause problems. I've known plenty of women who liked to watch porn while going at it and while its cool at first....it'll backfire. I've also met a huge amount who talk of their ex's being PMO addicts and its affects. Its always back fires. Just like AA says to alcoholics...one day at a time. You can get addicted to really anything. We are hardwired that way. So my three points of advice(that I take myself as well) to help ride out the storm- ones that helped me fight the waves at sea-
    1. Unplug
    2.Educate.
    3.Overwhelm
    -Unplug from Social Media as much as possible.Even your phone if possible. Go old school and find joy in the little things like our grandparents did.Its very empowering and worthwhile. Include your other half if possible. Meditation,exercise(boxing and kickboxing did wonders for me) change your diets as well- eat clean. You'll go through a phase, just make it healthy.Swimming helped me but I did it at night at the gym when there wasn't a huge amount of women all over.
    -Educate. There is a very real money derived route to exploiting the masses and its been here for a bit. Circumscribe your desires and keep your passions in due bounds brothers. A wise man once spoke to it "Its mistakes are buried, not headlined". Draw your own conclusions but either way you go-choose your own next step. Do not let someone sell you some thing or force you to a preconceived conclusion..... illuminate yourself to the mode. Take personal accountability and watch their weapons become useless against you. Read up on hobbies,music whatever anything that is positive and not doing harm to you or your mind.
    -Overwhelm your vices " wage war on your vices, not your neighbors" .....never stop punching back against them and check in here because I think this is a great site. I've watched from afar for a long time and this is my first post. I wanted to share my experiences and continued time with this group especially.
    I am a bit of an old school NASA geek. So Id say we're in the Gemini stage of this all. Not Mercury- but not Apollo yet... but soon we ll all be a Falcon Heavy and understand more of the affects. Until then grab the helm not- "that" helm and chart your coarse. God speed fapstronauts.
     
  14. a_man

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    Let's update the topic.I am still addict from escort service.
     
  15. a_man

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    Thank you for the reply.
    I will try to find friends at first.
     

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