Overcoming "fetishes" and regaining natural desire?

It seems like every time I start a thread I basically say the same things, like some sort of less funny and much bleaker Groundhog Day. I wont waste anyone time and will cut straight to the point; I relapsed again today and realised that since I began attempting NoFap, my ability to go on decent streaks has improved (generally, having a hard time of it recently but generally I do well), but my "fetishes" (I use quotation marks because these are all porn induced, didn't have them before I got addicted to PMO) seem to stay strong and in fact have gotten stronger, despite me PMO'ing way less in the last year or so than at any other point since I started, the hold these things have on my mind seems to be, I dont know, tightening?

The obvious solution is to cut out porn, I know this, but what I'm here to ask is if anyone reading has managed to overcome the kind of thing I'm talking about, what their story is, and how they did it? I'm kinda at a loss here, as I seem to be able to make good progress in terms of time gone on streaks when I really push myself, but I cant seem to overcome these issues that draw me back in the first place. Any advice?

 

Thank you for the advice, I openly acknowledge that I have little desire for real sex when removed from a PMO context, its something I need to work on for sure.

 

I'm glad the post helped you, welcome to the site! I'm not on the forums a lot but if you message me I will reply ASAP!

 

I agree that this seems like a solution, my only issue is I've never had sex before, never been in a relationship, so its hard to desire what I've never had to begin with.

 

Some are submissive, I wouldn't say they are explicitly masochistic.