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I'm new to this... Please help.

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by premmyprem2013, Jan 20, 2014.

  1. premmyprem2013

    premmyprem2013 Fapstronaut

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    I have been struggling with porn and masturbation for 13 years now. I am 27, and I have been married for almost 6 years, and have been hiding my porn and masturbation from my wife. When I started masturbating at 14, I didn't know what I was doing was bad and destructive. Since then it has taken over my life, and I need to change now. I kept making excuses that "once i get married it will be easy to stop," or "after we have our first kid, that will be a big enough life change that I will stop then," but it continues on. I have "quit" a couple of times before; some for a couple of months, others for a couple of weeks, but now I find that I give in about once or twice a week. I am ready to quit for good, but I know that I will need extra help. I am glad I found this forum, and hopefully I can get the help I need, and will be able to quit for good. I can see the consequences of choosing to view porn and masturbate. I am not as loving to my wife, and I have more of a depressed attitude. It kills me that that I hide this from my wife, and I want to end this once and for all, so I can be true to her and end this lie that has taken over my life. Please help.
     
  2. Eriaku

    Eriaku Fapstronaut

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    Hi, welcome to this forum, here you can find a true friendship that can help you and make you help the others, cuz the only true love you can find is here, there is no such thing like perver ppl around here, so, can i ask you first, so please tell me what you feel and forget all the healthy things you hear, but tell me what you think and why you should stop porn and masturbation ?
    happy to see you here
     
  3. premmyprem2013

    premmyprem2013 Fapstronaut

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    I want to stop PM because I feel like I am cheating on my wife when I spend hours looking at fake women online. I should spend that time with my wife, and not dreaming about all these other women. I have also noticed that it is taking more and more hardcore porn to make me M, and I am afraid that one day I could do the unthinkable, and go and fornicate. It would kill me to have to tell my wife that I cheated on her. It's already killing me that she doesn't know what I do behind closed doors. I am ready to quit this and be done for good.
     
  4. William

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    Hi prem, what I know about quitting is here.

    http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?2402-Get-educated-get-tools-and-learn-to-love-withdrawals

    Maybe you can use what I know to help yourself. I know I stole a lot of ideas from other guys to get 6 months clean. You have to get porn completely out of your life. It is a button we push to get a dopamine release. If you take time to read the thread you will get educated, get tools, and learn to love withdrawals. Porn is out of my life, and I am never letting it back in, as in ever, forever, until the day I die. No big thing.

    Good luck in your journey.
     
  5. premmyprem2013

    premmyprem2013 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for the support William. I really appreciate it, and can use all the help I can get. Thank you.
     
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  7. lefthanded

    lefthanded New Fapstronaut

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    So all of we are here for the same reason, quit masturbation because it damages our life in some way or another. We are here to help us each other so, you are among men (and some women) with the same issue, feel you free of share whatever you want. Go ahead and prove you willpower over this journey. ;)
     

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