1. Welcome to NoFap! We have disabled new forum accounts from being registered for the time being. In the meantime, you can join our weekly accountability groups.
    Dismiss Notice

Your best bet to get rid of your pharaphilia/fetish

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by VCjonas12, Sep 4, 2019.

  1. VCjonas12

    VCjonas12 Fapstronaut

    25
    17
    3
    How to get rid of a fetish or paraphilia:
    This also works for other form of deviant sexual behaviour.

    Step 1:

    Identify what events caused your fetish. Read studies, do shadow work and compare. Just try to figure out what caused your fetish Is it trauma-induced? Is it porn-induced? Is it a learned behaviour from childhood conditioning?

    Step 2:

    Block out all activities that activate neural pathways that correspond to your fetish. Thoughts, Fantasies, Pornography, Masturbation, Sex, Activities
    It's not easy. I know. But just do it. Do meditation to control these compulsive thoughts and behaviour. Don't underestimate meditation.
    Really do it. Don't skip this. Don't.

    Step 3:

    Have a life. Be busy. Don't be bored. Then it will be easier to abstain from
    activities that activate those neural pathways. When you have nothing going on in your life, then it's easy to use porn/masturbation as an escape.

    Step 4:

    Keep going

    Step 5:

    Release emotions. Often some experience or series of experiences gave you
    certain feelings/emotions/cravings. And you associated sexual arousal with
    these feelings/cravings. You got to RELEASE from your system. They are
    stored bio-energetically. In your subconscious. In your CELLS. Find out on
    how this stuff works. And find methods to release. I find holotropic breathwork and psychedelics to have huge healing powers. On all levels. Often people with sexual issues have a lot more psychological issues thoughout their life. Go read this book: Stan grof - psychology of the future.

    Step 5:

    After some while, start trying to get laid and make this happen. Try to have sex with girls in real life. Don't worry if you can't climax at first.
    You might not be able to just yet. You might, you might not. I don't know. But you gotta try, this is what will strengthen neural pathways associated with getting sexual gratification from normal sex with a partner. If you suck with girls: Go on youtube and look at RSDtyler, Rsdmax, ToddvDating
    Attraction is not about having certain traits. Attraction get's generated by the feelings a girl get by the way you interact with her. It's about the emotions she get from your energy. Read this book: Way of a superior man by david Deida. Don't be a pussy and approach girls on the street and stop giving a fuck.

    Step 6:

    Don't just stop here. There's a lot more potential. Grow into your
    Social potential. Mental potential. Emotional potential. Spiritual potential.
    Sexual potential. Intellectual potential. Read books, implement the knowledge.

    Note: Remember also that when you got rid of your fetish. Your normal sexual interests will come back as you will still need a sexual outlet. So it will become a lot easier to climax during normal intercourse. This way you strengthen those neural pathways, and as the old ones don't get used, they will athropy. And after you associated pain with those pathways, you won't have any interest in using them.

    Note: If you have seen a therapist, or any other professional and they told you to accept yourself as you are. do that by any means. Accept who you are.
    But don't accept the fact that it is who you will always be. You can change if you want. It's not because some professional told you that there is no treatment and the only possible solution is making peace with yourself, don't necessary listen to that advice. Do your own research. Always know that they are acting from their OWN paradigm, made up with their theoretical knowledge and life experience. It the easiest route for them to say that you have to accept yourself for who you are and that you can not change. Sometimes that's the better route, I agree. Some people don't have the willing power to go through all these steps, nor the intellect to create this vision. If you don't create a vision for quiting this stuff and know what steps to go through and WHY those steps are important, then you will probably not follow them and fall into old habits. So sometimes acceptance is better and will cause less distress. Most people will get tired of fighting themselves and will give up, but will probably always face these difficulties, but probably make peace with it and the internal resistance isn't as intense as before then. But realise that it is your decision. If you don't want to accept, don't, educate yourself and fight for your future. You will only live one time. You will be dead before you realised it. When you are 80, it will seem like that was so short of a ride. Don't waste your life. Go meditate, become peace with what is. Go look into yourself. Sit in silence. Go find out who you are and what you want.

