Who would you be today having never used PMO?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Aghast, Apr 11, 2015.

  1. Aghast

    Aghast Fapstronaut

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    You'll never know, but you can find out who you will be.
     
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  2. KaiserKhan786

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    I would had been Son Goku
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  3. I don't know, but my friends and I figured that we might have cured cancer by now or invented the zero g car with all the energy we invested in PMO. I think I've used it all these years to deaden my feelings and to keep fear at bay. The more things I face the more I realized that there was never all that much there to fear. I wouldn't even look. So who would I be? I'd be maybe a better, braver, more helpful and compassionate version of what I am now (which is not all bad). I had a chat via email with a very old girlfriend recently and she mentioned in passing a couple hurtful things I had said to her way back when. She wasn't trying to make me feel bad, but I realized instantly what a jerk I'd been and I was filled with shame. Maybe I've been trying to escape that as well. Maybe I'll just end up being more authentic and kind. That will be enough.
     
  4. Well, for most of us we became aware of our porn problem early on. And even the one's on this forum in their 30s and 40s and the ones with children still have a ways to go in life. I say who cares about the past? Make tomorrow the greatest day of your life.
     
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  5. Alloallo

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    If I really look back at the mistakes I've made, it can be kind of a downer. I like to think that my failures will make the success I find in life even better. And also that I can be a better help to others struggling with issues I've worked through.

    Only live with regret if it empowers you to be better today and tomorrow. If you start to get down on yourself, then your mistakes are wasting even more of your time and it's time to let them go.

    Great thought and question to ponder.
     
  6. Andrew01

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    I don't know.All that time and energy that I wasted feeling shame and guilt,I could have used it to better myself,understand myself.I am on day 19 and for the first time i find that the things i used to fear aren't so scary anymore.I am talking about mundane things.I think that all along,I could have been me.
     
  7. not on this site,maybe doing something epic.
     
  8. Day 90. I have been here before. The mistake I have made in the past is not using this time to make changes, so that I don't fall back on the old friend, PMO. I have had a lot of insights over the last three months and the trick for me is to stay with them. When you start to come up to a new level, it asks things of you, mostly not to leave and go back. I get fearful. I chicken out. Not now. Be a man! What has worked for you??
     
  9. riis11

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    “Never look back unless you are planning to go that way.”
    ― Henry David Thoreau

    Stay Strong.
     
  10. Oh, that's good. thanks riis11!
     
  11. Nice quote. Although I would argue that it is helpful to review past experiences to learn from them. I try not to dwell on mistakes from the past, but do try to review them to avoid making the same mistakes again in the future.

    On one hand, I wish that I never got involved with porn. Without porn, excessive masturbation would probably have never been a problem for me. I wouldn't have been such a creep who couldn't talk to women and instead objectified them from afar. I probably wouldn't have been so out of shape I could hardly run a mile. I wouldn't have destroyed my relationships, gotten delayed ejaculation or PIED, and ultimately would have been a happier person during my teens and early 20s.

    That being said, being heavily addicted to porn spurred the creation of NoFap, a website that has helped thousands of people around the world. I'm sure somebody would have created something similar and many other PMO-recovery sites exist, but at the same time I think I am well equipped for this task and it is an honor to do so. If I was never addicted to porn, I wouldn't have been able to really help others quit porn.

    Additionally, who is stronger, somebody who has had to overcome an adversity, or somebody who has not? I would argue that through quitting PMO we are all becoming better, strong, more fulfilled people who will go off and do great things for humanity. We now understand what it is like to be comfortable with discomfort and we embrace long-term fulfillment rather than instant satisfaction. We embrace pain now, pleasure later, and now we're better equipped to level up the world.

    tl;dr - We're all stronger now. Now we have the tools to succeed in our various pursuits and level up humanity.
     
  12. cris1007

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    love the qoute
    and aghast be strong
     
  13. TitanUp

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    I'm replacing PMO with pokemon for the next 90 days. Hopefully I beat e4 gym leaders by then. :rolleyes:

    "Gotta catch em all!"
     

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