Every. Single. Person. Can. Change.

Please guys. DONT GIVE UP!!!
I know you can do it. I am clean from porn for over half a year now and completed 84 days of No-Pmo as well. I have personal reasons why i stopped the No-Pmo for the time being, but i still think its by far the healthiest thing any guy can do. Probably at all. It felt the right thing to do, the most natural as well.

Its so worth to do it.

Just be aware that nature will always lure you back into porn. At the times you are most vulnerable.
Financial Stress
Breakups
Cheating
Not having (much) friends
Family issues
Work issues
Boredom
Comfort

The way of the temptation has many ways and forms. No matter how for you go with this, how many years you live in happyness without it, it just takes one moment of weakness to fall back.
Stay humble. Do not become riddled with arrogance. Practice awareness.
We all can stay clean and enjoy ourselves and women the way nature intended us to, with face-to-face interactions alone. Face-to-screen is everything but certainly not natural and will give you false views on sexuality, wrong views about your own as well as her body and make you think you aren't enough the way you are.

We can all heal from this and enjoy our lifes.

I believe in you! We can all do it!

Enjoy your weekend.

 

I've edited the main post according to what changes happened to my Life. Enjoy.

 

I am now able to sleep with a woman for an hour or more. I can pretty much choose how long i want to go, it is all about arousal control.

Trust me, if you don't do this for yourself you WILL fail. I made having beautiful Sex one of the highest priorities in my Life.
And only in the things that i have control over. Doing the right things, like quitting porn, not masturbating and doing nofap for 84 days.

Not going to lie, i feel SOOOOOOOOOO much better now.
I feel you should know that i am doing manual exercises to make my unit healthier and eventually bigger as well.
So far i dont have any increase in size, but my EQ is considerably better since i started doing them. But it takes time.
You gotta be willing to make all of this part of your regular, every-day life.

You ain't gettin anything for free.

 

For anyone interested: Even after almost a full year, i still have urges to watch porn.

I am sure it's normal. For that reason, after i moved i, decided not to get any internet in my apartment.
That shit saved me more than once already.

Of course my brain is fine and i can have sex with girl, without worrying whether i get my dick up or not.
But i am not so foolish to think that my brain won't try to trick me into going back to porn.
By removing the mere possibility of a relapse into the darkness of internet porn, i can still maintain this great achievement.

Again.
Don't think you are above those urges, just because you beat them once.
Your brain is a pretty tricky adversary.

 

Thank you. How are you doing in your journey, optimist? Is there a particular struggle you have? Maybe i can help you out

 

Hey Optimist!

How long are you in your journey? And how did the slip up happen?
Never let those rocks on your journey stop you from achieving your goal!!!

 

Just a quick Update.

I've been doing some special workouts for the last 6 months, and now my dick is in the average range, at least for lenght.
I wouldn't recommend it if your able to use a regular condom already, but since i am stuck with small sized ones, i'll keep working on making my unit bigger until i can at least use regular condoms without the fear of them falling off every time.

I strongly advice against this if you don't think you can fight the urges of porn. You WILL lose the battle and start from ground zero again. Not worth it.

But sex already feels a tiny bit better. I really like the new gained lenght, even if it isnt that much.

 

So, the relationship with the woman i've met just ended.

But i can still say, those 7 Months of regular (actually really good) Sex was one of the best times of my Life, even rivalling the time i spend in Australia.

If there is anyone still reading this, i cannot stress how important it is that you take responsibility for your own life. You will never get want you desire for free.

The reason why every single time i've met the woman was beautiful, was because i devoted my Life to having great relaltionships and great Sex. None of that was a cooincidence.
I was never surprised that i was having great sex with her. I was actually never nervous, besides for the very first time, and that only came from my still found issues about my smaller dick and whether she would accept it or not.
After that was out of the way, everything just skyrocketed. I don't want to go into detail, but all i can say that i've had the time of my with that woman, very similar to the one from Australia actually.

If you struggle with sex, there were mainly two things that made the difference.

Relationship: Honesty.

I was always honest and upfront and we talked about every single thing that bothered us, no matter how small it seemed to be.
Remember. You cannot look into the other Persons head. While you might have an issue, whatever that is, you need to talk about it, because more often than not, the other Person might not even be aware that you have an Issue and think everthing is eeeeyyy-okay.
That healthy dose of caring for your own wellbeing enough to bring up issues will someday save your relationship.

Sex: Being a "Caring Egoist".

What? That sounds contradictory to what most people think is good. But from what i've experienced, the Sex just got SOOOOOO much better after i read up everything i could, looked up every Position i could, and then dismissed everything that i didn't enjoy.
When the girl came over, she more or less lost every right to decide what were are going to do.
And being able to just "take" what is coming for a woman, can actually be amazingly liberating, especially in the Bedroom.
Don't get me wrong, i always had her pleasure in mind as well. I want her to feel great and desired.
Both mentally and physically.
But i still kinda never asked what she likes or what she would love to do in the Bedroom. She asked me a lot, but i never asked her.
I just have faith in my abilty as a lover now, so much so that i don't care what she wants and am still confident that i can make it really beautiful for both of us.
Oh year, and of course, only because i quit Porn. It's a nobrainer by now. It'll fuck everything up sideways ; )


And please don't ask me about why i stopped being with the woman, all you need to know is that the time was beautiful, and that, even before we first met, we both knew and i made it very clear that it was only going to be temporary. She was fine with it right from the start. We still talk, even though less, since we both have to come to terms with the fact that its over now. It's not good to have close contact after something beautiful isn't supposed to be anymore. Both need time at that point.


If you have any questions that aren't about her (because i won't answer them, neither here or PM), feel free to write here or send me a PM. If you need guidance from someone who has made it out of the Swamp and managed to turn his Sexlife into the beautiful thing it was supposed to be from the beginning, i am pretty sure i can help you.
But i can never do it for you. It's your road and you have to want to walk it. I can only guide you.

Reclaimed Life

 

Thank you very much. While Porn isn't so much of an issue anymore, the anxiety about my body still is very prevalent.
Don't get me wrong, most people on here might never understand since the majority is in the average range for penis size, while I know I'm not.
So while it's already hard to quit porn, I am going on a much longer journey than most people on this forum for sexual health and confidence, since it wasn't over after quitting porn.

Is it necessary? Certainly not. With the right woman, I can already have great Sex by now. But I hate the fact that I have to hope for her to be ok with what I have.
There is literally no reason for me not to do this. I have the time, I'm single and can go pretty long periods without any Sex if I have to.

Why not do something about it if there is a possibility for it?