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I'm 25 and still a virgin

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Jrmz94, Oct 5, 2019.

  1. Jrmz94

    Jrmz94 Fapstronaut

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    Yes I know. I think the main reason why I can't get laid is that my social life sucks. Sadly I don't have friends to hangout with or that are outgoing. My hobbies include going to the gym, work and being at home and relaxing. I would also like to point out that I'm even though I workout im still pretty overweight but I'm in the process of getting in shape. I don't go out to bars and clubs because 1. I'm broke and it's expensive 2. I don't have friends that go out. 3. I used to work Sunday mornings so I would rather not go out. It sucks,that I'm not really social person. I get rejected by girls on social media and even tinder. I honestly would consider myself a pretty decent looking even though I'm kind of chunky. I'm defenetly not ugly. I'm tired of going to pornhub try to look for a good foot fetish video to satisfy me. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I work so hard to try to improve my life financially and physically.
     
  2. There is nothing wrong with you. We live in a society where losing our virginity is viewed as some sort of “badge of honor” or “trophy”. Stop worrying about how you appear to others because you haven’t had sex yet. You’re still young and have plenty of time. I didn’t have sex for the first time until I was 29 and it was on my wedding night. I really couldn’t care less if people think that’s pathetic. It was something I wanted to save for marriage so it would mean something once it did happen. Oh, and after you have sex you will still be the same person you were 5 minutes before.

    If you want to meet a girl, stay off social media and go talk to a real girl. Join a social gathering and go introduce yourself to a girl. I know it’s not easy, but you have to put yourself out there and take risks or nothing will change. You control your own destiny.

    Best of luck to you.
     
  3. Angus McGyver

    Angus McGyver Fapstronaut

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    Don't sweat it mate since being desperate about losing "it" (whoever made that phony label up) won't end well for your part, neither mentally or spiritually. If you go head over heels and all in just to get laid, you won't feel enriched, different, more mature or reborn after that experience if it comes out of neediness, guaranteed!!
    Plus, you might contract STDs and unwanted pregnancies that can cripple your life for decades to come.

    My suggestion is to focus on self-improvement and becoming your best version first of all. Because, when you strive for greatness in life and becomes comfortable and satisfied in your own skin and the present moment, people will sense that, feel attracted to that high energy vibe and want to be around you as a result. Being satisfied and present in the moment, not being ruled by your ego, interfering noise or external factors are the keys in personal development and a happy fulfilling life.
    The best thing is that it doesn't cost you anything in financial resources to acquire, just some sacrifice, dedication and new life perspectives which will be the beginning to look at life from the other (and right) end and not the other way around that 96+% of people are living in today. Hence, the reason for why they are miserable and unhappy. They let their lives being ruled by the ego and the intellect all of their awakened time.
     
  4. youraverageguy

    youraverageguy Fapstronaut

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    Sup my guy,

    Maybe it might ease some burdens and stress off your back if you did everything that you're doing with maybe a different perspective or purpose? It might help to improve yourself and to grow not for the sake of a partner but for your sake. There's a lot of ladies out there, and there's going to be a lot of rejections for a lot of different reasons for any guy. It's hard to put such huge expectations and goals behind the improvements that we aim for. Maybe by focusing on personal improvement solely because YOU want to be a better YOU FOR YOU, then one day a nice lady will come along, recognize that, and appreciate you for who you are. Ofc this might be all idealistic though, but really pushing yourself to improvement so that you might find a lady sounds a little too stressful and maybe unhealthy in my mind. Live life freely my guy, I'm 21yrs old and still a virgin also, you ain't alone :)
     
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  5. Address007

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    For me, it was honestly not that special to lose my virginity (I lost it at age 20). But I lost it over a one night stand. It would have been way better to lose it to a girl I love.
     
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  6. Branchman

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    As the other guys say, improve and invert on yourself, love yourself. If you are not happy whithout something you won't be with it.
    Why don't you try dancing? Girls like to dance, is a good excercise that requires coordination, it relaxes you and it is funny. Or maybe you can try an activity or get involved in a group in wich you can find mates.
    Why don't you try going to a church? How do you know if your life is about to change?
    In the past i felt like a looser because i havent even kissed a girl, but know that doesn't make me feel upset, i want to make it special, i mean im not going to kiss anyone. I'm 22 and still virgin.
     
