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I've had it with PMO, going to see a therapist

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by bigboibez, Sep 25, 2019.

  1. bigboibez

    bigboibez Fapstronaut

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    Im loving life right now, my days are busy and fulfilling.

    But i still cant get rid of pmo. I always say i will stop and Ive tried so many different strategies but I believe this is the last one. I cant keep living like this.
     
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  2. Jonny1992

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    What did you do to get rid of your addiction?
     
  3. safa61947

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  4. I support your decision, having done the same. It made a big difference for me. I was very comfortable with my psychologist and she was very helpful in her approach. I hope this goes well.
     
  5. DenverGuy

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    Yea, we all understand this, where it leads you into a binge / purge cycle, and you go through cycles of depression. One big suggestion is, get involved with another group of men facing this same issue. This isn't the sort of problem you can fix by yourself (as you've discovered). Being active with another group of men battling this same issue, listening to their stories, and hold you accountable, can help heal you over time.
     
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  6. dailyoliver

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    2 rules:
    1.Read the book Your Brain on Porn it helps put it all into perspective. BUY IT NOW.
    2. Exercise 6 days a week without fail - it will replace some of the dopamine.

    With these two rules in place, you'll be able to figure out the problem below:

    There's another issue driving this - for sure?
    Fear of rejection
    Boredom
    Loneliness
    etc etc?

    Good luck bro... strength is in the mind.. it's all upstairs.
     
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  8. bigboibez

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    I already exercise like crazy. I work full time have a good diet and sleep schedule. I only ever relapse at the weekend or in the evenings after work.

    I just feel like even though im okay with girls and have a few on the go now, it feels forced. I dont really care about them and sexually it doesnt seem enticing, exactly the opposite how it should be.

    I think i will use my phone in the day but leave it in the car overnight and at the weekends so i dont have access when i am home. Seems like a good idea. Will be looking at a professional if i havent sorted this by new year.
     
  9. I hope things are going well, but I would urge you not to wait. I truly believe you will feel better if you make this important step. A lot of it depends on the therapist you meet, and there is no need to tell them everything on the first visit. I went for years for really regular stuff before I finally broached the number one topic of my life - PMO.
    I feel strongly about this. I apologize if I sound pushy. But I have never felt more in control, grounded, or freer from PMO since I made this step. How I wish I had done it years ago. But yeah, everybody is different.
     
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  10. bigboibez

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    You're right. I am definitely avoiding it i suppose. But i feel like I haven't tried everything in my power yet. There are a few things more I want to try before i go and do that. If its not sorted by new years i have promised myself that i will have to go and face the truth that i need help.
     
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  11. I think that is a most fair and realistic plan. I certainly wish you nothing but the best in dealing with this.
     
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  12. You’re therapist doesn’t sound very mature or professional.

    My therapist got turned on and started looking at my body and I wasn’t even telling him that much.
     
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  13. I am so very thankful that I found a truly great therapist. No judgment, just listening, discussion, and moving toward a better me. The experiences described in the above postings remind me how lucky I am.
    I truly feel bad for you guys who tried to open up and met people unfit to be in such an important profession.
     

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