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Being an atheist led me to have no values on sexual health

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by safa61947, Sep 20, 2019.

  1. safa61947

    safa61947 Fapstronaut

    I was an atheist all my life. Raised as a Christian then I dropped faith when my parents divorced. But I want to talk about values here.

    I recently commented on losing a 90+ streak due to a lack of alignment of my values to adopting a lifestyle out of NoFap. I was like: okay, got 90 days, now what? And the thought of abstaining for the remainder of my life seemed daunting to me.

    I do envy a little people who can actually believe in God, be they Christians, Muslims, or Buddhists because they then believe in the values their respective authoritative figures represent. I had no such thing as an atheist.

    I am starting a new streak now, and I decided to embrace religion as support to align my values to make NoFap a lifestyle rather than just a challenge. I'm interested in how other atheists deal with the matter exposed, and for those who are religious, do you agree that having a religion is good for your reboot?

    I'd rather not talk about a specific religion, such as the one I chose, let's keep the debate clean and general.
     
  2. Get_It

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    Well, it's obvious that Fedora hat tippers are mostly fat gents with a high degree of estrogens in their body and further exacerbating that is the fact that they fap furiously for multiple times a day.
     
  3. Hello Friend

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    Maybe you don't need a religion for now. Just try to get closer to God. Talk to him...
     
  4. letter

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    If I did not believe in God, I would not commit to abstaining from PMO.

    The reason I'm even here is because I believe God is love personified and will reward us for practicing and following those ways of love, if not in this life then in the next. Because this life can be so difficult and seem so unfair at times, my faith in God sustains me to carry on in the hope that I'll live in better days, even if I only see those days after I close my eyes for good in this world, that is one of my reasons beyond reason to keep going forward.

    Life can be downright insane. Reason, at least for me, is sometimes not enough. I need something more. Without that something greater, I shrivel up and wither away inside myself. I believe in God because I've experienced those greater things in moments when insanity tried to snuff me out.

    Hope this helps you, somehow.
     
  5. misterpotential

    misterpotential Fapstronaut

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    we know god is a lie but religion is a good packet of effective guideliness that evolved with cultures and helped those cultures to survive and stay stable. explore different religions their phlosophies, rules and think about how did those helped or effected those communities
     
  6. Masterofbopits

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    I know what your saying, when I became an athiest I lost a HUGE source of accountabiliy. I started watching porn more now that I had no fear of possible repercussions in the afterlife. But in time I realized I had to hold myself accountable and start living life for me, but that being said, do whatever it takes man and I hope religion will finally help you beat pmo addiction
     
  7. Just Rose

    Just Rose Distinguished Fapstronaut

    Interesting question! I think you should only embrace a religion if you match with it, if you REALLY believe in it. Not if it makes you happy because it might not sometimes lol, but if you really trust it. If you want to give it a try, get to talk to a priest or similar to start your journey. You'll always be welcome :)
    I've seen atheists here that build up goals, so why are you doing NoFap? I'm doing it 90% for my God, and 10% for not losing my energy neither my glam, and for not having acne lol. Now ask yourself: why am I doing NoFap? Think of it as a waste of energy, time, attractiveness, self confidence, and for what it is: AN ADDICTION that can doom you, whether your religious or not.
    I wish you the best of lucks and if interested in Catholicism, send me message :)
     
  8. safa61947

    safa61947 Fapstronaut

    Thanks for your contribution. NoFap was the hardest thing I ever tried, and I think we need all the strength we can get to conquer PMO.
     
  9. safa61947

    safa61947 Fapstronaut

    I am doing just that. My faith is not Buddhist, but at the moment I am reading "The Teachings of Buddha". I try to learn about multiple religions and understand their viewpoint. I'm more interested in how you deal with your values, your moral values and your answers as an atheist to the questions: Why PMO is wrong morally? Do you rely only on practical issues?
     
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  10. letter

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    Yeah man.

    I’ve been a drug addict, alcoholic, smoker...giving up those vices was far easier than this.
     
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  11. safa61947

    safa61947 Fapstronaut

    I experienced the same. I was free of the "pressure" religion imposed on me, but I was also freer to do things unhealthy for me. Looking only to the logical side, pride would make one return to normal levels, but as we can see by the users of nofap.com and other sites, sometimes this voice of pride is not heard, or willingly ignored.
     
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  12. safa61947

    safa61947 Fapstronaut

    Congratulations on your counter, man. I want to tap on that 90 % to reach my full potential. I feel I pretty much white-knuckled my last long streaks. I guess my reasons to do NoFap can fit in another thread, your questions made me think. Thanks.
     
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  13. Spartan Shibz

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    Absolutely no question that for me believing in a supreme being who's rooting for me to overcome my addiction so that I can reach my potential is the foundation upon which I'm building my empowering rebooting mindset.
     
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  14. Just Rose

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    You're welcome! I'm a girl btw haha, thanks for the congrats. Wish you the best!
     
  15. Infrasapiens

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    I'm an atheist. After 90 days comes 91 days. Just keep doing it and thar's it.
     
  16. You don't need necessarily any higher instance for having values to follow
     
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  17. Xargs

    Xargs Fapstronaut

    Yes, I personally agree, it feels rewarding when I'm not relapsed and doing good things, but on the other side when I'm relapsed, it feels so bad, but remembering things said in my scripture like "God is the Most Merciful" and "He will still accept our repentance as long as I'm not dying" helps me a lot, and another challenge for believers, is I think 'doubtness', when I doubt about the previous things I said ("God is the Most Merciful", etc) I feel the anxiety even more, especially when having brainfog somehow the doubt comes out of nowhere, but yeah, that's the challenge of the believers, it's like two-edged sword, where when I doubt, I'll be killed by it and when I believe I can do anything with it
     
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  18. safa61947

    safa61947 Fapstronaut

    And after 310 comes 311 days. But what will you do when you're shaken by (God forbid) someone ill in your family, or your job position is at risk. After 900 days, will it be the same as after 91 days? Of course not.

    For a long time, I thought things didn't need to be complicated. My truth nowadays is if you don't prepare beforehand, you'll get a relapse and then asking what went wrong.

    Or perhaps I am too dramatic? Thanks for your contribution. If you really mean this then you might be the true atheist here.
     
  19. Don't believe in anything akin to a creator... And still have my streak alive. Goal used to be a 1000 days free from any kind of sexual activity, halfway past, I think life is hella better this way. I don't plan on being celibate for the entirety of my life, but I am in no rush either. A woman who understands me, loves Olympic lifting and gymnastics and a few other tidbits.... and I will gladly tie the knot. Until that day comes, I am on a streak. :)
     
  20. safa61947

    safa61947 Fapstronaut

    You, Sir.

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