I’m 24 year old virgin should I hire and escort or go try to meet a girl

These are my axioms:

1. STD risk is everywhere —even with catholic girls, and I know what I am talking about.
2. Prostitutes are women, only difference is they charge you —many others give it out for free, but only to "bad guys".
3. A woman settles for you and now you can have the so long awaited marvellous intimate relationship with her, not just raw sex —you think she is wonderful, different, special but she is not, she has a high body count and now she will charge you, one way or another.

That is my pessimistic although realistic view.

So you want to be with a woman but you cannot find one, what will you do?

 

Hire a prostitute. I lost my virginity to a prostitute and I don't regret it at all. There is nothing to be ashamed of. I feel way better about that than I do about watching porn.

 

Get out there and find an amazing woman, that's what a real man would do. Escorts are for pansies.

 

Dude same I'm 25 and never had gf either...

 

Yes, I would if I were you. Get some practice in. I've had some great experiences with escorts.

When I was younger I wanted to lose my virginity to my 'first love'. So, I waited and waited. But I also masturbated all the time, which reduced my drive to meet girls. It was all a massive waste of time.

So yes, try an escort to build your confidence. You might need to try different ones before you find one you feel comfortable with.

 

You know what you guys? I don't need any relationship meaning a girlfriend because think about it, you may not know about if she's in a relationship with someone else, obsess with money all the time, expecting to buy unnecessary stuff for her. Freedom can be taken away and being manipulative. Also, anything could go wrong at any moment. For example, I watched deadly women aka female killers meaning that she kills a guy that who she's met and met another guy and kill him and so on. In my opinion, it's better to be single forever and have all the freedom that you want.

 

Yes brother, that is a true and good thing

 

Totally wrong opinion ok that's not true and I say in India that is not easy to lose virginity earlier and as soon as possible because it is not open culture country like foreign country

 

Lose your virginity with a woman you love. Give her the pleasure of doing that. And making sex does not make you more man then others. I lost my virginity with 17 with a girlfriend who i didn't loved and now she really dislikes me. I was stupid and ony thinked about sex, and his emotions. Now i must suffer from the pain i caused in her.

 

Being virgin isn’t an issue at all. You actually don’t have to disclose it so who cares ? There is this social pressure that tells you a virgin is lame (countless movies also) but if you are not needy and not obsessed by that night and day there is no reason for it to be true.
And if you are obsessed by it, it’s time to go nofap for a longer time.

Also it’s surely way better with someone you love. Otherwise you are using the prostitute as a sex toy, meaning you completely objectify the woman. I don’t think this is what fapstronaut thrives from.

On a side note, I read a lot of comments about stds, don’t you guys use condom with a prostitute ? Not doing that seems really dangerous and even less worth doing.

 

"Get rid of that damn virginity soon or it will become a real problem."

I do NOT agree with this at all. This kind of thinking is a result of our sick, modern society. You've never had sex... so what? You're 24 years old, if you go to a prostitute you will NOT feel good about it afterward! You'll go from being a virgin to thinking: "Man, I'm so pitiful that I have to PAY for sex."

I know, because that is the way I felt when I was your age. It caused a lot of mental illness that was completely unnecessary. This has been instilled in you by the dope, or I mean PORN peddlers everywhere. They are just as evil as dope pushers, and they are out to DESTROY YOU while hopefully getting all your money! Do NOT let them do that to you, don't be their fool!

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you simply because you have not had a sexual experience yet.

You don't seem to be thinking about the dangers of going to a prostitute. There are STD's, and prostitutes have sex with 100's of people. Not a very safe thing, even with condoms. If you're having problems with sex addiction you might just forgo any precautions. I have done it and I am very very lucky. I know people who are NOT so lucky. You could also get "rolled and robbed." You could be arrested and THAT would make your situation even WORSE. Think PMO is bad? Try having your name in the police report section of your local newpaper! This happened to a neighbor of mine 40 years ago. He was a naive 19 year old who solicited prostitution from an UNDERCOVER COP. It was very embarrassing to him and his family. Those were the days before a home computer was even available and EVERYONE read the paper! Today, they post mug shots on the web, which is even WORSE.

