PMO-Free Commitment thread for SEPTEMBER 2019!

Day 37/90
11th Day of September. I woke up very unmotivated today. My gym partner hit me up and I managed to go to the gym. Feeling motivated now.

 

3-90 hardmode
Just keep it up

 

Coming in late, started on the 10th but definitely committed to hard mode for September. I'd have gone monk mode but I'm too addicted to YouTube for funny content.

 

Day 12 : I'm feeling down this mrng, mainly because I've given up all the pleasure sources, I can feel there is one more addiction from which we all have to deal That's the phone addiction coz only then the natural dopamine will reach us and only then we will be motivated to get imp thing done. Writing here in this forum gives me power and it helps! A stage of this nofap makes you feel so bad for a reason that you need to change your pleasure sources ! (Don't make that pleasure sources social media or a phone) get away you'll automatically do the things that makes you feel better.

 

Also if anyone also feel like this let me know! I really find that we are programmed in a way to destroy ourselves! I mean it's like the things we do or will do matters But this inner devil make you think and think and never do things! It's agenda is to not let u look at things which scares you and do the work and make you look at things which traps you! It's agenda is to give you all reason to not to even try !!! Trying is one thing which might convince us to take action!! But it don't want you to try too! And it gives you 100 reasons not to try too. It don't let u see itself too because it's so afraid that you might think it's not you! And it want you to indentify itself with you! I realise how important is the pain then it's like a north star which tells you where you have to go if we learn and be ok with this pain and use it as compass we can be really happy in life! Irony is Seeking only happiness will only lead us to be unhappiness and seeking pain makes you happy! Pain is for something good we have to realise this and let it guide us ! Don't run away from it!

 

Yes man true !!

 

Probably best if you don't "keep it up" !!!

 

If you're struggling with over-using your phone in general can I recommend you read, and follow the advice, in the book Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport. Deep information and research into the generally addictive nature of smartphones themselves, along with social media and messaging apps. I have a work issued iPhone which I've stripped down to the bare essentials. Gone are Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, Netflix, Amazon Video, YouTube, etc. I've turned off all audible and visible notifications including vibrate. It's amazing how little I now use my phone now that the little fucker isn't constantly reminding me that I need to check my email, my likes on Facebook, oh look I got a heart on Instagram, or 7 people have boards like mine on Pinterest, or why not watch this new boxset on Netflix?

And not responding to any of these alerts hasn't caused a single problem. I haven't missed anything important. I don't feel like I'm missing out on something. In fact, by not being constantly bombarded with all the amazing stuff everyone says they're doing, I've been able to get on with actually doing some amazing stuff myself for real.

The main point I'm trying to make it that the less you use your phone the less temptation there is to be triggered by something that leads you to open a private tab in the browser. It's also amazing what you can do with the 2-3 extra hours a day. Like getting a life, instead of pretending you have one by posting fake shit on social media.

 

Day 25/90
12th day of September.

 

Bro, the thing, I know that girl, and she is married!, but regardless.... I am married too! That is when this stuff gets more difficult. Anyway... keep living life, one day at a time

 

Yes bro, it is totally truth, the problem is that because of many years looking women in porn, it looks like my brain is wired to look those girls! I know in theory I have to keep my look away, but practically it is not that simple, I just can't control my mind yet, too much reward hormones running through... Anyway, I hope to rewire my brain with the reboot.

 

Thank you so much man!!! This will help!!

 

I'm trying to reboot from my phone too. I can waste hours on it doing nothing. Recently, I decided to delete all the apps on my that distract me and I've been alot more productive and getting less urges.

 

Preach!

 

Day 37/90
12th of September. Urges have subsided a bit. Focusing the extra time on things that matter and things that make me feel good.

 

Sorry Went on a bit of a rant. I got cross at the statement that all women are attention seeking whores, because that would include my daughter, my wife, my mother, my sister, my grandmothers, my aunties, my mother-in-law, my sister-in-law, etc., etc. The only whores I know are in videos on PornHub and the only reason they're there is because of men like us. The sooner we face up to that fact and own it, the sooner we can all do something about it.

 

Hey guys, I just singed up here on the site and I want to join into the challenge for september. I am a bit late, but my current attempt startet on August 26th so this should be fine. I heard about Nofap and now I want to get to know this community. So, nice to meet you.

 

Welcome @Lukos, glad to have you here!

 

lol don't be sorry, I agree with you entirely.

 

First of all I never said all women are like that. However, I was only referring to teenage/young adult girls, who try to act one( putting on all that make up, tight pants, etc..) who post pics saying "I love you" and all that posing a kiss. Many teens nowadays do that. Everytime I see a girl who dresses like shes 23, when she really only in high school I can tell all she want is attention, and that just pisses me off all the time. I wont waste my time going after girls, when I really should be going after my true pursuit of happiness and life goals. Lemme give you an example; I was helping a girl out a long time ago freshmen year and we were talking and really good friends. Overtime, she stopped showing interest in me and hung out with me less and less. I see her one day at lunch sitting with another boy (one of my friends) and they started dating, which I am happy for them and not jealous, but she never even accepted my friend request. It was like I never existed to her. Also, you claim that I see "women as objects" but its not my fault the way they advertise themselves, being in public in swimsuits, wearing bras exposing their skin, skipping class, wearing make up, all because they try to impress us men. There are also women that think the same way, in fact a good amount of them do, don't focus on guys, focus on success and making YOURSELF happy.
As for me, there are many girls I know who aren't hoes and try to act like one, but the ones that do( 60-70% of my school) try their hardest and its funny. I also know as they get older, like boys, they mature. And don't get it twisted, there are many boyz, even more than girls, that end up wanting attention and act like players, breaking hearts one after another. I believe both sides have to fix somethings to truly appreciate one another without the mentioned preconceived notions