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New beginning

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Chief895, Oct 4, 2019.

  1. Chief895

    Chief895 Fapstronaut

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    Today i will start day one of my reboot process...im tired of feeling ashamed by some of the porn i watch...im tired of disappointing my girlfriend because i cant keep an erection to the point of having to imagine transwoman porn while me and her have sex to try and keep it up...wish me luck...i have to get better...give me some advice on how to beat this
     
  2. Live and Grow7

    Live and Grow7 Fapstronaut

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    I would say firstly that some of the fetishes that we pick up when we're deep into our P addiction so start to go away as well sober up. Most of us pick up this addiction as we use porn to medicate different issues in our life. For some of us it becomes a numbing agent for difficult emotions like loneliness, anger, boredom etc.

    For others it can be an escape for difficult situations to find comfort. Like some have started on it when they were young as a coping mechanism for trauma. Personally you have to look inside yourself to see where the need comes from and during what moments are you most triggered to want to consume porn.

    That can be easier said than done and if you feel like it's something you may need help with then heading to therapy isn't a bad solution. I see a CSAT (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist) and he's able to help me through things I don't always notice myself. He also challenges me and helps me to take the next step in my recovery if I'm not sure how.

    In any event you're already doing good by realizing you have a problem and by seeking help for it. There's plenty of people here who can help but you gotta be willing to put in the work and do what's necessary for your freedom from this. I wish you all the luck and strength in the world.
     
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  3. Chief895

    Chief895 Fapstronaut

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    I really appreciate that, i think i spent so much time being ashamed of myself, that i began to just accept it and live with it, even though it consumed me. But after seeing now there are so many people going through the same thing, i dont feel alone and im ready to move past this problem .
     
  4. rt01386

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    One reason I decided to stop PMO was bc I was imagining porn while having sex. I felt like I was cheating on my gf. We had open talks about it and honestly she was kind of just surprised about it all. She wasn’t mad or anything, she admitted she thinks about fantasies too while having sex. Hers are just more natural and involve me a little more than mine did. Mine were literally just replaying porn that had turned me on hours/days earlier.

    Since making the change, I still have porn thoughts come up in my head while having sex, but I just enjoy them and let them pass. Since me and my gf have talked about it, I don’t feel ashamed about the thoughts anymore I just let them happen.

    I’m not sure if you meditate but it’s helped me out a lot. Once you realize all thoughts are just thoughts and it’s us who put emphasis on one over another, you can start thinking the way you want to think again.
     
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