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Well, I think that when faping alot and watching porn your penis get´s less sensitive and it doesn't feel as "sexual"/sexy when actually having sex since you are used to the be damned porn.. I´m not saying it will solve the problem. But one could guess so, give it a shot! Anyway Porn is fucking disgusting,wrong and atleast for me materializes girls. So screw it anyway

I om the other side of the coin, I would rather ejaculate to fast, wich solves it self when I have sex more frequently and get comfortable with the girl.

That´s my thoughts

/ Mystery

 

It's probably because when you fap too much, you grip your thing too hard. A woman can never be nowhere near in tightness than your hands, and your penis gets resistant. Although there might be other issues but I've experienced this too, and I think I won't have that problem anymore. Though it also depends on the pose and the girl. Good luck.

 

I Still get confused on both PE and ED. I guess this is the right forum to ask these potentially embarrassing questions, since I know we’re all here to support one another. I am in the rare position where I think I was a PMO addict BEOFRE the advent of high speed porn (mainly because I had my own “apartment” at age 12 so had uninterrupted access to MO and P when I could get it). I MO’ed a LOT as a teenager, and the stuff I’ve learned on this site leads to believe it affected my young adulthood. Anyway, is ED where you CAN’T get an erection at ALL, or without manual stimulation? I can look at triggers all day long, and I generally won’t get hard unless I manual stimulate somewhat. If this is not normal, I’m hoping a 90 day reboot will solve that (I have never gone more than 30 days in 25 years).

On the flip side how do men define PE? Wikipedia says its anything under 15 seconds, which, if true, means I don’t have that problem. I was thinking guys had to last 15-20 minutes to not be considered PE.

 

Hi Siddharta, what a small world. I had EXACTLY the same problem. Now, 6 months porn free, PMO free, MO free, I no longer have that problem. I have normal sex and I O every time. My story if you care to read it:

http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?2402-Get-educated-get-tools-and-learn-to-love-withdrawals

 

Wow, are you saying you should wake up with MW every morning, or you have symptoms of ED?

 

ED means that you can't keep a hard-on long enough to finish sex. All adult men don't necessarily wake up every morning with morning wood. That's not the definition...it's whether you can maintain an erection long enough to finish a sexual act.

 

@ Siddharta

I actually advice you to read my journal for all the details to be honest http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?2283-Silver-s-Journal. I've had my fair share of ED problems and seem to regain my strength slowly by not watching porn and masturbating less.

Try and answer these questions:
- Do you often watch porn?
- Do you orgasm while masturbating on porn?

If both your answers are 'yes' you might indeed have a porn induced ejaculation problem. Another problem is called the "death grip" I never really did this, but basically the pressure on your penis needs to be higher than any vagina can give you. This pressure is needed for you to ejaculate.

Besides stopping with PMO I could also recommend to buy a fleshlight for when you are alone. If you do relapse, you can only relapse with the fleshlight. It's way softer than your hands and you give your penis time to heal/recover from the death grip. The penis actually becomes softer and more sensitive to touch. Don't give in to frustration though if you don't orgasm, clean it up and put it back in your pants.

If you REALLY want to fix this, just force and promise yourself to stop watching porn and quit masturbating. Only use your girlfriend for your sexual pleasures. You cannot orgasm by your own hands. Having sex without orgasm actually isn't that good for you. You have a luxury most men here don't have. Two of my friends are actually doing the PMO free challenge with ease because they can orgasm with their girlfriends. You can do this too.

Porn is a addiction that can have unlucky side effects on the male body. Eventually I couldn't even orgasm on porn anymore, my peak even prevented me from getting an erection at all. That has all been restored, but still... it's something to think about