Finding happiness, joy and freedom in celibacy

Celibacy is freedom.

 

@Onigiri: Yes! That's exactly the way I feel.
I've never thought that I could be happy with being celibate. But I tried NoFap for reasons, and discovered a whole new world. @Paulie567, yes, it is freedom for me, too.
Still I'm far away from calling me "celibate", but I'm commited to this and I'm practising every day.
Celibacy is not good for many people, I think, but at least we are three ;-). I have no idea where this attraction comes from, but it comes from very deep inside of me.

 

Some people are called to celibacy, it is a part of who they are deep within their soul.

 

I think this is a thread we should try and expand - especially for people like me who are very "Shakey" I feel being celibate does free me up to concentrate on other things - devote myself more to self-improvement with the distraction of sex - yet.... i do miss masturbation and the thought of never doing it again ... does scare me!

 

When you are a old man, what are you more likely to think, "I wish I had of masturbated more" or "I wish I had done more with my life"? Masturbation is a pointless activity that serves no purpose. I am on day 446, I can honestly say I no longer miss masturbation, it is something that I no longer think about doing and have no urge or desire to do it. The same can also be said of any kind of sexual encounter with another person, I have no desire or urge to and even more strangely I find the idea of sex to be somewhat repulsive (not in a nauseating way).

Celibacy give me the freedom to be fully me and the freedom to explore who I am at ever deeper levels, like pealing away the layers of a onion. It enables to to continuously improve myself, and learn the deeper things in life and in the universe.

I look at my friends who are not celibate, they are consumed by the day to day of life, they are fickle, and blown by the wind in every direction. Their lives have no deep meaning or purpose.

If I compare myself to the person who I was a few years ago, there is no comparison, all my friends say I am nothing like the man I used to be, and that I am a much better person now and that I talk and understand deep things.

Just my 2 cents worth that I have learnt on my journey.

 

so good @Onigiri and @Paulie567 Thank you for those thoughts. They are very helpful as I am just starting out. You hit the nail on the head @Onigiri about "the fear of missing out" - that is a large part of "being scared" I am sure.
I am also sure you are right @Paulie567 - the sentiment " I wish I had masturbated more .. " is unlikely I do want to concentrate on music ( trying to be a better piano player) reading and learning more and being truly "present" for my family. Masturbation and porn distract me from these worthy things.
So here is what I am telling my (scared) self - "give it a go" "let me to the 90 days for a start - there can be no harm in that" then if I feel better extend to 6 months then 9 then a year - we will see - but always recognising that it is TODAY that counts " I may well masturbate one day - but today is not that day" - say that every day!

 

Porn and masturbation are an addiction like any other addiction. All addicts are afraid of missing out on their next hit, they are afraid of missing out on all possible hits they could have if they quit. Quitting masturbation and porn is no different. Don't do it today, then when tomorrow is today don't to it that today either..... One day at a time, and you will overcome.

Also know how, and understand why you give into temptation. Understanding yourself is key in defeating your own weaknesses.

 

It is tough though sometimes. For example I am away with work at the moment, staying in a hotel. I soooo wanted to masturbate last night but I didnt. There was no big struggle but the underlying "pang" was there as if my body knew I was not going to do it.

 

Don't see the pang as something to be relieved, but as the power source, people talk about the powers of nofap and of semen retention. The pang you feel is the power, harness that power to achieve any goal you desire.

 

Thanks @Paulie567 that is helpful. Before the only way I could see to tackle those pangs of desire were either to shut them off completely ( if possible) or masturbate. An interesting way to think about it. I will try and use the Power today to work really hard in my meeting.

 

Using your sexual energy in this way is called transmutation.