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Fetishising race

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Deleted Account, Oct 18, 2019.

  1. Everything is constantly evolving. Humans, animals, earth, myself, etc. Just because things change doesnt erase the history.
    Humans all began as a single race / color and here we are years now with a variety of colors. Our status now, doesnt negate our origins.
    I still dont see the issue or concern.
     
  2. vocalfry

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    If that is what you believe in, and or claim to be 'settled science', that's the extent of your views. Apparently what is taking investment of possibly trillions to force on the world, is just 'evolution' or something. If it was just evolution there'd be nothing to be concerned about. But you seemingly support it with... its historical and we were one so, what, should be one? We also apparently started as asexual amoebas in the primordial sludge. Ah but then we have feminism to drive us to those levels of sexual equality.

    At any point in this evolution, diverse species to all exterminated and one race thing as a cycle you see no concern about, did any of them have less rights to their body parts than an issuing corporation? The options on Transhuman evolution as, I guess you are more likely to see it, could well result in those kinds of issues. Some things you can buy you only actually purchase a license to use, along with obtain the hardware/hardcopy you are now allowed to use, already. Its a good thing more and more places are already teaching children, as early as possible to accept the transevolution, with parental rights being revoked to remove the child from the classes, eh?

    Just another step in the evolution. Baphomet transsexual or transhuman part owned kids. Good thing robotic wombs and artificial semen is being developed.
     
  3. fascinating thread. Like really awesome man!

    i have to say there is likely some partial truth to the myths that are suggested in porn —- for black guys porn depicts them as massive usually, redheads are wild, Asians are submissive....

    Obviously as generalities these are a stereotype that could be true but not always. As far as it affecting tastes —- yes of course. But real life is a lot more complicated than the category tags or poorly thought out categories Of a porn site.

    think about this :

    in Brazil there are lots of Asians who are Brazilian —- how would a porn site categorize them ? Or in Germany there are lots of Arabs who are essentially German after migration—- how would a porn site categorize them ? The same for Africans who migrated to Scandinavian countries ... the race or the assumed culture of a nationality is fluid in real life. But porn propagates stiff/unchanging stereotypes.

    at some point, after hours and years of buying into this bullshit categorization of people it likely affects you ....but those effects are subject to your higher cortex.

    You must decide if you are going to assume people are the way our sexualized-system is suggesting people are —- or if they are clearly very different.


    Love this topic!
     
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  4. Needforrealchg- thanks for your reply. I guess if we’re talking about categories I would say mine is, dark skin, dark hair and dark eyes regardless of race. I think I may have used the term “race” wrongly in the title.I’m from London and there are so many shades of people around that I don’t really see race to be an issue. Like you said how do you categorise people’s race. My neighbour is the son of a mixed race(Afro/Anglian) man and an Anglo English women, he’s lighter skinned than me-son of an Anglo man and a Spanish women.
    What I’m curious about is where the origins of my preference has come from. One of the guys in the thread mentions he has a preference for bbw. Maybe the thread should be titled “ what’s the difference between a fetish and a preference”. Like I mentioned earlier in the thread it seems like a fetish comes with a smattering of shame where as a preference is more natural rather than induced by a sick porn habit.
     
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  5. Well you might find your fetiche or fascination is just as strong if you are researching antropólogy or your family’s geneology. I am a mixed bag of ethnicities too, and find people pick my race according to the language I am speaking... (English, sp, fr, port).

    it might be you are fascinated with identity in general. From a sociologist perspective. I guess people watchers are essentially that.
     
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  6. I think your right mate. My interest in anthropology is definitely there. In your opinion do you think colour preferences are brought on by human interaction or porn. I only ask because if I won’t to pursue a meaningful relationship with a women of my taste it would feel disingenuous if it was because of porn. Maybe I’m thinking about this too much haha.
     
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  7. Our preferences are brought on by both. Probably even some Imprinting too.

    But to be fair ... marketing is a different kind of porn. Advertisements. Television. Media in general. But it’s not porn. But it DOES shape our tastes and views.

    I recall being in Mexico as a exchange student and all the billboards advertising products made sure the girls were blond and blue eyed. I remember my dad came to visit me and my girlfriend at the time was dirty blond and curly hair , brown eyes. And he says to me “she doesn’t look Mexican.”

    then I realized how effective mass media is. We changed our opinions of reality according to what we see not as easily the other way around.

    Btw I responded to my dad : “what does a ‘Mexican’ look like exactly?”

    Or in your case , what does a Brit look like??