Sex is not a goal, and it does not define "manhood." Forget that nonsense, there is more to "being a man" than screwing around. It should be a way to bond with someone you really care about. Beside that, most women go into prostitution because they have very bad lives. Do you really want to keep them in that state by becoming a customer? No my friend, you won't want that or the regret that WILL HIT YOU be it an hour later or 20 years later.

 

"... don’t you guys use condom with a prostitute ? Not doing that seems really dangerous and even less worth doing."

All it takes is alcohol and drugs. You aren't thinking straight and you forget all caution. This happens to a lot of people, including myself when I was a stupid, young idiot. I was lucky. I know people who were not so lucky. One guy I knew started with a condom, couldn't get the feeling he wanted, then TOOK IT OFF and finished. He got an STD. Thank goodness this was back in the days before there was HIV.

So take some advice from this old man, do NOT go to a prostitute.

 

Sleeping with a prostitute won't give you some nirvana. It's not a bad thing to be a virgin. There are other sources of dopamine. Being happy and having a peace of mind is more important than having random sexual encounter.

I was about to visit a prostitute and recall posting the dilemma here. A friend advised me against visiting one and I'm so glad I followed his advice.

 

Can I just put my 2 cents in, as a woman here?
The right woman won't be put off by your virginity and even more so if you're honest about everything you've said here, she'll take things at your pace and make you feel comfortable.

Having had a fuck-buddy type deal with a guy who suffered with extreme ED in the past, it doesn't have to be an issue. Hell I wasn't even in a relationship with the guy, and to be honest he wasn't even really a close mate. He had difficulty maintaining an erection, but we just worked on it at his pace. Sometimes he'd have me stimulate his soft penis, Sometimes it came back, sometimes it didn't. If it didn't come back, we'd just order a take away, chat complete BS and he would head back home. A good woman won't make a deal out of anything. Besides, you never know, it may well be that everything goes a-okay.

As for the virgin thing. Again, that doesn't have to be an issue. I mean if my husband had told me he was a virgin when we met, it might have been a wee shock, but I'd still have married him all the same.

If you want to get a prostitute, then you do you. Just be safe about it. If however the anxiety stems from a worry that a woman won't be understanding, then know that the right woman will go with you.

The choice can only be made by you, but I just wanted to throw in my thoughts as a female.

 

It's a bit late, but clearly this is a thread that attracts a lot of attention. I was 24 when I lost my virginity. I truly regret the manner in which it happened. I carry that with me all my life. Seeing an escort is certainly a way to lose your virginity, and that's it. I cannot imagine how it would ultimately benefit you at all. Virgin or not, of all the stuff a guy could be doing with his life seeing an escort is one of the worst choices he could make. Just my two cents.

 

Why would hiring an escort fix the self-esteem issues from being a virgin? I'm assuming you feel this way because you feel undesirable to women. Maybe work on making yourself desirable? Because paying for sex isn't going to change that. Maybe you can't pull girls at clubs, find a girlfriend, or meet a nice future wife girl because you've developed into a boring person. I'd do some self-analysis, some research into seductive characteristics, and look at people you idolize and mold yourself around them.
Not saying this is true of you, but most people I know who are 24+ virgins (and some who are much, MUCH older) don't realize how boring they are, but they spend every second of their day at a boring job and then they go home and have boring, homogenizing hobbies like watching TV or playing videogames. Do you read challenging books so that you can express challenging ideas? Do you have some strange and irreplaceable skill like being able to draw well, or write well? Are you worldly and informed in topics such as world or domestic politics, art, or culture?
I think that's most of the problem most of the time.

 

You don’t need an escort, I was almost 30 when I lost mine to a woman I met off okcupid.

 

i am 29 years old still virgin, brother don't go to escorts there is high possibilities you will get sex transmitted diseases(good thing prostitution is illegal in my country).Find a girlfriend or get married that's the only way.if u couldn't, you choose the other way at least use condom

 

Dont visit an escort. Please...

 

If I was a single older man with a lot of money and in Vegas. It's a possibility. But I wouldn't consider it because the right woman will come around when you stop focusing on it. I consider it cheating the system and it would be unfair to woman when you find one. She never went out of her way, you don't need to.