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Welcome @HannibalM ! The thing I like about NoFap is that all of us are struggling or have struggled with exactly the same thing. We are all in different stages of recovery. You chose wisely by joining this community. You will find several people just like you who are actively trying to combat their addiction. There are many who have succeeded and have imparted wisdom as to how they did it. You will find many who are very low and need an encouraging word or two. I invite you to not only learn as much as you can and recover from your own addiction, but to also follow and encourage others along the way.

You can become the man you want to become. It’s not going to be easy. You must put forth the required effort. A lot of people start out with high hopes that NoFap will be the magic pill that cures them of their addiction. It can certainly help but you are the captain of your own destiny. You must put in the hard work. You must struggle daily to put PMO behind you one day at a time. It’s worth every effort. A bright future awaits you !

So welcome to NoFap! Let me know if I can help you get started or if you have any questions. Take care!

 

Honestly today I’m struggling a bit myself but being online here helps some.

I think you have the right attitude. I think you’ll do well here.

If you don’t mind my asking, does your wife know about your problem?

 

Yeah, that makes sense. At least you’re not hiding anything from her. Addiction thrives on secrecy.

What is the longest that you’ve been able to go without PMO?

 

A month is great. You’ll get back to what you used to do and even better.

I’m a seasoned veteran when it comes to recovery . I was addicted to P for several years but was able to overcome it 10 years ago. I literally haven’t looked at P once since. I struggle with the residual effects - I have a few fetishes that I developed back then that have crept back into my life. I haven’t been able to stay away from MO for very long. I joined NoFap last December because it was getting worse and worse. Since then I’ve seen a lot of progress. My longest streak is 99 days. I hope to be able to get there again before the end of this year. Days like today are hard. But I’ve learned that tomorrow is a new day and maybe I’ll wake up tomorrow with urges.

 

Thanks! Logically yes, if I’ve been there before I can make it there again. But the tricky thing about this addiction is when our brain is on overdrive and our logical brain stops working. That is the struggle for me. How can I keep my logical brain functioning and ignore my pleasure brain.

I have been able to meet a few people who share my same fetishes and it’s been nice to know that I’m not alone. When it comes down to it, I must treat fetishes just like P. If I look at them or fantasize about them, I’ll end up succumbing to MO. It’s actually been 1 year since I last indulged in them. So there is progress but yesterday I was feeling the urge to indulge once again. But those urges have occurred less frequently, so that has been nice.

Thanks for your encouragement. I think the best method for getting to any goal is to focus on getting past each individual day. The days will add up on their own if we focus on getting through today and today only.

You should consider starting a journal here under the logs section. I have one and it has really helped me sort out my thoughts and feelings. It also allows others to read about your journey and learn the lessons you are learning as well as offer advice and support. Just a suggestion. I hope you’re doing well and having a good day.

 

Wow, sounds high tech! Yeah, I used to do that in high stress situations too. Not anymore though (at least I hope I’m done with that behavior).

I’m at work too. I’m busy coordinating the construction of a new hospital.

Have a great day. You’re about to erase that zero off your day counter right?