i’m going to SAVE MY 11 year old cousin!!!!

I need advice on how i should go about warning my little cousin about pmo

He has extreme potential, i see it in him. Greatness lies waiting to be sprung. He reminds me of myself before i started pmo.

His parents told me that he is actually borderline genius. he has photographic memory. He solves rubix cube in under 30 seconds. He is extremely intelligent.

He memorized and recited all 45 presidents names at christmas dinner. He is good looking, and is very good at sports too. He’s good at videogames and has good coordination, spatial awareness.

He has a good heart, is kind to others, but is also very competitive, and loves to win. He beat everyone in the family at foosball and says he plays better under pressure

He has the means to be something really extraordinary. Admittedly, i see myself in him. And i see a chance to redeem myself in a way through him.

Because i used to be similar to him when i was younger, but i threw it all away when i started pmo. i was oblivious!!!! I RUINED MY HIGH SCHOOL YEARS! I RUINED MY POTENTIAL AND MY CHANCES TO RISE AND BECOME THE BEST I COULD BE.

I dont want this to happen to my cousin. i want to save him, i want him to have the best teen years ever.

I am planning next time i see him to tell him in detail about pmo and the harmful effects and also positive benefits from abstaining. i will impress upon him how important it is to stay pure and guard his heart.

I was going to tell him a lot in detail, but i need advice on how i should go about this. Maybe telling him too much is a bad idea... but i don’t want him to be ignorant.

I must save him

 

Idk if he has or has not started. I don’t think he has. I’m not gonna force him to share anything. I am going to warn him never to start

Alright i’ll ask his parents permission

 

No i don’t. But i’m gonna do it.

i’m shocked at your guys responses. If you had the opportunity to go back in time, knowing what you know now, to stop your younger self from getting into pmo, i’m sure you would do everything you could to prevent yourself from getting into that.

The worst day ever was the day we started this. So i’m trying to do a good thing and prevent my cousin from ever ruining his life.

Btw my younger cousin’s older brother who is 19 shared with me that he started pmo at age 10. And he has always hated himself since then.

If i don’t act or make my younger cousin aware, he will befall the same fate

 

That’s what i’m trying to do bro: educate him. i cant control or dictate his life anyway. I only see him rarely during summer sometimes or Christmas break.

You can’t just let them learn their own way, when they don’t know the way. It’s so easy for the young ones to get lost and have no idea why their life sucks, simply because they were oblivious.

I’m going to make him aware and stress how important this is. Not just say “oh don’t watch porn, it’s bad”. That’s not gonna stop him

 

you’re right he will he exposed no matter what. But how he responds once he exposed might be different if he really gets the impact.

I am not saying that he will escape it just because i say some things to him, but i at least increase the likelihood he might escape, or not get sucked in. Or maybe instead of starting nofap at age 20, he will he able to start at like age 14

 

There is no way to catch him. i don’t get to see him very often. I would never know if he did it everyday or never at all.

Kids are sneaky too and will delete their history.

What i am aiming for is prevention and awareness, rather than catching him and scolding him.

An ounce of prevention is worth 1000 gallons of cure

 

good lately. I’ve been helping keep my younger cousins older brother accountable. Now the older one reached 30 days nofap for the first time.

Their aunt and uncle thanked me and said they really appreciated me giving accountability to the older cousin.

I also divulged just a little how pmo messed me up. I asked them last year to please have a talk with the younger one to protect him and make him aware.

According to my mom, my aunt and uncle have been having talks with my younger cousin. But it won’t be enough, they don’t understand the hell we have been through to get over this. They will probably just say not to do it and that it’s bad and degrades women, etc

They don’t know how it affects every aspect of your life, every social situation, every dynamic