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The Search for Sex

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Lakeside, Sep 2, 2019.

  1. Get_It

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    Sure, the ideal situation is for a guy to have sex with a woman who's in love with him, but its stupid and hypocritical to think that a healthy man would avoid or turn down sex with an attractive woman. Some of you people like to talk like you're more moral than you are in reality.
     
  2. Lakeside

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    Great post! I agree with a lot of what you're saying. And it's very interesting to see it from the point of view of a non-religious person who "saved sex".
     
  3. Lakeside

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    Why's it "stupid" to think a guy can have some self control? Please explain.
    And it can't be hypocritical unless I've actually done anything contrary to what I've said (and I haven't).
    Happily I've never been put in the situation you are suggesting, but I'm confident that if I was I would turn it down.
    And as for being "moral", I know full well that I am very immoral. I'm a sinner; why else would I be on here? It's only through submitting to Jesus that I am able to live anything close to a moral life.
     
  4. I was born Jewish and since 2015 I have been a "good" Christian. I'm one of the few lucky men who have no problem finding a willing woman. In fact even at age 75 I still get hit on once in awhile. How nice. When I was younger I was a door to door salesman and I have slept with round about 400 woman of all manner you can think of. They would invite me right into their homes, and some came knocking on my door for a re-run later. I have been propositioned and slept with rabbi's wives because of the austerity in Judaism, and also by married woman while at my Christian church. At some point I did turn some of it down because there was so much of it I got bored. I don't think that moralizing about sex or not is the point for me right now. I don't think it's about anything other than those "rules" were set up to promote families at a time when society needed them. We don't now, and people have a lot more time to fill in their days. The truth is people have sex because they absolutely LOVE it, and to follow religious sexual and interpersonal doctrine, or abstinence, then, after a while if you don't take care of yourself your biology begins to batter you. You will find the sex you want and then justify it psychologically later with denial to maintain your "goodness". So I agree with the poster..."come on".
     
  5. Get_It

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    Short answer, I am a Douchebag. Forgive me as its Friday night and I like to get good and drunk come the weekends. Longer answer later after I sobered up.
     
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  6. Get_It

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    Winner Winner Chicken Dinner!
     
  7. It's not the perversion or the PMO I am seeking here. It is to rid myself of the horrible side effects I am enduring, and normalize my brain. I am plagued by lack of physical balance, migraine headaches, brain fog, memory loss, lack of energy, and wasted time etc. If I can't function during the day what good is the occasional O? No PMO is much better than jerking off with P, gaming or even visualizing the hundreds of affairs I have stored in my mind. Those are solitary pursuits. Far better to look directly into a woman's eyes and converse with her in real time. If I am lucky enough to fall in love again and have a stable relationship...that would be joyous. My best to you Lakeside. And so it goes.
     
  8. Infrasapiens

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    Did someone said sex? WHERE?!
     
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  9. Veritech

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    I'm not sure how this post turned into such a philosophical question about sex, and whether we need sex.

    We don't need our smartphones; but everybody seems to have one.

    I think the initial point is that having sex outside of a committed relationship is not healthy - just as PMO is unhealthy.

    I tend to agree.
     
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  10. Sex is like that thing you can't have but want, once you get it you realize it's overrated
     
  11. HornyChang

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    If you dont get sex regularly, then that is all you want because it is a desire. People jerk off because they cant live out these fantasies that porn gives. For example, I want to smash a big booty latina. A lot of dudes can't have that because either they don't have the social skills, confidence or too ugly. People will always choose the real thing over porn. If it was a lot easier for guys to get laid with all their fantasies, porn would be useless. Jerking off with your hand is not the same as penetrating a girl. It feels different. Its real, theres attraction, there is sometimes a connection. How is that at all the same as a hand. Where you rub your hands together nut and go to sleep.

    A lot of people do nofap for different reasons. A popular one is girls are attracted to you. They want to live out their fantasy of becoming a player/baller who fucks a lot of girls. They dont want to be a dude who stays in his room all day beating his meat. People watch porn and jerk off because they want to do what they can't do. Dudes dream about playing out the fantasy and nofap somewhat helps them head towards the right direction because he isnt wasting his time jerking off and finally going out to smash the big booty latina. Everyone has different goals when it comes to nofap. A lot of dudes want to become social and finally fuck some girls like a normal dude. If you have been deprived of pussy your whole life, you would understand the need to want to get laid. Normal people who get laid regulary dont care because they know they can get it eventually. Guys who are virgins might not learn how to ever get laid. Thats why nofap is so popular, it makes people go out there and chase what they are looking for.
     

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