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Social anxiety

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by shamrock19, Sep 28, 2019.

  1. shamrock19

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    Social anxiety is the main reason I embarked on this journey. I'm at this now for 4 months and my social anxiety has improved but is still pretty intense. I had a 3 week period where it was great but now it has returned.
    I'm just wondering if anyone else has experienced this?
    Seen Improvements as their streak has progressed?
    Can give some advice on things that have/haven't helped?

    This shit is the worst, stops you from having meaniful relationships, new friends/girlfriends... Its almost like I don't know who I am anymore due to me not being able to express myself... Fear has engulfed me if you like.

    Anyway, all the best guys
     
  2. PMO addict1

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    Are u on 4 month streak??? Or just trying since 4 months??
     
  3. PMO addict1

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    Last year I did a 131 days streak..... And at around 40-50 days mark I felt very less anxiety ... but again it came back after that...... Still remembering how beautiful those 10-12 days were..... Then it came back again.... and after relapsing on 131 days... I have been in continuous streak and relapse period... like 20 ,30 days then binge then again 15 days then again binge... .. THIS time I am on 77 day streak and going good so far..... The only motivation I have Is THOSE DAYS in which I felt no social anxiety.. hope this time I succeed..... Now I am regretting that whenever i relapsed I should have pmo'ed once... but I always binged ...... But hoping this time i get success
     
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  4. shamrock19

    shamrock19 Fapstronaut

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    Yes I am on a 4 month streak
     
  5. shamrock19

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    I can totally relate to this. I thought I was completely cured and recovered for those 3 weeks.
    I suppose all we can do is trust the process. Even it nofap does not cure our anxiety, pmo has no benefit for us
     
  6. rinpoche-

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    How have you been working with your social anxiety?
     
  7. shamrock19

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    I mean I've tried many different things, usually revolve around changing my negative thoughts, mindfulness etc.. But to no real provail. I'm a social guy, I used to be socially confident but over the past few years its gone to shit, now I'm a shadow of my former self. I'm clutching straws that nofap will help
     
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  8. The number one solution to social anxiety is to go out and do things that make you uncomfortable. Fapping may not be the entire issue here. But do both, and then tell us what happens.
     
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  9. And by both I mean abstinence, not fapping.
     
  10. shamrock19

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    Thanks for the response. I totally agree but thing is I have a relitively active social life, a good group of friends but I just feel so uncomfortable in my own skin. It's a motherfucker
     
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  11. Indurian

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    My mind used to be literally screaming at me to get out of social situations. Really unpleasant.

    My social anxiety has vastly improved now though. I'm starting to feel a connection with people again. Just takes time and more importantly abstinence
     
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  12. shamrock19

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    In your opinion, is social anxiety directly linked to pmo? Or would you say other methods help with your improvement?
     
  13. Indurian

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    Abstaining from porn and lust I believe is the main factor in getting better. The difference is dramatic, in a good way. I enjoy talking to people again, which was something I lost for about ten + years. Unreal.

    I tried basically everything else over a 6 year period, but abstaining via themy current streak has seen by far the biggest improvement. I don't lust and ogle either and I believe that has been a big factor as well. I think unconsciously you no longer have anything to hide and it seems to lead to relaxation when talking to people
     
  14. shamrock19

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    Interesting, i mean im completely off pmo but i cant say im off lusting, im excessively lusting even Maybe its something i should consider. I cant remember the last time i really connected with someone, im constantly surrounded by people but no connection, its sad
     
  15. Indurian

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    I belive the two are heavily interlinked. There are lots of hot girls at my work. I simply look away when one passes. After a while you get filled with thi sort of peace and positive energy every time you restrain yourself
     
  16. Fenix Rising

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    I've been suffering from social anxiety my entire adult life. Abstention made it worse.
    I learned how to control it finally. I do 60-90 min of aerobic exercise (walking,running or cycling) followed by WIM HOF breathing/meditation and 10 min cold shower daily routine. I'd say it helped me very much. I still feel uncomfortable around people sometimes, but I'm OK most of the time.
     
  17. PMO addict1

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    Nothing personal but.. Wherever I see anything related to social anxiety in this forum..... i see ur comment saying " Nofap dosent help".... it may be ur situation not everyone's... Dont discourage people ....
     
  18. shamrock19

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    I mean social anxiety I'm sure is deep seated in the way you perceive yourself/insecurities etc. For me I don't think nofap could make my social anxiety worse, it can only improve it if anything and I'm sure it has.

    The two mains I feel are important are:
    -a life free of social anxiety is possible
    -you can't wait for the end of social anxiety for life to begin (this has been a major problem for me)
     
  19. shamrock19

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    I mean he was giving his own personal viewpoint, a useful one at that. Sometimed we put too much expectation on nofap, of course it is going to help but true change will come from within, changing your beliefs/removing insecurities. I suppose this comes from getting out in the world and experiencing shit. But I repeat nofap is not just beneficial, it is absolutely necessary
     
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  20. PMO addict1

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    He posts this in every section of forum.... u can see it ....... My point is .... I used to fap 5-7 times daily..for 10 years . then quit it all together...since 3 months then . TELL ME how will it worse my social anxiety.... all bad it can do is it do nothing to anciety (good or bad).... but how can it worse it...... I think what he is experiencing is withdrawls....... and blaming nofap
     

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