Slipping back into fantasizing

I know this sounds mad, but I found that turning off the rule helped, i.e. I had a 'no fantasizing' rule, but when I dropped the rule, I found that fantasies stopped crowding in. It was almost as if the part of myself which was frustrated by the rule was fighting the better part of me, but without the rule I'm free to make more moment-by-moment choices, rather than having a policeman in my head trying to control my thoughts.

But if you do want techniques for curbing these fantasies there are some good ones from @daemonswithin, e.g. his thread Overcoming Sexual Fantasy.

 

It depends on your personal goals, to me fantasies along with masturbation are acceptable and an alternative to my previous porn usage. It takes much more effort and therefore is nowhere near the same level of use that porn got.

However if you want to cut it out completely then you need to have something to take your mind off it. I read a lot and always have a book on the go by my bed, if this is where you find that these fantasies arise when your in bed this is one option you could consider.

 

It happens to the best of us. I was fighting fantasies this morning too. Like people have said a million times, just get up and do something, think about your day, etc. And I noticed that the quicker I cut the fantasies out of my mind, the slower they are to pop back up.

 

Perhaps your reading the wrong kind of books

 

You say this happens in the morning while you lie in bed?

Same thing happens to me almost every time I sleep in. Thing is that is a rarity now. I usually get up at 7 on the dot.

Unless I'm overlooking something, getting the 8 hours sleep and waking up the minute your alarm/body clock wakes you up should see a marked improvement here.