I quite literally cannot do it

I hear ya..

 

Maybe if you set out what it was you are trying to give up, Porn, Masturbation or perhaps both.

There is lots of help on here, but I found one of the best things for me was to put my goals our there into the forum. There was a certain therapy in writing them and publishing them here for others to see.

Good luck and with help I'm sure you will be able to achieve your goals.

 

Hearin ya man, I think it’s partly because everywhere you turn there’s some piece of arse, cleavage or some other woman bits In your face... and if it’s not at the local shop it’s on TV or Social media.. sex sells.
To be honest I don’t think it’s really a problem when you’re wired right.. but when you’re in the initial phase of giving up PMO .. your not wired right and it makes it bloody hard.

If 3 days is your best.. only aim for 3..get them feel good about meeting your goal and immediately start again.. 3 days at a time..or do 3..masturbate without porn and then aim for another 3... just a thought?
Get it out of your system without the Porn bender (easier said than done)
Personally after just having relapsed after my 90 goal I think your better to not MO at all if you can manage it.. that’s where I’m headed this lap..it’s all trial and error..I just keep thinking other people do it..it is doable!

Also as far as 90 is concerned I found it did get progressively easier.. the last week was WAY nicer than the first week..still not easy but not like it feels when you’re starting out.
Hope this helps.. and best of luck

 

Whether you think you can, or you cannot, you are right!
-Some guy said something along these lines, forgot who!!!

 

You can do it, but your heart is still not into it. Look up all the texts related to the reboot. You'll find great tips there. However, you have to stick with one rule: I will never look at porn again in my whole life. You must stick to it and realise it.
Find the roots of your addiction. What is the strongest thing that makes you do it all over again? Think of it and then get rid of it. Step by step.
It's a process, and there's only a couple of people who just said, "I quit" and they did (althought it's hard for me to believe in). It's a process, a hard one, but it's worth it. Step by step. One thing at a time, but that one thing must never come back.

 

Absolutely this, for guys who were never addicted to pmo it's not a problem, think about back in the caveman days, we'd have seen naked or near naked women about the village everyday, we are hyper sexualised, hence why every little sexual cue is stimulating as all hell to us

 

Yes, you can do it. You can do it for three days. If you can do it for three then you can do it for four. If you’ve got a bad habit then you’ll probably not suddenly give up PMO. But what you can do is steadily lessen the grip PMO has on you. This may look like more and more streaks of freedom from PMO followed by relapses. But if you keep fighting, even when failing from time to time, then eventually you will be able to give this up forever.

 

If you can not do it, get people involved that can help you do it. That is how life works.
Real people, not internet people

 

U had early traumas .
Addictions are your way of dealing with your traumas so far.
Healing is possible .

 

You can do it. It does take some will power and changing some ways you have lived. I’m 6 weeks in since I had a relapse of 5 months. If you see any pictures that start to mess with you on the internet, QUICKLY get off phone. Also what has helped me is diving into the Bible, praying , and listening to sermons pretty often. Everybody has messed up, try to learn why you have messed up(the triggers) and learn from your mistakes and not repeat them. Also don’t beat yourself up too bad if you do make a mistake and relapse. I hope that helps

 

No one is forcing you to log on to porn sites. No one is forcing you to pull your pants down. And no one is forcing you to touch yourself.

 

You haven't done it SO FAR. Change your grammar, and find out the reason for not doing it yet. It can take a while, in my experience..

 

Hopelessness is a good place to be in my experience. Not the same as feeling good we all know pm+ "feels good" but we wouldn't be here if that were the whole story. For a little while I thought it was, years ago I decided to just use pm+ whene'er "I wanted to" and not feel bad about it, I discarded my many ideas about how bad it was and it felt like such a huge relief. I was so happy... for three days. The pm+ wasn't controlling me it seemed like, felt like I was doing it because I wanted to. But then came the question would I lie and not feel bad well "I can't see why not" and then asked myself could I apply the same logic to the question, which I had not thought or cared to ask since I was a little boy and accepted basic social contract as the way everyone was happiest, "what about at my job at the store could I take from the company and 'just not feel shame' about that?" And I couldn't say boo to it and it just kept going ad nauseum but I couldn't feel disgusted with myself or scared that I would do this I had no feeling aparratus left. I had dismantled it in order not to feel bad. That's not the end if the story thank goodness but I have to go so if you want to know what happened next pm me

 

Do you have access to the internet at home? One way to beat it is to lock away your devices or have a friend take them. Tell your parents it's a distraction if you live with them. Turn off and unplug your console or computer. Put the cables somewhere hard to get like outside in your shed or somewhere hard to get so when you get urges you'll have to go through all those steps and tasks and might disuade you from going through with it. worked for me. I legit did it. made it hard to access the porn sites and got through. And when you feel like you can use them again go get em. Try to abstain from the devices for more than 4 days.