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Can't O During Sex: Mental Block?

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by Optimum Fortitude, Oct 6, 2019.

  1. Oct 6, 2019 #1
    Optimum Fortitude

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    Hey guys,

    After 35 days hardmode no PMO I can maintain a solid erection and have sensations.

    But I can't seem to be able to O from PIV, and hardly from handjob. With handjob it takes a long time. From PIV the girl O's much faster than me and then wonders why I don't O.

    It feels like I have a psychological block that prevents me from O'ing with my partner.

    It's a recurring issue and I don't know what to do. It feels like even if I abstain in hardmode for 180, the problem will remain. It's caused me a lot of issues and insecurities and also hurt my partners and ruined relationships.

    Has anybody experienced this?
     
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  2. Oct 6, 2019 #2
    Supination

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    "It feels like even if I abstain in hardmode for 180, the problem will remain."
    Why not giving it a try and see for yourself? If it really disturbs you, hurts your partners and ruining your relationships then why do even think about not giving it a shot? The problem might remain, but even a slight improvement worths it. But you'll never know until you try right?
    It looks like you have PIED. 35 days is way too early in order to recover.
    I have that problem as well and i've acknowledged that no matter what it takes i have to give it all. the progress takes time and i have to be very patient without rushing myself in order to cure PIED and you should too.
     
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  3. Oct 7, 2019 #3
    Optimum Fortitude

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    Agreed. Thanks foe the feedback. I know I won't be able to M ever again. I guess my question was, perhaps someone experienced this and it was more related to real life past trauma rather than PMO addiction.
     
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  4. Oct 7, 2019 #4
    Camelon

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    How long ur addiction is????
     
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  5. Oct 9, 2019 #5
    Optimum Fortitude

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    Something like 15 years. Several times a day most days. I used to death grip and edge.

    I'm also extremely nervous and tense. Even my physiotherapist said I am "chronically tense". That's why I'm asking if this can havr anything to do with my very difficult time O'ing with a partner.

    Also after I saw the girl, I tested myself with a Japanese fake vagina and I O'ed with much less problems. But I didn't have condom so more sensations.
     
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  6. Oct 9, 2019 #6
    Camelon

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    Me too 15 yrs
    So definitely 35 days not enough to test urself, specially for generalised anxiety patients like both of us
    So don"t panic, give ur self more time
    Never be stressed about that issue cuz u"ll enter visious circle of stress, more PIED, more stress trying to do it right, more PIED.
    NO MATTER NOT BEING PERFECT
    TRY TO BE GOOD ENOUGH
    GOOD LUCK.....
     
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