Fapping once a week

I certainly hope so. I screwed up bad man. This past summer, I was determined not to fap. I ended up rage fapping harder than I ever had before. My hair looks like trash now and I dont know how long its going to take to heal honestly.

 

Stop caring about your hair. Also the science about hairloss because of masturbation is very sketchy, so ignore it until it becomes solid, if it ever becomes solid. Focus on building yourself.

 

Not really, the masturbation experience is great. The problem is its consequences, which are not apparent, they are really hard to unveil —it took me years to realize, and that is why we warn each other of the dangers of PMO.

Yes, I would tell my kid something on the lines of that —nothing to do with kids being bad, but certainly losers. What would that do to him? I guess that would do him good, specially if I explain him why, which I would do.

Besides, the OP is 21, so he has had plenty of time to explore his intimate places, I don't think he needs further exploration.

 

O really. I thought masturbation would hurt. Thank´s for makin this clear to me, that it actually feels good. And yes we are here to help each other. But masturbation is a natural and healthy thing. There are dangers if it´s done compulsively. For sure. Just like everything else in the world.

Yes, that´s what people told me. I just decided that I will hide it from everybody. And this secret grew over years into an addiction to Porn.

Well I did not know that. Besides, I am not talking about one person but about kids in generall. You say there is no need for further exploration. Who are you to decide that? A grown, intellegent man that knows everything about the human sexuality and how it is connected with social and personal "SUCCESS"? I think you do not really want to speak about the core of my argumentation, which is fine. Do as you like. You are older that me and I respect that. I just do not agree with you.
Still wish you the best on your journey.

 

Do you feel bad after? Than I think that´s a yes.

 

What do you mean by "healthy".

There is no correlation there. Just because your parents tell you that drinking alcohol and smoking cigarettes is bad for you it does not need to become your secret addiction.

I am his father. Remember your question? "if you find your kid in his room exploring his intimate places." And, as his father, I do whatever I think is best for him. That is what fathers try to do —at least good fathers.

 

It is healthy to release tension in any way. Just like running, meditating or going to the toilet. A too big amount of energy can lead to Stress and imbalance. "A growing number of studies show a correlation between masturbation and good health. Even though masturbation is not harmful, some people never masturbate or only do so rarely — this is also healthy and normal."
- https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/324525.php Here you can see some benefits as well.
Masturbation is not the key to a healthy life. This is not what I am saying. It is just okay to do it in moderation and won´t turn kids to loosers.

The correlation is expressed in my life. There happened a variation of sexual unnecessary things in my youth. But facing these things was not the trigger for me to be an addict. It was shame. I thought I could not talk to anyone about sex and pornographic images. I thought this has to be a secret.

If you are a father, sure you can tell your kid what your view of the world is. But for example, if you told him that masturbation is not a good thing and that eventually he will be a looser one day, if he does that, he will still come in contact with sexual content. In school there will be porn videos. Everybody will sent them around on their phones. You think your kid will be that wise and say: "Hey, my dad sad this is not good. So I will not look at this naked women you try to show me here, Josh!!" And he will just walk away right? Well I think different. Kids are curious about everything. Your son will probabbly see the picture and feel something going on in his mind and body. But then he will think later if he touches himself: "wait my dad said this is not good and I don´t want to bee an uncool human. Hmm, okay maybe I can just NOT TELL him about it. Yes, if he does NOT KNOW, I can not disappoint him. " This is just a scenario I put up but very simmilar things I read all along my addiction. I hope it will not be or is like that with you child. But I tell you, it can. And you want your kid to tell you. Trust me.

Please do.

 

Alkohol and cigaretts are toxic chemicals for the body. Most people feel bad when they do it for the first times. A lot of addicts have been told by their parents that these things are not good for them. Putting it in a bowl together with own-body-activity that has a evolutionary purpose to it is just silly in my opinion.

 

Ok @Pure Taste . We are here for the same thing. I say masturbation should be avoided and you say some masturbation is good. We don't agree on that but we probably agree on other things.

Cheers,

 

OKay @clapas
Nasdarowja !

 

This is what "moderate masturbation" feels like.

 

This is what a good streak feels like:

 

You do know this is an anti madturbation forum right?

 

Yes.

 

This is not an anti-masturbation forum. It is an anti-porn forum, although it does encourage abstaining from masturbation while rebooting. Please stop telling this kid who is 16 (not 21) that masturbation is wrong and unhealthy. We are here to help each other to recover from porn addiction. If for whatever reason you decide that you want to cut regular masturbation out of your life permanently, that's your prerogative. Just don't push your own agenda on to others. To the OP, take the advice from most people in here with a grain of salt, for they are not qualified to tell you what you should or shouldn't do with your own body.

 

Thank you

 

Yeah, man. Listen to Mistersofty, and just masturbate in a *healthy* way. Just let your life, potential, and goals fall away as you relapse to rubbing your genitals as the sun and moon pass over your head and you end up being a 50 year old man who has, despite all his apathy toward life, masturbated in a *healthy* way and has never watched porn.