If you have pied read this

You're right. Rebooting from P is only half the battle.

A major cause of ED is that many men masturbate in very limited ways. Being addictive to P to get enough stimulation only adds up to this.

When restarting to M after rebooting I risk to fall back into old habits, if I don't learn new ways of selfpleasure.
Many here seem to be afraid to ever finish NoFap. However, isn't it meant as a temporary recovery program?

I read few about how you guys here imagine that state of recovery. The only recurrent fantasy is to exclusively have sex with partner(s) and to abstain from solosex forever. I believe chicken-hearted avoidance is neither very healthy nor very feasible for most of us. Will I really become a mind-blowing lover if I'm not capable of making love with myself? Don't I have to be the master in my own house first? How will I know about my body's sexual potentials and responses if I don't explore them?

It's because there's a lack of alternatives. Sadly, there isn't even enough fantasy to consider that there are possible alternatives. But to cure ED and other sexual health issues, a new approach to my sexuality and masculinity is necessary. A new relation to my body and penis. A reconditioned way of selfpleasuring.

 

Rather be happy that you moved on to new horizons already that young age!

So how do you practice mindful masturbation now?

 

There must be plenty! Isn't it all about more variation, more playful experimentation?

 

In my opinion mindful masturbation is rather a concept than a specific practice.

It's about breaking free from a limited mode of arousal and stimulation and explore what's beyond. Before, I applied a certain grip, rubbing my penis hard and fast in a mechanical way to achieve the relieve of O. Sexual sensation is constricted to a small spot of the whole body, usually where the frenelum is. It's like I always run to the supermarket, buy a pizza, heat it up in the microwave and scarf it down while watching TV just to be full as soon and easy as possible.

Practising mindful M I discover curiously all kinds of sexual sensations. I stroke my body, I touch my genitals playfully, I let my sexual energies flow through the whole body, I experiment with my breath and moan, I let my arousal rise and fall in waves, I try how it feels to rub my penis against various surfaces, I stick it into suitable openings and simulate penetration, I use different sorts of lube and oil, I may allow for variation in time and space, duration and ambiance... basically there are hardly any constraints, as long as I am conscious about what I am doing and how I am feeling. I just live and enjoy the moment in relaxed awareness. And it is not necessarily a goal to get off - it may happen, but I may as well keep my semen and lust within my body. It's like I give a go to another restaurant each night for a few days, then again see what else I may find in my standard grocery and figure out how to cook myself a decent meal, tomorrow I may examine the deli store and next week I'll take part in a chocolate tasting. Just refrain from pizza!

I think this might be interesting to others. If you have more detailed questions, you're welcome to send me a pm.

 

I think PIED can be cured like in 3 weeks of P abstinence

but nobody try it so...

After 10 days I feel like I can have regular sex. Never tried it since I have serious problems getting partners