    Last edited: Oct 10, 2019
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  7. Badger_2

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    Lonely, never hook up with girls as I don't have a social life. Mostly care about sex anyway. I usually get jacked off weekly by a massage lady. She's cheap and great. Glad I discovered her. On rare occasions, I butt fuck escorts with big booties. This I will be doing in about a week. Sick of fapping though as I do it daily. Feel much better when I only fap once per week. Currently, I'm on a 3-day streak. How do I add this to my profile?

    Thoughts on my lifestyle? Does anyone else live in a similar way?

    My goal is to reduce fapping to once per week.

    I did use to hook up with girls regularly in high school. I haven't been on a date since my last year of high school which was 2010. I had a friend group who ousted me in 2012 (long story). Never been able to relate with people they way I could with them ever since. I hate it. I live at home, work full time during the week and go to cafes etc. with my Mum on the weekend. It's okay but not great.


    I think I need a girlfriend in my life. Who else can relate?
     
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  8. its over my man. here is a shoulder to cry on.
     
  9. red gyarados

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    Lost my virginity at 29 by messaging lots of women online and having good pics. Unfortunately I have no idea how to take good pics-a real player was kind enough to take mine for me and all I did was experiment with filters. You mentioned being chunky so I’m sure if you lost some body fat and take some new pics you’ll do a lot better. I’m hesitant to share the sites I get my dating advice from because they’re full of triggers though.
     
  10. Hexham C

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    I lost my virginity as a teenager but I wish I'd waited (until marriage). Society makes you think that you have to do it, but I think it's better to focus on making a meaningful connection.
     
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  11. red gyarados

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    Society made me think I was a bad person and objectifying women if I wasn’t planning to marry them. Not sure what society you’re living in.
     
  12. LadyBug

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    First of all, that is AMAZING. Don't fret, you're ridding yourself of contracting STD's. Keep focusing on yourself, go to the gym, join events with activities that you like. You're young! Do things that will improve you mentally, spiritually and physically.
     
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  13. i_have_pizza

    i_have_pizza Fapstronaut

    Find a hobby, that involves social activity. In gyms people usually wearing headphones and don't care. Photography (involving humans), skateboarding, rc cars/quadcopters, do youtube chanel, etc..
     
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  14. I'm sure on your deathbed your only regret will be that you didn't have more sex.
     
  15. Adonis D

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    When we go over 7 days without masturbating, our testosterone increases by 145%. Girls will notice this because it influences the way you act. You'll feel more confident, social, and strong. I'll pray for you bro. You'll find a woman that will love you with all you're heart. Just gotta be patient. Jesus said if you ask and trust in your heart that he'll come through, then he'll hook you up. He's here to help us all. Jesus said you gotta put in work too. Go out to places! Drive to city nearby or a public park or any sight seeing places. Jesus has helped me so much in my life. I didn't think he was legit in my younger years but He is.
     
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  16. YoungBoys98

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    I lost my virginity when i was like 17 y.o i think... Meah.. Nice experiențe,both drunk af. The reason? I wanted to be first in the friends group. It's nothing wrong with you, keep calm.
     
  17. I regret punching my card, I should have stayed a virgin.
     
  18. RandomStrangerOnEarth

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    I made my peace that I will more likely die as a virgin. I don't have my things together and it would be unfair to invest into a relationship and know that it won't be able to make long term. I mean there's hook-ups and such but that probably would lead to sex and create complications even if there's condoms, pills, and all that sort. I also recently been learning about God/Jesus. Many believe that sex is a right that you deserve because it is in human nature to procreate and possess a sexual drive from hormones. Sex is supposed to be a gift in which you give your entire body and soul to that person and you become one with that person. Sex is not love, but an act from love. Love is something that comes from the heart and an act of sacrifice for something wholesome. Dating is not for everyone I suppose and well there's probably fulfillment in other areas like good friends, family, interests, etc.
     
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  19. Oilioxxx

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    Am in the same condition with you and it pains alot
     
  20. Zapster21

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    My friend! You can improve!
    My life until 23 I was so insecure in myself. I never thought I would get a GF. Never thought I would have sex.
    I did not understand women at all.
    I did not lose my virginity until I was 23.

    Then I changed myself, took myself out there, got rejected like crazy, which took some real emotional strength.
    But I learned from it and applied the knowledge I gained along the way.
    Today at age 30, I have had sex more than 500 times.

    There are so many sites, Youtubers and dating coaches that help you improve your dating life
     

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