    I hope this helps. If you got any input, leave it down below.
     
    Last edited by a moderator: Sep 21, 2019
    Frelsig, The Bink and Robinthehood like this.
  2. ultrafabber

    ultrafabber Fapstronaut

    1,339
    1,633
    143
    Electrical shock aversion is an anazing tool for any bad habit and works great against pmo.

    However, RSD tyler et are massive tools douchebags and should never be used as an example for human interaction. Tyler is more than likely autistic.
     
    Kiz Whalifa likes this.
  3. Clean Willy

    Clean Willy Fapstronaut

    192
    320
    63
    It takes one to know one ultrafabber, lol. :D
     
  4. VCjonas12

    VCjonas12 Fapstronaut

    25
    17
    3
    Why do you think that?

    Also, it’s not about who. It’s more about what. Take the good stuff, leave the bad stuff.
     
  5. I have a question, i do have a fetish by pregnant women, it was developed in a early childhood. I mean, it's not porn induced, and it doesn't make me distressed. Should i try to get rid of it?
     
    Last edited by a moderator: Sep 21, 2019
  6. VCjonas12

    VCjonas12 Fapstronaut

    25
    17
    3
    That's your choice. If you enjoy the fetish, and it does not cause any distress, then I guess it's not necessary. Can you enjoy normal sex that does not include your fetish?
     
  7. Actually yes, i can enjoy without it. I do have another question, isn't this "Eletrical shock aversion therapy" the same used for SSA people in the 80's? Do you think it would work for homosexual people?
     
  8. Actually, i think homosexuality differs from a paraphilia, it's more like REAL sexuality. Though, i've actually got curious about this eletrical shock stuff, would think it would be moral apply that in our modern society?
     
  9. VCjonas12

    VCjonas12 Fapstronaut

    25
    17
    3
    I know there are individuals who were homosexual that benefitted from electrical shock therapy, there were case studies on that and their homosexual desires deminished to a certain extent.

    But that's not how to go about treating homosexuality tho.

    Homosexuality is caused by postnatale (after birth) environment factors such as:
    Absent father - identification with the mother
    sexual abuse
    alienation from 'normal' masculinity caused by shame, anxiety, low self-esteem from traumatic events in childhood and adolescence.
    Being scared of the opposite sex
    ...

    All these factors can lead to homosexuality. If you want to become heterosexual, you need to work on the underlying issues, such as resolving trauma. Releasing trapped emotions. Growing into your masculinity.
    you'll have to look at this site: https://www.josephnicolosi.com/
    Check out what he says, if you're gay and want to be heterosexual,
    this is your only way. Don't listen to mainstream society that you are trapped in your homosexual identity.

    IT IS ACTUALLY POSSIBLE TO TURN HETEROSEXUAL AS A HOMOSEXUAL !
     
  10. VCjonas12

    VCjonas12 Fapstronaut

    25
    17
    3
    Yeah, it is not categorised as a paraphilia. It is still a devation of normal sexuality. It is a learned behavior through childhood conditioning. If you can de-condition the behaviors that causes your homosexual desires, you'll automatically become more sexually interested in the opposite sex.

    And I think so. If that can help people to feel better about their lives, and they want it themselves, then why not. Nothing gets forced upon anyone.
     
  11. I use to be an unbeliever. Or maybe the correct term is a backslider in the faith, these are all very good points you have but I can come to the cross with any problem I have. And my faith tells me that I am more than a conqueror in Christ, I believe demons have perverted what was originally a good plan.. (Sex) so for instance a demon could keep you bound and enter your life through abuse, because I believe they feed on the negative.

    My faith tells me that we fight not against flesh and blood but against principalities and powers in high places that are evil. I have fallen into Sin so much even today but glory be to God for his redemption. I do not have to worry about my own shortcomings, but know that God has a plan for my life and I will not fail
     
    PeterNF.01 and ivanhoe like this.

Share This Page