Desensitivity to women by porn of transsexuals / sex with transsexuals.

So it seems as though you are VERY aroused and stimulated by TS way more than women........ as evidenced by your ability to maintain a strong erection.

There are men out there who are very much into Transexuals...as their main attraction.

Would you consider dating one out in the open?
And if no, why not? They are solely a sexual fetish?

Maybe
You should stop denying your obvious attraction...and try to legit date one.
You can always adopt kids. I’m sure there are many Trans women out there just dying to be loved and not treated solely as a sexual fetish.


Ever consider this?

Your other option is stop looking a transgendered person porn forever and stop having sex with transwomen...... forever.

Then maybe your will fetish will leave you.

Good luck

 

Good morning and thanks for posting! This sounds like conditioning and as someone who has been with a number of transexuals in my lifetime I will check in.
First, I am old (for NoFap. I'm 54) and was having relations with TS before there was transgendered person porn. Now it really seems like a major niche in porn. I am a product of my thoughts and what I feed myself. When I feed myself videos of one kind of another, I can't help but gravitate toward whatever that is. If I obsessively watch videos of cookies and milk while I MO I will probably get hard for Oreos!
I understand attraction to TS and enjoying their company. They are people too and are loving, crazy, fun and nuts just like anyone else.
I agree with above that there is nothing wrong with having a relationship with a TS, if that is what you really want. I did for a time (25 yrs ago) and after almost a year I decided it wasn't what I really wanted.
I have learned that I need more time away from my PMO behavior to make any real decisions or choices. If I have been living a lifestyle for 10 years (and yes, being with TS is a different lifestyle) it will take me time to uncloud my brain. It could take a year.. I'm not saying don't O for a year. I'm saying I need to work this program for a while before I can get any real results.
There is nothing wrong with you. Erections come back, passion comes back and love comes back too when we get free from unwanted sexual behavior.
I have a wonderful wife whom I adore. I think she is sexy and we have great lovemaking. That is where my heart lies. PMO is about my head. My head still wants the thrill of other sex like TS or massage or whatever. But I want to live from my heart. And in my heart (quiet voice. Head loud voice) I know that life is not for me.
Keep working on yourself and try to be patient. The answers will come as we gain freedom from PMO and our brain clears.
If you want to talk about this further I am happy to do so. Just private message me.

 

It's not so simple as "you just couldn't do it anymore" man. Adjust your strategy, for me what finally worked was creating a strong conviction within myself. Just being on this forum is not enough to have a strong conviction. You have to desire a normal sexuality somewhere deep within yourself.

 

I have this fetish. And understand exactly what you're talking about. I went from normal porn to worse to worse to worse until I ended up watching transgendered person porn.

Finally I had sex with one. I felt so guilty afterwards but then I repeated the cycle.

Before I discovered ts porn the thought never entered my mind. This is a porn induced fetish that can be reversed.

I was banging both woman and ts for along time. I thought I could live a double life. But eventually I realised that woman are who I truly desire deep down, and ts stuff is just a thrill/drug it's not real.

The turning point for me was realising I was less horny with woman than I used to be. That scared me, I realised I could not have it both ways (ts and woman). I had to choose.

This is what started me on my nofap journey and I can tell you ITS WORKING! My desire to have anything to do with TS is going away - fast!

Porn, lust and TS are a drug

Real woman are trust, love and intimacy

Stay the course

 

Hey my friend just wanted to thank you I appreciate your post your openness and your courage to talk about this topic.

I can relate I too have fallen into the trap of porn and escalation got me and transwoman and transgendered person became my normal and before I new it I was out looking and have sex with trannys and transwomen.
All this while being with the love my life. For me this destroyed me on the inside. And I couldn't look at myself. As much as my brain loved it and thought it was fun .
My heart knew this lifestyle was wrong.
I told myself after my last encounter that it would be my very last I had to turn away it was truly what I wanted.

On the plus side I noticed huge change in my mind body and soul the longer and longer I stayed away from this kind of behavior. The shame goes away the love of self returns and your love making to your partner is extremely euphoric.

For myself my second life was killing me I turned away and I dont plan on looking back I know their will be urges but I can not longer carry this with me in this life time. Thanks again for the post and getting me to get this out their.
Wish you the very best and continue to work on yourself.

 

you like TS more than women. that's your 'problem'. accept and embrace your sexuality. it's what you want. you could still find an open minded woman who accepts this about you. or who knows, nowadays can find 2- 1 woman 1 TS who'd live with you.

sexuality is fluid. you can't force it. so just let your greatest TS fetish flow through you and enjoy it as much as you can.

 

Troll

 

how am i a troll? you can't get rid of your sexual fetishes, unless your sexuality changes and you get new ones. so, reread my reply. maybe it will sink in...

 

You can get rid of porn induced ones there is literally 100s of examples across nofap forums. He's obviously not happy with his behavior which has been fueled by porn use.

What you're suggesting is like saying to a drug user "hey it's obvious you love heroin, just keep doing let it flow through you, despite it upsetting you"

Not sure how old you are, but it seems like a pretty illogical and potentially harmful response to someone reaching out for help.

 

he said he enjoys actual sex with TS rather than sex with women. did you even READ what he typed? now if he said he enjoys TS porn more than regular, then i'd say it's in your head. but he said his dick won't function 100% only 60 with women, but with TS it's 100. which means it's what he currently likes.

i had TS fetish. but when i fucked TS irl, it was weird. and by this time porn nearly destroyed me. i got to a point where a sexy TS is there with me sucking me off and when it was time having sex with her, my dick went limp. i couldnt even get hard having my type TS right there in front of me. my sexuality changed in a way. also, it was because i never truly enjoyed anal sex. it was weird and you had to stay 100% hard. but i had lots of porn problems with ED.

so, no offense. but i know more than you on this matter and know exactly what i'm talking about. i never went out and explored my sexuality like the op with TS but experimented it through porn. he did it irl and he loved it to the point where his dick won't function fully UNLESS he has sex with TS.

 

i went through what the op is going through you moron. the only differnce is, i went through NOFAP for 1+years and he hasnt. and also that he actually went out and sought out sex in his fetish, and i didnt. because i always let my fears get the best of me.

 

Word! Preach

 

ultimately, you're the only one who will know the answer in the end. if after NOFAP of 1 year or however long you withold, you will see and FEEL who you are most attracted to. if your TS fetish wins, embrace it. don't run away from it or it will only hurt you in the end.

 

I'm afraid only you can answer this question.
And the only way your going to find out is by abstaining from all sexual activity, all porn, all images of sexy women, reject all thoughts and fantasies also.
Do this for 90+ days and then see if you are attracted to real life women.