A relapse is not as bad as you think!

Let’s be honest, we have all relapsed, many many times... and our reaction can cause anger, sadness, confusion, and more unwanted feelings or thoughts.

But how bad is a relapse actually?
Not as bad as you think, and actually might help the process.

Now let me get something straight, a streak of less then a week is not a good streak, and a relapse in this first week is not good, thankfully your streak is not that long, so you shouldn’t feel like you lost too much.

To those with escalated porn induced fetishes that can be mild fetishes to even extremely disturbing and illegal content, your goal is to rewire your brain to what your true sexual orientation and desires are.

When you go on a good streak, your healing your brain during this time, a relapse can actually help heal the brain and show you progress you have made.

Here is an example: Let’s say a straight guy has escalated into porn genres of gay, transsexual, or cuckold. The goal is to rewire the brain so these fetishes go away. So let’s say this man goes 30 days hardmode, and he can’t resist the temptation so he looks at porn, but wait a second, he can watch a video and look at the girl and masturbate to the girl? Why is this? Cause after 30 days the escalation became weaker and he became attracted to a more “vanilla” topic. Now this man goes another 30 days, then relapses to a video of a women having solo sex, now he is just watching videos of women. Now this man goes 50 days without pmo and relapses to a picture of a women, and when he tries to look at the gay porn that once’s aroused him, now looks insanely disturbing and the man is very uninterested and becomes confused on how he ever even watched that topic.


Going on long streaks is great, but if you go on a streak then masturbate to your fetish, then you aren’t helping yourself and that’s a “bad” relapse. A “good” relapse would be a relapse to softer porn.

Also if you relapse then binge pmo you hurt yourself even more.

I’m also not encouraging relapsing at all, remember the longer you go then the faster you heal. Relapsing is still not something you want to do, but it is not as bad as you may think.

And how can my example be credible? Because the man in the example is me, I became addicted to gay porn, and after going on great streaks for about a year, I was completely returned to my normal sexual tastes and the idea of even being with a man is repulsive to me and watching gay porn makes me wanna vomit. I have now started watching porn again and escalated into incest porn this time... so I’m trying to get out of the hole once again.

Hope this helps.

 

What you are saying makes sense one hundred percent... but like I stated in my post, I’m not encouraging a relapse and it should be avoided.

My older brother was addicted to a drug, and he was on the brink of eventually overdosing. My parents got him help and the doctors couldn’t make him quit cold turkey, it was impossible, so they had him “slowly” quit which meant they would limit when he could use the drug, and as time passed eventually he didn’t use the drug for months, and so forth he didn’t need it anymore.

 

Me starting to watch porn again was a choice that I made. I never had fully quit I was doing maybe once or twice a week and to soft normal porn. I was still able to get with girls and be happy. One day I met this girl I really liked and she was known as a “good girl” meaning she hadn’t even kissed a guy before let alone do anything else. I got her number and we started going out, I wanted to preserve myself for her. I was a horny guy and I was tempted to get with other chicks, so I told myself instead of being horny, I’ll just fap to porn.

Have in mind that this is almost 2 years after my whole pmo addiction struggle, so I am on the brink of completely forgetting about it.

I slowly started to do it every day again and eventually went down the same path I went then and here I am. I made the choice to bring myself down here so this is my consequence. I’m in the same boat as everyone else here except I can tell you all that there is hope for all of us, I’ve beat it, so can everyone else!!!