Fantasizing about women - maybe the human connection is key?

Hello everyone,

I have read a lot about fantasizing about real women, whether or not this is a good idea, and I just wanted to share my new experience. I apologize for the long post in advance.

During my reboot process I have met a lovely girl and even though we haven't had sex yet, we have however had some foreplay and showered together(yay).

I have tried to fantasize to some of the things we did together, touching each other, her naked body etc. just to test if I could get hard just by thought alone - but nothing, I just felt numb, like I was in flatline.

Last night I did have a very fun and exciting experience. I was laying there wondering if I could get hard, and tried to fantasize again, and still, nothing. At random, I thought about our connection while we touched each other, her smell, her smile, how happy we both were just lying there touching, how much I enjoyed her as a person. And then I felt it, the buzzing feeling down below followed by a semi erection and a fullbody “hornyness”. It’s safe to say I was quite amazed.

After this experience I have thought about what was different and why I suddenly could get semi hard and feel horny - maybe it’s all about involving the human connection?

In my current reboot process I have been successful in cutting out all PMO/MO and even my lust/craving for PMO is almost gone. When I MO’ed before my reboot, I used to fantasize about pornscenes or real persons in a porn envirement, which was all about sex. However, now my brain is no longer “conditioned” to crave the simple visual stimuli that porn gives, and my brain now needs the “human connection” which I assume is a very natural and essential part of getting hard and feeling horny. This is the reason why I couldn't get hard when i solely focused about her body or what I did to her, my brain needed something more, a human connection.

So, when I thought about “her” - what she made me feel, how I made her feel when I touched her, how much I like her etc., the human connection was present and hence, I got horny and semi hard.

I hope my experience can shed some light about the reboot process and how to fantasize about women in a more "healthy/natural" way.

Thoughts and experiences are more than welcome.