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My brain says “what’s the point of quitting if when you finally quit PMO addiction you’ll never.....

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Austin88, Oct 21, 2019.

  1. Austin88

    Austin88 Fapstronaut

    ... solve the underlying issues that made you be addicted to PMO in the first place. You’ll just end up addicted to PMO again or something else. So what’s the point of torturing yourself? NoFap doesn’t last forever and won’t fix your depression so you might as well fap anyway. Besides you’ll eventually relapse anyway because you’ll probably get a wet dream or get super triggered about something or even spontaneously fap and then all of your “self development” is lost and you’re back to being a loser.”

    Also just then “you will never be happy!”

    I think in third person hence the you, your etc.
     
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  2. You_ll_succed_for_sure

    You_ll_succed_for_sure Fapstronaut

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    Leaving PMO, will make you FREE.

    PMO generate depression, loniless, sadness. You need love, you need spiritual love, that curse depression.

    Keep doing your PMO, or start, and see what happening, you won't be deceived I guarantee you.

    And you're not a looser. Keep doing.
     
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  3. It's not all or nothing. Imagine someone eats unhealthily and gets no exercise every day. Then imagine they start eating better and exercising 90 per cent of the time. When they mess up they quickly get back on track.

    They also have more free time and energy now, so they have a little more ability to work on their underlying issues, challenging though that is.

    That's still a big improvement isn't it?
     
  4. T-72 M4

    T-72 M4 Fapstronaut

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    Did you think about sorting of your other problems in the same time when you're on NoFap?

    AA therapy relies both on soberity and repairing of your life. Read 12 step program and you'll see what I'm talking about.
     
  5. My experience vehemently disagrees.
     
  6. With that mindset, why do anything? We are all going to die one day so why even try? Might as well just curl up in a ball in the corner and wait for it to happen.
    Thats a terrible attitude. You can do and acheive whatever you want. Just have to get your mind right and get after it man. Stop with the victim mentality
     
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  7. You can have all the riches in the world, but if you aren't free in your mind, then you'll never be free in the first place. Porn will keep you shackled to the ground, in that deep dark place where everything seems boring and numb other than porn that is. Ultimately you'll end up as a jaded, empty shell of a human being, incapable of rational thinking and no passion for anything. Sure, underlying issues will come back to the surface once you quit, but they will come back even harder the more you postpone your healing progress of a porn free life. The sooner you start, the easier it is. And then you fix the underlying problems by facing them head on and perhaps get professional help.
     
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  8. mark_peter

    mark_peter Fapstronaut

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    Your developing a nihilistic mindset which is normal since u challenge ur mind to stop with something you did for a lot of years because of that it's normal that you create confusing thoughts like this one.
    If you do PMO and stop watching Porn, stop to fap you're doing urself a very big favor. NoFap is just the start but it goes way deeper than that because u'll coming back to ur manhood and gain control back over ur fucking life.
    Stop looking for excuses and start it. What's the point saying there is no point when you didn't even try??
    It's like a heroin addict saying a sober life isn't worth it even though he never experienced a sober life.
    You have to do it and endure the process and the pain that comes with it, by that you'll grow, become stronger and become a different man.
    But you have to do it.
     
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  9. BigOne79

    BigOne79 Fapstronaut

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    A sexual addiction is something that will not be healed immediately. Younger guys on this site are getting quicker benefits because they only masturbate because they are horny and want to let one out. There are a lot of guys and older ones that fap to feel better about themselves. They have other issues and the length of addiction will make it harder to quit.

    A sexual addiction (such as to porn) takes there years along with other types of sexual addiction to heal. I am one year in and I am happy that I have not MO for a year. I have looked at p subs and some edging early on that I am getting under control. I am hoping that the next year brings me more clarity to trauma I had growing up. If you are not feeling good after stopping PMO you have to take initiatives to make yourself better to who you want to be. Your health, personality, career, the way you take negativity and bad things happening in stride rather than getting angry and thinking it will never end.

    You can do it but will take time and the emotions you feel will suck but we have to accept them and not push them away from us..
     
    Last edited: Oct 23, 2019
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  10. Fenix Rising

    Fenix Rising Fapstronaut

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    “Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain.” - Vivian Greene
    It's true most of the people are addicted to something to cope with life, but that's no way to live life. I truly believe that accepting the pain and suffering is prerequisite to living fulfilling life. Life is like a weather, you have sunny, rainy and stormy days. There's no point it bitching about it as you have no control over it. The only things you can possibly control in life are your own thoughts and actions. Addicted man doesn't control either. It's your choice, either you learn to control your mind or let it control you. You start learning how to control your mind by practicing determination, discipline and perseverance, all the things we lacked as an addicts. Once you start implementing these virtues into your daily life, you'll realize practicing self-discipline on daily basis doesn't restrict you, on the contrary, it frees you from being a slave of your own cravings. I'm not just talking about addiction here, it's true in general.
     
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