Message to young people

internetpioneer · Oct 3, 2019

The last 5 days, since I signed up, I read so many stories. I read posts from people my age (40+) that had been into PMO since the beginning of times, and I recognise my struggle in them, lots of common points. But I am amazed at the young people, teenagers and early 20s: they are desperate, they see no future, and no way to get rid of this addiction, they feel they have lost control of their lives. I only have one thing to tell them: the moment is now, you have an incredible potential, we all know it's hard to quit, but here you can find resources to understand what is happening with you, go beyond the P blockers, you can find companions to hold each other, a space to talk about what you go through without being judged and read about others: how they succeed and how they failed, and got up again.
The moment is now.

Fenix Rising · Oct 3, 2019

internetpioneer said: ↑

The last 5 days, since I signed up, I read so many stories. I read posts from people my age (40+) that had been into PMO since the beginning of times, and I recognise my struggle in them, lots of common points. But I am amazed at the young people, teenagers and early 20s: they are desperate, they see no future, and no way to get rid of this addiction, they feel they have lost control of their lives. I only have one thing to tell them: the moment is now, you have an incredible potential, we all know it's hard to quit, but here you can find resources to understand what is happening with you, go beyond the P blockers, you can find companions to hold each other, a space to talk about what you go through without being judged and read about others: how they succeed and how they failed, and got up again.
The moment is now.
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I second that 100%. “Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass… It's about learning to dance in the rain.” ― Vivian Greene
Don't wait for the perfect moment to quit, it may never come. The day is now. Carpe diem.

Deleted Account · Oct 4, 2019

The good thing is, all of us here, no matter what age have identified our issues, and are working on resolving them. We can all be better men tomorrow.

romeolima · Oct 4, 2019

I'm currently working on an article I hope to post here shortly, essentially it is a letter to my sons. They are both too young at present but as I'm on a journey to quit porn I can't help but wonder what advice I should give to my sons, and indeed my daughter about porn.

It's foolish to think that they won't come into contact with it, I won't preach from a puritanical standpoint, nor expect them to take one. They will watch it, I just want them to do so with an awareness that I don't think I ever had.

Deleted Account · Oct 4, 2019

Fenix Rising said: ↑

I second that 100%. “Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass… It's about learning to dance in the rain.” ― Vivian Greene
Don't wait for the perfect moment to quit, it may never come. The day is now. Carpe diem.
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I love the point you raise. The time to change is now. Waiting won't fix anything.

internetpioneer · Oct 5, 2019

romeolima said: ↑

I'm currently working on an article I hope to post here shortly, essentially it is a letter to my sons. They are both too young at present but as I'm on a journey to quit porn I can't help but wonder what advice I should give to my sons, and indeed my daughter about porn.

It's foolish to think that they won't come into contact with it, I won't preach from a puritanical standpoint, nor expect them to take one. They will watch it, I just want them to do so with an awareness that I don't think I ever had.
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I've been reflecting about how porn is affecting the younger generation, and I realised that every generation has its challenges with regards to sex. My generation (gen. X) was affected by AIDS, we (at least the community and friends around me) grew up with fear of sex, we lost our virginity much later than the previous generation (sexual liberation), and everything we did with regards to sex, was carried out with an inmense fear, not just of AIDS but pregnancy, inadequacy, commitment... Education is the answer, but sometimes it arrives too late: teenagers get a first impression of what is sex from, most of the time unrealistic, and they are not emotionally mature to process what it means and what is 'normal'. Moreover, taboos and shame make it difficult for them (and for many of us still) to share their own fears and bad experiences.

I am sure your children will have different challenges (sex robots? a world of gender continium? a more rational sex?), but I am happy that lately many TV shows are started to be interested in porn addiction. But just imagine how difficult would be to introduce the topic of porn addiction at schools for examples.

Angus McGyver · Oct 7, 2019

internetpioneer said: ↑

I've been reflecting about how porn is affecting the younger generation, and I realised that every generation has its challenges with regards to sex. My generation (gen. X) was affected by AIDS, we (at least the community and friends around me) grew up with fear of sex, we lost our virginity much later than the previous generation (sexual liberation), and everything we did with regards to sex, was carried out with an inmense fear, not just of AIDS but pregnancy, inadequacy, commitment... Education is the answer, but sometimes it arrives too late: teenagers get a first impression of what is sex from, most of the time unrealistic, and they are not emotionally mature to process what it means and what is 'normal'. Moreover, taboos and shame make it difficult for them (and for many of us still) to share their own fears and bad experiences.

I am sure your children will have different challenges (sex robots? a world of gender continium? a more rational sex?), but I am happy that lately many TV shows are started to be interested in porn addiction. But just imagine how difficult would be to introduce the topic of porn addiction at schools for examples.
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It is indeed still quite hard to be an official and open person these days about these issues. At least being one who is openly criticizing and opposing the status quo and popular beliefs regarding sex, PMO and gender relations since doing so is often met with humiliation, demeaning labels, shame and gult tactics and ostracism from those who are promoting it (mainstream-media, popular culture, Hollywood, etc).
However, it is important that those of us who who are on this opposing side to publicly speak up and stand our ground because if we back down now, the damage done in the future will be much worse than if younger people today can at least try to see things from another perspective.
I see it as my duty (despite any ostracism) to warn and inform my young fellow countrymen about the perils of PMO, lust-addiction and popular-culture and how all of these can really mess up your life, personal well-being and relationships for years to come if you get hooked to them.

Deleted Account · Oct 7, 2019

Thank you sir! I'm 19 and on day 36. Feeling really good and thinking about future - family, kids and all that stuff. I have a lots of thoughts about how make more money so I can get my parents into good house where they can live happy. I have a dream about wife with same standarts and similar interests with me. And I also have vision of two happy kids growing up and making me proud cause they have found happiness in life. And yes, to my peers - time is very important! More important than money and gold and .... A lots of things. You cant buy it. So do something everyday!

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