    See . That’s my point. Race is a construct. And it’s designed to push evolutionary theory more than anything else. Just do the research into the colonizers to see it.
     
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  8. We are on the same page when It comes to categorising people into races due to misconceptions. I am well read and know a lot about colonisation. What I’m asking on the thread is if people’s opinions are that my preferences as a light skinned man are to that of only darker skinned women because of my porn use which was exclusively darker women. Cheers
     
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  9. mmm i hear you bro. I’m just saying it’s not porn as much as it is advertising. You arrive at porn with advertising’s effects on the brain.

    porn sells you what advertisers marketed to you.

    my grad studies are in consumer behaviorism and I find your thread fascinating either way. Hope you find the info you seek! Peace bro.
     
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  10. This is some great input man. I think this theory of advertising may fall short as my brothers, both the same “colour” as me and my friends, also light skinned don’t have this preference. Are you suggesting that I have seen different advertising than me or that I am more susceptible to it?
     
  11. Advertising is not brainwashing —- it’s influencing. The same holds true for politics and political campaigns designed to influence mass media.

    You are influenced to think a certain way, but you still have to decide if you accept the “tilt/suggestions”.

    In my personal opinion,
    I was trained by media to lust after the Scandinavian archetype...blonde blue eyes —- I was this way for a long time. But later in life I started to challenge where this “preference” came from and began to seek out different combinations. Today my preference is very different than what I was Conditioned for.

    Any African, Asian, European, Latino, Indian, country has some level of conditioning because of advertising or media. But I think the more you expose yourself to reality and question your preference the more likely you are to see variation in the preferences. People who are tribal in nature for example, are conditioned according to the tribe that they are encouraged to select from. Their conditioning is not as physical but it nevertheless it is very influential.

    overall, your preferences are the result of your exposure, experience, and your choices. A clone of you with different choices can have different preferences.
     
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  12. Get_It

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    I really dig White girls, but I don't consider it a fetish. I been accused of being White washed because of my politics by some minorities.
     
  13. Well there you have it, then its a preference. Nothing wrong with that, society is getting real politically correct and polarized so its all kinda getting blurry. I am also attracted to black girls as well, appealed to other races too but i am also appealed to black women as well. It was like this with me when i hit puberty, when i'd watch porn. Quit porn, 193 days porn and masturbation free, and its still like that with me. I am not fetishizing and im not ashamed of my preference either, relax, its all good.
     
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  14. I can really relate to your thoughts man. When I started watching porn the first thing I did was search for porn with black women in it and then continued watching it for many years after that. The ironic thing about it is that I live in a country that's about as white as the North Pole.

    I guess that in order to know whether you are simply attracted to a person of a different race/ethnicity or you have a fetish you have to ask yourself the question of whether your attraction to other races is based purely based on physical attraction or is it influenced by stereotypes?

    For example, there are girls that are attracted to black guys because they supposedly have big penises or because they want to make their racist parents mad. There also guys who like Asian girls because they are supposedly "submissive" and Latina girls because they are supposedly more "passionate". This kind of attraction is most likely indicative of a fetish as these kind of people are not viewing their partners as independent individuals but as some sort of racist caricature.

    I used to suspect for a long time that I had a fetish for black girls. However, after significantly reducing my porn usage I didn't experience any change in my preferences. But now I also realize that I have been confusing having a fetish with being open minded. Yes, I am still very much attracted to black girls but I'm also experience strong attraction towards White girls / Latina girls / Asian girls / Arab girls / Indian girls / Jewish girls / etc. And I experience attraction towards girls of other races not because of bullshit stereotypes but because I genuinely like them as individuals. Also, I would actually argue that while there are people who fetishise people of other races there is also the fact that racism is still prevalent in our societies to the point where any attraction to people of other races is often dismissed as "fetish" which is also pretty messed up.

    In conclusion, I believe that so long as you like girls for who they are and not because of stereotypes you should not be ashamed of your feelings OP.
     
  15. It is just categories that has been set in porn and porn is very racial.

    The thing is that it might be just a habit as far as gravitating towards certain race. If you do not feel the exact same with a real indian or black woman then you just gravitated to that kind of porn category. I'm sure many people indulge in lots of porn categories that they would not try in real life.
    Also it kind of makes you care too much about the race or ethnicity of a person and you might notice that the person you are with is not that special but you are with them because you conditioned yourself or you have always like a woman that is(insert ethnicity).
     
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  16. Rohanrecovery

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    Yes man I am the same. I am a light brown (medeterranean looking) guy and I am obsessed with black woman videos. Usually she is being degraded because of her race by white men.

    Fucked up shit
     
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