What can I do to become an Alpha

You’re screwed. Enjoy you midlife crisis.

 

I’m a female but never give up! Make changes to make yourself feel better. You have many years ahead of you. Being kind isn’t a bad idea. Confidence (but not cockiness) is awesome. Figure out what you want from a partner and in life...decide before you pursue it and you will show more confidence!

 

If you know from past that you got a brain, and you're older in life, means you got tons of life experience. Put the experience, and brain toghether and achieve a huge life goal. You might have to learn about something completely different but do it. As long as you have life, keep striving. Youd be amazed at what age majority of people become rich, win noble prizes, etc. I'm sure you can do something great. I do feel that you need to stick to something once you start it. Think of your mind like this. I think you're smart, as you said. But if you're not loading your mind with ideas and topics relevant to your goals, then it doesnt matter how smart you are, you won't have the possible of making connections that could change your life. So educate yourself and read. You have potential, but you're not fueling that potential. You need to feed your mind, in my opinion.

 

It’s never too late. Look at all of the people in history who had significant accomplishments later in life past age 38. Focus on things you are interested in, competent with, and set small goals to build upon from there. Also find things you want to learn and go for it. You never know what you are capable of doing until you try. Forget the alpha male bs language too. Just be a good man and project confidence and kindness.

 

As long as you are breathing, it's never too late. Look at Nick Vujicic. You'll always have opportunity to get better.

Don't become an alpha. Become yourself, embrace your physique and your personality. There will always be someone that can lift more, or bit you in chess, but there will never be a better you than yourself.

 

First of all the term Alpha is ridiculous, just work on yourself. Find a hobby that pays the bills, find a hobby that keeps you in shape and a hobby that is creative. Add meditation and your schedule should be pretty packed. Women like guys that are confident, have their own life and can be themselves. Learning is never too late and it is pretty easy in the 21st century.

 

Whatever you can, and you should.

 

First off, stop thinking about the alpha-status. When I walk outside and see an other person, I never think "oh he is a alpha male". I don't care what he is. I care about myself.

Second, stop looking at everything that went "wrong" in the past. The past is not your future, but you have experience from the past that you can use in your future to become a better version of yourself. Learn for it. Use the experience you have to your advantage! You may have a lot more experience that a lot of other people! But now you are currently not using it.

You are saying you had potential, you still do. You know you have done great things in your life too. You just wrote it! But you are too focused on everything that did not work out for you. Use you experience and use your potential. You can still become a greater version of yourself.

Lets say you give up. You keep on doing what you do today. What will happen 10 year from now? I am pretty sure you will ask yourself the same question, or maybe the question "why did I give up?". By giving up you lose by default. Today everything you want to reach may seem big, but why not try? Why not try? Trying, is whats make you a better person.

And if you fail don't give up. People have misunderstood the word "failure". People put negative thougths into it, but actually it is just a part of the progress. People who reach their dreams and goals fail many times, but the diffrence is, is that they don't give up. Because they belive in themself.

 

Never mind the term 'alpha'... what is 'alpha' nowadays anyway, is mark zuckerberg alpha? the billionaire stereotypical geek who can get any girl he wants and has billions sitting in the bank? or is the dude down the bar without a penny in his pocket but is a loudmouth and willing to pick fights alpha? My analogies are not great but you get the point, forget the term it means nothing apart from in wildlife programs. The most important thing is being comfortable in your own skin and happy with yourself, then you can display whatever traits you wish, sometimes typically alpha some beta, who cares.... for this id recommend looking into spirituality, mostly buddhist principles, im not a wishy washy guy but for me there is great wisdom in buddhist ideology especially when it comes to discovering who you are at your most fundamental level.

Going by your description your clearly a smart guy with a vast amount of qualities but as you know it all comes down to how much your willing to put in. With the right amount of determination at 38 you are a baby... with no determination, your old son. At the end of the day what the anonymous opinion of people on this site means absolutely nothing to how you will fair on your journey, all that matters is your vision of what you feel you can achieve.

 

Alpha is a term for inmature people. You should aim to become a good man, not an alpha male. It is never too late, those who say it's too late are people who prefer to drown in their own self-induced misery rather than work out of it.

 

It's never too late bro. Stop dwelling on the past and start doing shit.

 

Just let that alpha man concept out of your head.
First of all, drag a piece of paper and write what you want in this life?? What are your dream and then start to work on it. Clearly define your goal of life (dream). Then find your Passion (anything you love to do), the action plan and skill that are required for your passion and start to rewire your habit.

 

Live in reality go out as much as possible stay away from screens as much as possible watch TV for news but limit it and never binge anything doesn't matter how good it is. Life is full of chances and our neuroplasticity allows us to become alpha. By not watching screen u will be a better person in general your lacking communications skills if any will improve. And rest follow a healthy lifestyle do fasts/intermittent fasting. And life is what u make of it. U can be fitter smarter rich and happy than u ever been age is just a number for those who are determined.

 

You can start by simply understanding that you have far more successes and positive experiences than you give yourself credit for. It's the truth, men are always hardest on themselves. When we are in a downward spiral (any negative emotion) we tend to continue to think with that feeling which adversely affects our thoughts and opinions. Whether it be upbringing or environment, you have nurtured an attitude that you are not enough, not successful, etc. It's time to drop judgements about yourself. Forgive yourself for the past that you think was a mistake and realize that the current you just dealt with the situation the best you could.

As many have emphasized already, it's never too late to make changes. There are really few strings that attach you from one day to the next. It's only in your mind that is contingent on repetitive habits that you think you are "stuck".

People from YouTube are the creme of the crop. There is a reason why they are producing content. Understanding this will be of great importance should you choose to compare yourselves with them. As another member has already mentioned, there will be always someone better than you at something, so what value could you gain from this point of comparison? None, you just continue to decimate your own mental wellbeing and forfeit any chance of realizing that you are already enough.

 

Study Greek.

 

Starting small is the important thing to know here. Small incremental steps are the way to go. Be better today than you were yesterday, period.