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Having Erection when talking to girls

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Stillhope, Sep 14, 2019.

  1. Stillhope

    Stillhope Fapstronaut

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    Hello guys
    So the title says it all when the girls approaches me I start having an erection for no damn reason is this because i'm porn addict , and yeah one more thing I cannot look them in the eyes . Currently i'm on day 3 NoFAP .
     
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  2. It happens to me sometimes
     
  3. Just Rose

    Just Rose Distinguished Fapstronaut

    You'll gain self control and confidence to look in their eyes as you achieve more days in your counter. Keep going
     
  4. A_glass1900

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    It’s normal. It used to happened to me when I used to talk to a girl that I find attractive to from school or if any girl approaches next to me. I was quite shy because of my erection was going. At the same time I needed to hide the erection. I always felt like she’s gonna see it. But still don’t pmo.
     
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  5. deepspace

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    It's so strange how this stuff manifests. In high school I was practically suicidal for lack of a girlfriend, using porn daily, but instaboners or lack of eye contact from talking to them never happened. Are you still a teenager?

    My mom always stressed the importance of looking everyone in the eyes as a matter of politeness though, so I never felt like not looking in someone's eyes was an option.

    Seriously, you're being rude to not look in someone's eyes during a conversation. Maybe just knowing that might help.

    I'll just tell you. Look them in the fucking eyes. Avoiding eye contact is pathetic. You know who avoids eye contact? The weak monkeys when they're interacting with the big alpha ape because he's afraid to get pounded. You've got a pair of balls. You have nothing to fear looking some woman in the eyes. I don't mean to sound dismissive of your issues, but how the hell is any woman ever going to respect you, let alone be interested in you if you don't even have that basic social grace? You're not some weak monkey or a little boy fessing to mommy about raiding the cookie jar. You're a man. Act like it. Please take this as encouragement and not derision.

    You're a guy right? Even if you don't lift weights you can fucking destroy a female body builder in a fight. You are strong. Look them in the fucking eye. They will respect it of you as a man even if they don't think particularly much of you as a person. That's nature.

    They're also not looking at the tent you may be pitching. If you've got a boner, then wear it proudly. Don't draw attention to it, but don't apologize for it either.

    FORCE YOURSELF to look women in the eyes. When you don't look them in the eyes, that's when they see you as a pathetic wanker. Get used to it. Get comfortable with it. Flirt. Risk being "creepy." Just don't avert your eyes like a frightened pathetic bitch. You are the man.
     
  6. It is good though if you can smile with them too. It is nothing, sometimes it would give you the motivation to somehow know more why the hell your ding dong stands up when you are with girls. Erection would mean that they are attractive or something like that. You should know your place though and be aware of the situation. Just if it happens again.
     
  7. Another thing, do not force anything on yourself. It is just so obvious sometimes when you are tryna do something unnatural, uncomfortable. Instead just be with it, unless you know it for yourself, you'll never know what really the right thing is.
     
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  8. Jason_Tesla_19

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    Something I've been slowly learning is that people follow others' gaze. If you're looking down at your boner, you're just drawing attention to it. If you're holding someone's gaze with eye contact, they're less likely to notice a bulge in your pants! Women are particular about eye contact, more so than men. Eye contact gets their attention like nothing else!
     
  9. Thank your lucky stars you do not have PIED.
     
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  10. deepspace

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    I wish I knew at 13 what I knew now nearing 40. I had people telling me "be confident" and I thought it was bullshit back then. I wasn't mature enough to understand what it meant. It sounded so superficial. Don't sell yourself short, and don't let this porn thing be an excuse to sell yourself short.

    These books will help:
    The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene
    How to Talk to Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere: The Secrets of Good Communication by Larry King
    How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

    If you can't look people in the eyes, then you are fucking behind. Read these books and catch the fuck up. I swear these three books will change your life, especially if you're a teen. Understand how people tick and you won't be so intimidated, regardless of what's between their legs.
     
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  11. skaterdrew

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    Why are you complaining about that? That's a really good sign.

    You sound extremely sensitized, which is what you want.
     
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  12. I started some training of building self-confidence by looking people in the eyes. When I am walking in public I keep my head straight and watch my environment. Especially I look at persons when they come towards me and try to look at there eyes as long as possible. Sometime the other person looks somewhere else, sometimes I feel not "strong" enough and look away. But it is a very good training, so maybe you can try it too.
     
  13. Stillhope

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    yesterday I released anyway i think PMO and my issue is linked some how
     
  14. &&&&&&&&

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    Don't worry so much, given that you are only on day 3. You still have a long journey to go bro.
    When I had just started nofap, even I couldn't talk to girls. I am a short guy, so some girls are taller than me. Even I couldn't talk to the so called Alpha boys. I had extremely low self esteem. Then you know what, I realised that my friends were the reason for this issue. The were butthurts, jealous about my achievements, etc, and always put me down.
    I changed them and made new friends.
    See, you need to realise that if you talk to girls or boys, confidently, they wouldn't eat you up. Thats what I thought. Talk like you are talking to a family member. Don't even think about their hotness.
    Thats how I progressed. Now I don't even think about looking into someone's eyes, it's automatic.
    Ofcourse this will take time. Your brain needs to rewire first and remove all fantasies.
    All the best bro.
     
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  15. Yeah, this is good. Possibly, you're nervous and you're horny. I don't think this is bad. If you were a total porn addict, you would have no erection at all and you would barely be interested in girls, you'd be interested in porn.
    Get it right man, stay focused and look people in the eyes. You can start with yourself in front of a mirror. And talk to yourself. Speak out loud your thoughts (when you're alone, so nobody can think you're weird).
    And ditch porn and masturbation forever.
     
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  16. Stillhope

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    Dude it's not normal when you having a normal conversation that you got Eiffel tower standing
     
  17. TheGambler

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    That's wild I just had the same thing happen with a girl that lives a couple doors down from me. So I decided to log on here to discuss my "craving". Well, in my experience in the past this shit doesn't get better, it gets worse. Like the longer I went w/o PMO before my libido would skyrocket to a point where almost nothing I did would calm me down.

    Haven't gotten to ice baths YET
     
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  18. Stillhope

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    Yeah dude , I think i have low self esteem that's why
     
  19. Stillhope

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    Ice baths the thought give me anxiety
     
  20. Nah, there is no such thing. You ain't that bad. I bet you're doing better than you think you are. Don't focus on the girls, focus on how you can improve yourself and girls will come. No Porn, no Masturbation is a good start. If you stick to it, your own hormones will push you beyond your self imposed barriers. You will want it much more than ever.
    Women send signals when they like what you are and how you are, you will feel it when it's right.

    And I believe that healthy women find it gross and kind of a looser attitude when guys masturbate.
     

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