When the fetish stuff becomes a problem

Odd fetish tbh...

 

It's alright brotha! No need to feel ashamed, we are all a one big family here. It's good you came out and talked about this, together we can help each other out. Don't be afraid to DM me if you need someone to talk to!

 

Look, I don't know people say that natural fetishes before porn cannot be cleared and shit like that. I don't believe it. If your mind can be trained to like some extreme things and get aroused to them by porn. Then you can also train your brain to dislike them and not get aroused by them. Here's how it is. You might have watched foot fetish porn and most likely watched a really hot and attractive women in the scene. Obviously we pick the scenes with the hottest girls so you feel better. So now the focus was on the foot fetish and the attractive girl. You might be 5% turned on by the actual foot fetish and 95% by this hot naked attractive girl on your screen. So your brain links this foot fetish or boot fetish to the attractive girl and not actually feet. So when you see the feet or boots, subconciously your brain thinks there is a hot girl associated with it. Hence, an arousal follows. This is how your mind changes. But now if you link the boots with hurtful or negative emotions, initially it will turn you on for few months but then your brain will remove it from the pleasure section and put it into pain. Your arousal will slowly fade. Ofcourse youre not suppose to masturbate to the negative emotions otherwise you'll start getting turned on by hurtful things which is not good. I am just saying. As long as you don't want something truly as a part of you, your mind will understand it some day and change itself.

 

Thanks for sharing this struggle my friend I'm sure you do feel a great deal of shame. But first I will tell you that you need to first love yourself. Your batteling conditioning. Your brain was built to love and enjoy this fetish after years of your porn use. This can be reversed but its gonna take time and a lot of hard work.
Let me tell you where my transwoman and transgendered person fetish brought me too...at one point I use to wear my GF panties when she wasn't home I hated my mind and brain chemistry loved it at the time i have stopped this behavior now but their was a point in time when I use to get upset when she left the house because I would be able to stop my self from acting out. My brains had completely controlled me .
But the longer instated always from it the easier it was to stop myself from acting out in these way. It's all chemistry at this point we are fighting. Understand that the addiction is a highway we have built and grained into our mind. The only way to get out of it is to stay away from the highway. Keep your brains away from those things that tempted us. BELIEVE me it can be reversed. Your brain has neuroplasticity witch means it can go back to the original state of thinking and process.

 

I'm saying that if your serious and you give yourself time to heal and your brain to re wire you will become a better man. BUT this comes with hard work . See a lot of us myself included have made the mistake of JUST giving up porn. But you also have to build a new life around the old one your letting go. Its gonna be hard but it's worth it start to educate yourself in something new find a hobbies spend more time with the family. Point is put something in its place.

 

I feel you should stay away from anything that bothers you mentally. Like even if it turns you on, but it doesn't make you happy or if it doesn't feel right to you, then you shouldn't do it. The limbic system which is associated with porn, sex, masturbation doesn't understand rational thinking. All it sees is the pleasure you are getting from it. That's why we tend to watch hardcore stuff gradually even though we know its something wrong. If you're feeling guilty about your behavior it implies that your conscience isn't acceptable about it. But you are driven mainly by the subconscious and limbic brain so you end up doing that no matter what. You will have to bring more control onto your mind and eventually youll find the limbic system and subconscious mind will change to match the conscious.

 

For me triggers are a carnal one. One of the flesh, I'll quote scripture at that devil if I must for it to flee.

 

Hi Nanni, I totally understand what you were describing about a foot fetish. A fetish is when someone gets triggered sexually because a part of a body or a specific object. If someone has gained a Fetish specifically due to doing PMO periodically, then abstaining from PMO will rewire his mind to avoid those fetishes he used to do, and he will just not look at them by nature. This is one of reasons why PMO is dangerous and as long as a person keeps watching more porn; he will develop more Fetishes in most cases, horrible ones.

Now if a person has got a Fetish since childhood; then such Fetishes may not be avoided, but they can be controlled as any other sexual part of the body and Nofap will significantly help in that.

I would recommend you to work on controlling it (just abstain from PMO and avoid fantasizing as much as you can), soon you will find it controllable and not a big issue. But be aware that giving in with a fetish will develop to extra fetishes; as you mentioned shoes and such things can lead to extra things (like Femdom).

Don't be hard on yourself, love yourself and it is not a wrong thing, just abstain from the wrong things (Porn/Masturbation/Orgasm + Fantacizing) so you can erase any developed fetish and control over those that are natural.

 

Hi there,

i have foot fetish like you. I dont think you or me will lose our liking for feet. But what I can assure you is that the compulsive behaviours will slowly fade away from the abstinence of porn.

Liking for feet is not a problem as long as it is not the only part of the body that arouses you. I love women's feet, legs, butt, breasts and others.

 

don't make the same mistakes that I made...I've had feet fetish since my childhood...but porn made me to get into hardcore femdom and even I started watching toilet slavery videos so it can fuck your brain you can never imagine...but last 6 months I've relapsed only 19 times and once I was able to stay clean for 68 straight days..so now I'm having less temptation to watch those videos and even I got a gf 4 months back and touch and kisses from her has been changing me a lot but I'm not fully over it but now my temptation has come down and my rewiring process has been going well so far...so just do no pmo..you can definitely get outta this